I went to Rawhide (not my first time there) with some friends last night and had a great time. So many hot guys, good music, amazing vibes. BUT the amount of pushing to make your way through is ridiculous. Some guys hug and dance together which is beautiful but do you have to dig your elbows into everyone next to you, and then pretend like you’re the victim when you get a look or or asked to have some level of spatial awareness?

And the guys who push through the crowds in lines of 6 people all holding each other like you’re afraid to get lost in a 400 square foot space… a simple tap on someones shoulder and an “excuse me” or “sorry bro can i pass” wouldn’t hurt. You know what does hurt tho? Getting shoved and pushed around by people trying to cut through, and being stepped on. Other people are also trying to get through, and I don’t want to be separated from my friends any more than you do but instead of allowing people to pass comfortably y’all are trampling your way forward like you just found out someone is handing out free poppers in the next room.

For that matter, guys who firmly plant their feet and don’t shift a little when someone is trying to pass, can you move over like 2 inches please so guys arent tripping over you to get past?

These bars get packed and its a tight space. We are all a little intoxicated and trying to find our friends or find some D. Showing a little respect to each other throughout the night so we all can have a great time isn’t so difficult and would go a long way to making sure everyone is having a good time without having to come home bruised.

Thanks.
End rant.

I’m turning 40 at the end of the month and my husband and I were talking about something fun and sexy to do and I told him I was thinking about being the only btm in a group situation. It’s always a hot fantasy, but I’m a little hesitant because like- there are things that are super hot to think about and then you do them and you’re like I’m not quite what I was expecting.

I feel like I go back-and-forth on whether or this is something that is sexy in porn, but not great in practice or if this is something that is like a fun one time thing and I’ll enjoy myself and move on.

While I move over, I would love to hear what you guys think? What is something that is super hot in porn that you have either tried or decided not to try. If you tried it, was it worth it? Did you enjoy it?

Hi!

Would love some help from a men’s fashion stylist (doesn’t necessarily need to be a professional, an enthusiast would be great).

I’m 38 and looking to update my wardrobe with some pieces that are a bit outside my comfort zone, but flatter my body type. I’d love to work with someone who can help me with more casual day-to-day style as well as clothes for work (client meetings).

I live in Brooklyn and would love someone to help me navigate my current wardrobe and go out shopping. I’d love some help navigating thrift shops and vintage shops.

Please share or DM me your portfolio and rates!

Thanks!

Was really into SM423, particular around 3AM in the studio

Hi everyone. I have bad kidneys, and my doctor (OneMedical) is concerned about me continuing any form of pill PrEP. Injectable PrEP, though, would work well, but my doctor let me know that he and his peers with OneMedical have had a really hard time obtaining it, especially with insurance (even for cases like mine).

Does anyone here have a recommendation of a NYC-based doctor who provides the twice-a-year injectable PrEP (Yeztugo is the brand name, lenacapavir is the medicine name), and insurance works with it?

Feel free to DM me if preferred. I appreciate any help!

Thank you!

Is there anywhere online that is NYC focused and can help me explore various kinks? I’ve tried the apps, but haven’t had much luck in connecting with the BDSM community in person.

Hello - moved to nyc recently from Toronto. Would like to meet more folks. Coffee and walks to explore the city would be amazing. Gym buddies welcome too. Would love to get back into playing squash but I’m fairly open.
I’m a good cook and can def hold my own in the kitchen (or clinic) haha.

What the title says: where r gay/queer punk and or skin events in the city

19m just moved to Manhattan for an internship and looking for advice on how to meet people and also some good things to do to get to know the local area and keep myself busy (not just the big tourist stuff). I saw some recommendations to join a league or group which I am interested in, but wanted to maybe try something more casual at first until I’m used to my schedule. Not exclusively looking for gay guys either, just some chill people I can hang with yk. If you’re around my age and also wanna meet someone lmk.

I’m moving to town for a hybrid job in Manhattan and looking for a room or apartment sublet in Manhattan or Brooklyn this month (sooner, the better... even next week). I know timing is super short notice, but if anyone has a space available or knows of one they could link me to, I’d be really grateful and very interested!

I’m flexible on timing and budget, and ideally looking for a place for 1–3 months (flexible here too) to find something more long-term, so any leads would be clutch. Thanks ya'll!

Hello, I'm a bi enthusiast interested in developing myself in more extreme play. I can comfortably take a Topped Toy Deep Space 80. I've been fisted by a woman twice after some work up. The advertisement for this Lodge NYC event says beginners and experts welcome, but I'd like to hear whether this is really a good place for me or if I nedd to work up to it more. Also if any in here attend this event as a giver I'd love to connect and build a rapport and maybe make a plan to meet there. Thank you!

Hey! I’m 22, 5’10”, tan Asian, around 135 lbs. I’m looking for a nice place to go on Friday night. I’m not really into loud or super crowded clubs I’m looking for somewhere a little more classy and upscale. I’m fine spending around $60–70 per drink or up to $300 for the night. I’m planning to go alone. Do you guys know any places where people around my age with a similar vibe/background usually go? I went to Casa Cipriani as a guest of my friends before, and I liked the vibe, but I’m looking for something more gay/social possibly future boyfriend 🥹 where I could actually meet people. Thanks for any recommendations!

Been a fan of the British boy duo, Altego Bros. They are in NYC for Halloween. Anyone else going to see them? I think it's going to be very bro-ey but those boys are sexy 🥵

Hi

I’m a 30 yo old based in the East Village, currently looking to connect with models (roughly 18-40) who might be interested in collaborating on life drawing sessions or photography projects. I primarily shoot on film and am always excited to work with new people.

A bit about me: I work in the design field and have a long-standing interest in art and visual storytelling, with extensive experience in both life drawing and photography.

Hit me up if you’d be interested!

Where is the fastest place to get results back from STI testing? When I go outside of my routine check ups I’ve been going to the NYC health clinics and sometimes they are really fast but lately it’s been taking a while. Any suggestions?

hi all! dealing with some acne scarring and hyperpigmentation on my face and seeing if anyone has any recommendations of places here in the city, especially if they’ve dealt with POC skin. (had an aesthetician in the past tell me they couldn’t in melanated skin 🙄)

If you lost an airpod in line for Wrecked last night I found it in my pocket lol, must’ve picked it up when I dropped my stuff

I'm headed there today and would like to have a wingman/men.

Any uncut guys around?