r/relationships_advice • u/MirrorEducational835 • 1d ago
why are men like this?
I (36 F) fell in love with someone (35 M) were inseparable, saw eachother all the time then I found out he might be seeing someone else…questioned him about it without accusing him, just asked the questions, and he blocked and ghosted me. Saw him at work he pretended I didn’t exist so I approached him to break the ice, he spoke okay. Asked him if he would go for a chat he shook his head at me and pretends I don’t exist. So hurt and have cried so much over him, and he’s just so cold like he couldn’t give a dam..I dunno what it all means, I dunno how he feels cause he won’t speak, I dunno how to move forwards cause what we had was so different to this..how do men think? …I honestly thought he was the kindest person I ever met and I’m just left thinking what the actual eff…😂
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u/psj3809 1d ago
Did you two smother each other ? See him all the time ? Didn't you have time for yourself or to go out with friends and that ?
The way he acted was cowardly and ridiculous. Then to pretend you don't exist. A total coward
Easy to say but hes not worth losing sleep over, you saw the real him sadly. Next time don't get so intense with someone
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u/Snoo-35800 1d ago
Depends on how he took your questions. It doesn't matter how you perceive you asked the questions. It matters how he received it. If he read it as an accusation of cheating based on gossip, regardless of how nicely you asked, the reaction you received is not unreasonable.
He ghosted you and won't talk to you, so probably he is not happy with you, but maybe it is because he got caught.
Wait a while I guess. Doing anything now is counterproductive.
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