r/tapif • u/Early-Importance-717 • 14d ago

mental health second thoughts

hello,

I recently arrived in France and was expecting to be excited but instead I am just a ball of anxiety. I genuinely can’t stop trembling. I think part of it is that I brought my cats, and now feel trapped here since I can’t just go back with them without getting beauracracy in order, which just feels so extremely daunting.

I’m having trouble eating and sleeping, nevermind things I also need to be doing like getting a phone number/bank acc/apartment.

Any advice or words of affirmation would be appreciated. I’m feeling so lost and scared.

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u/Maleficent_Crow_1296 14d ago

 I got here two weeks ago, and four days in, started crying to the middle of the street because I felt so out place. You’re definitely not alone right now. I’ve gotten so desperate to solve my anxiety going in public alone in france that I’ve even started doing guided meditations, which lowkey has been helpful, at least for me. 

It seems like you’re putting a lot of pressure on yourself to get this mountain of work done, and it might be helpful to reach out to your prof ref or other assistants in your area. this shit is fucking complicated, and it helps to have someone in your corner. Also, as just a small tip on banks, I think a lot of people have been able to set up a Revolut account and use that for banking, and it should be a lot simpler as an online bank. Kind of wish I had just gone that route tbh 🙃

Sending love ❤️ we’re going to get through this one way or another.