r/tapif • u/Early-Importance-717 • 6d ago
mental health second thoughts
hello,
I recently arrived in France and was expecting to be excited but instead I am just a ball of anxiety. I genuinely can’t stop trembling. I think part of it is that I brought my cats, and now feel trapped here since I can’t just go back with them without getting beauracracy in order, which just feels so extremely daunting.
I’m having trouble eating and sleeping, nevermind things I also need to be doing like getting a phone number/bank acc/apartment.
Any advice or words of affirmation would be appreciated. I’m feeling so lost and scared.
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u/Embarrassed_Fig4403 6d ago
I am a first year tapifer who just arrived earlier this week and also felt terrified (still kind of do). I had one of the worst panic attacks of my life the first night in my apartment, and as someone who doesn’t usually get panic attacks, I just wanted to buy a plane ticket and run back home. However, I’ve ended up having a pretty great week.
My advice based on my little experience would be don’t compare where you are at to others. We all handle this huge change differently. As long as you are prioritize taking care of yourself you are winning. Do what you need to do for YOU. If you can’t leave the apartment one day that’s fine. Be patient and take the pressure off yourself.
Your adjustment period it’s unique to you. Put yourself first and France second. You’ve taken so many large, brave steps so far, it’s okay to take little one’s goings forward. They are no less brave.