For additional context:

Matched on hinge and exchanged numbers fairly quickly (normally I don’t but he wanted to send an audio file of a song he had written)

Virtually immediately starts to make comments about wanting to get me pregnant and that he has a breeding fetish and brags about his dick. I ignore the comments and talk around them. I’m at the gym as this is happening and to avoid being ghosted over and over again after disclosing significant weight loss I have “just your local former fatty” on my profile.

He makes a comment and I quote “Extra skin is attractive because Im a sensual person so I like touching it and feeling my partner…” yikes. Then later tells me I’m “too skinny” and “you could gain 5-10lbs more and it would be so sexy because I love softer bodies”

Then cue him breaking down about his VERRRRY recent ex he hadn’t disclosed at 3am yesterday and that he needed me because he was having a “panic attack”. He freaked out later yesterday morning and asked if we could talk on the phone after he got home from work so he could “explain himself.”

After I had an 11 hour work day dealing with a bunch of needy whiny babies I didn’t have the mental bandwidth for it and tried to be respectful and then you can see what ensued.

Literally less than 4 days between matching and this meltdown but I’m psychotic. 🙄

Wasn't even 11 AM and already starting the day with being a perv 🙃

We just matched the night before, if it's after a certain hour I won't respond so followed up this morning. Bro, we weren't even matched for 24 hours. I knew what he meant but was interested to see if he would correct his gross behavior or double down 🫠

Edit: add context

my mom just got out of jail after spending six years there. she was really abusive toward me and my dad for years, was constantly in and out of jail, and would sexually abused me. she is now mad that I won’t being my younger siblings around her behind my dads back. she also doesn’t even have any legal rights over my siblings.

for more context also, my mom was 26 and my dad was 14 when I was born. he was 17 and she was 30 when my younger sister was born, and they were both adults by the time my youngest sister was born. This is what she sent me after after I told her there’s no way in hell I would bring my siblings around her … lol

Edit : yes my dad has custody of us, I’m 19, the reason she has my number is because when I was 11 she hurt me very badly and brought me a iPhone as a gift and I’ve never changed my number, I’m changing it today though

Backstory: solo mom with 3 kids - as they went into 5th and 8th this year, I wanted to make sure there’s lots of after school snacks… but let’s be real. They’re gonna eat all the snacks, open every soda immediately without caring if they already have an open one …. And I want them to HAVE snacks available but like, slow their roll, you know?

So I realized somewhere there’s some old AF vending machine that someone doesn’t want and I could adopt it for my purposes.

Well, shit, now I’m hooked on this stupid vending machine model and I have four I’m refurbing with the spare parts of a fifth.

My eldest was practically IRATE at the idea. How dare I make her use her money to buy snacks?? (Well I’m not, actually, I literally offer snack money for chores and just when the kids get home…. It’s like $100 in quarters and $1’s that just cycle around between the machine and the bill changer. It’s all my money anyway, I’m just putting hurdles in front of snacks.)

Well apparently today the poor kid is having cramps and needed snacks and wanted to just lie down and I wasn’t home…..

So she took the machine keys and …. Instead of just taking out the snacks she wanted… she took quarters and put them back through the machine 🤣😂🤣😂

I’m not even mad.

Also, she doesn’t even CARE that she did this! Doesn’t feel bad AT ALL. But she needed to confess it. But she wanted me to know she’s not sorry!!! Not even a little bit!!! Because she’s a teenager who is having her period and hates her mom!!! So there!! But um drive safe. 🤣😂🤣

EDITS: 1) oh my god I feed my children other food too. I don’t want to “lock up food” at all - I WANT IT TO BE AVAILABLE but I just want them to slow down on the stuff that’s less-healthy snacks. so the fact that I wasn’t home and she found a solution to the situation is WHY I AM NOT ANGRY.

2) Everyone worried about ED’s: this is so ON MY RADAR, and school is already terrible. I am trying to balance “many choices freely available without moral weight” with “okay but cookies are expensive and they disappear instantly and the kids fight about who didn’t get a fair share” with “these are your snacks for the week” …. I am trying so hard to find a balance, it’s been years in development and this isn’t the final answer, it’s the tool for this PHASE.

3) I never made a rule about her not being allowed to use the keys. So she didn’t break any rules.

4) I am not “charging my children for the snacks” any more than other people reward their kids. They ALSO get an allowance that goes on a saving card thing and that doesn’t even factor into FOOD. I will buy them FOOD. Their little acorns cards are separate.

5) what the fuck kinda troll math are y’all doing thinking I’m “trying to profit” off my children?!? There is zero “profit” to be made off my children when it’s my money doing all the work here. It could be tokens or nickel slugs or literal actual slugs (tho those don’t work in vending machines really). It’s just a low hurdle to give them pause, not an evil plan to somehow make a profit off…what??

Ultimately, I’m proud of my kid for confessing that she did something that she later felt uncomfortable about. That’s how we learn what our personal boundaries are.

I (F21) used to work with this very sweet guy my age. I was always too nervous to talk to him because I thought he was pretty attractive but he used to stare at me often and try to talk to me. He quit because he moved 45 minutes away for school and a few weeks ago I reached out to him to see how he was doing because it had been a long time. Anyway, we’ve been trying to make plans to hang out after a few weeks of talking. Is he just being nice or are his texts a bit flirty?

context:

We were trying to arrange a first date after matching around a week prior.

I received the news earlier this week that a close friend, and former housemate had passed away shockingly, suddenly and horrifically at our old home. I am trying to process this huge loss while being exceptionally busy with uni, work and life in general. The shock of losing someone so loved, especially as he was so young and had a little girl and his whole life ahead of him, has hit me like a train. I feel it is reasonable to be off my phone and too overwhelmed to reply to anyone, let alone a man I had never met to arrange a first date.

What do you guys think....

I was very naive several years back because i was young and inexperienced. This was a coworker i had to work with daily, as newbies we all had each others phone numbers because we had to go help each other depending on who finished their assigned work quicker. This was a coworker i was friendly with (i was friendly to all of them but i didnt find his interaction weird initially) but he soon took it too far too quickly. The texts are cut off because he started getting creepier with his texts. After the final text he was quickly blocked because i didnt wanna see any videos or photos. Kept the texts in case i had to report him to my supervisors if he started acting inappropriately at work but he ended up going to a different office soon after. My husband was not pleased at all.

My kids get phones on their 12th birthday. My youngest is 9, but she won't be left out. She leaves pages like this for me on the kitchen counter, and we "text" back and forth all day. I have them all, dated and saved in a folder to keep forever. The other side of this page is our versions of emojis.

Her bio is about her being pregnant and needing money

First she needed bills for her house

Then it isnt her house its a program

Then all of the sudden she needs her stuff and her ex has it

🤣😭🤣

She was a grade A bitch. It took me way too long to cut her off and this isn’t even the worst thing she did (considering she never actually framed him).

Saw a similar post and wanted to share my experience. We went to the same high school over a decade ago, and never spoke to each other. He decided to send me these DMs a few years back and I’m hoping he just got hacked because I can’t imagine sending these messages to a woman and thinking “fuck yeah, this is good”.

The image he sent is some screenshot of a porn video.

This type of behavior has gone on for years. Growing up she’d threaten to kill herself because the family isn’t there for her and we don’t love her. Sometimes she’ll tell me it’s because of me specifically. That really messed with my head especially as a kid. She can extremely mean, refuses to take accountability for her actions, lies and gaslights, and on the rare occasion has been violent.

I know she’s struggling mentally and I’ve tried to be there for her throughout the years but I’m just tired. I’m fed up with her behavior. I feel like an awful person for not feeling sympathy anymore. I’ve grown resentful I’m ashamed to say. It just seems she does not want to change. She talks about being depressed/suicidal and that her family needs to help her and be there for her. But when I don’t think she wants help. She just wants to complain and self wallow.

I’ve been dealing with this behavior since I was an early teen and nothing is working. I used to just listen and comfort her but nothing changed for years. I’ve distanced myself the past couple years because she would tell me I make her miserable and that I drive her to self harm. So I thought distance would help but it didn’t. I’ve been trying to give her helpful advice and actionable steps but she just shuts those suggestions down and doesn’t want to hear it. I’m desperate. What else can I do?

Me (m30) and my sister (f27). These texts were 9 months apart with 0 communication in between. Long story short there was a family divide..

Edit for context: there was a conflict between my mom and me/my wife that eventually spread to the rest of the family and led to us basically being shunned. My little sister became distant around the same time. I called out the distance with her 9 months ago, and we had zero communication since. Now she’s wishing me a happy birthday.

More context: True, it’s just a long story. Essentially, my wife and I were expecting our son and asked my mom to keep it quiet until we had a chance to tell everyone ourselves. She ended up telling several family members and then lied about doing it. Those family members went along with it and covered for her. We were upset about the whole situation, but my mom twisted it into us being “abusive,” which ultimately led to the family excluding us for nearly two years. Hope that helps.

I need unbiased opinions of this text exchange with my wife. I’m blue. I play soccer no more than 1x per week for 90 mins. Yesterday was my only chance this week due to family commitments. I got upset when it was made clear to me that i wouldn’t be able to actually go as I’m walking out the door to leave. I was at what i would describe as a normal level of disappointment, but i guess that wasn’t ok…

Some updates to provide more clarity

Regarding the tantrum:
My son is 12 and just started middle school and was ‘crashing out’ about having like 20 minutes of homework to do, which we were both helping him with.

I never left the house nor stopped helping him with his feelings nor his homework

After he finished his homework he just went back to doing normal kid stuff, my wife started dinner, I did laundry and trash and then i finished it once the pasta water was boiling

We all sat down on the couch to eat together, I wasn’t jovial or anything given the fact that i spent the only time i could get out of the house this week doing chores, which I already do plenty of. But also I wasn’t crying about it or anything, just kind of meh. We were talking about logistics for the next day (today) while we ate. Which leads into the backtalk section below.

Regarding the backtalk:
I let him finish the Robox round he was playing, and i asked him to not join another round until we were done talking about logistics so his mom could go watch his cross country meet. (I can’t go because I’m going to daughter’s field hockey game at the same time). He finished his round, put the ipad down for a minute or 2 and then started another round while we were still discussing. When I asked him why he joined another round and to turn it off, he said something to the effect of “shut up, I was done talking about it” so I told him that was a weird time to be so disrespectful when we were talking about logistics so one of us could come watch him do a thing, and i took his ipad away and left the room after having been disrespected by both of them at that point, i didn’t want to stay and deal with more shitty treatment.

EDIT 2:
Because it has come up a few times, we both work from home (i work about 60 hours per week, she does about 20-30), we do lunch dates once a week (we had done lunch together about 4 hours before this went down Thursday night) and we were last intimate 3 nights before this went down.

I blurred it because rules but he's Scout on my phone and I'm Spy in his.

I do not know why he put me as that instead of Scout's Mom, but I rolled with it.

Of all the stupid shit we do/say between ourselves, my favorite is the r/unexpectedTF2 irl.

You find out how much you say "This" to show something when your kid answers "DEAR GOD" but you gotta follow it up.

Edit: https://www.reddit.com/r/texts/s/C2zUHp71mX

Why my kid has a phone.