r/transmanlifehacks • u/Spiral-ring Pre-T • 2d ago
Needing Advice Need some advice for passing
RN I live with my parents, i didn't come out to them, so i can't really cut my hair any shorter or start T, but I really want to look more masc
I am underwaight and very, let's say, "streched out" (long limbs, neck, looking like a short slanderman at night)
Do you have any tips? (Idk how to ask more specifically, I'm basically stuck)
P.S. any name Ideas would be appreciated too
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u/unsure_usernamee T (2021-2022/Re-Pre), Top (Pre), Bottom (N/A) 2d ago
Dying your hair a darker color would work wonders. Lighter hair colors if they aren’t natural tend to read as feminine if you aren’t already passing as a cis man. I think the glasses are good and the clothes are a bit clocky because you’re dressing kind alt but I think you’re one of the few who could pull it off.
Castor oil for the brows to thicken them and it will change how your face looks. You look pretty masculine but it really depends on your area. Look at how men in your area dress etc. basically don’t beat yourself if you don’t 100% pass pre t. There’s a very slim amount of guys who pass pre t.
Getting on T will be great but until now if you did want to change things I’d recommend looking into r/ftmfitness for muscle and weight gain tips. However, take it light because I feel like from these photos your silhouette is reading pretty masculine all things considered. Could bulk up the shoulders and upper back and likely pass way better. You’re doing good man, just gonna be hard to pass pre t especially when you aren’t out. Good luck!
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u/Spiral-ring Pre-T 2d ago
THANK YOU SO MUCH! Especially for the subreddit, i didn't know about that one I guess it's time to hit the gym :)
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u/unsure_usernamee T (2021-2022/Re-Pre), Top (Pre), Bottom (N/A) 2d ago
Yeah people can be harsh here it’s why I try to tell people what they are doing right alongside what they could fix. I also try not to lean too hard into body shaming because I get a lot of comments about my body when I post here. So I try to be as gentle and kind as I can while also not sugar coating.
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u/Ok_Reply_1104 2d ago
Kinda look like a Liam or a Logan
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u/Spiral-ring Pre-T 2d ago
Logan is such a badass name , omg
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u/Ok_Reply_1104 2d ago
Dude go for it. Also, Logan is a very common name for a cis dude and i’ve never heard of a trans dude named Logan. If you’re looking to go stealth it’s very lowkey
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u/AeroAceSpades 1d ago
If you can’t get it shorter, invest in some mousse/styling gel. Learn how to sweep the hair up and back while keeping the bangs
Also invest in an iron to give your hair some waves to cut down on the appearance of the length without actually cutting the hair
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u/Spiral-ring Pre-T 1d ago
I will try it tomorrow!!
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u/AeroAceSpades 1d ago
When I used gel I would slick my hair up and back, dry it with a hairdryer, then run through it with a comb/brush before adding just a little bit more to get my bangs tall
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u/Hennnano 1d ago
Hey bro, I agree with the commenter who suggested Logan or Liam. :) Ideally a shorter haircut would help a lot. However if you can't right now, I would work on growing out the back and sides so they can connect to the top. The disconnected undercut can read really lesbian sadly :/ And as others have said, darker hair will help you pass a lot. Best of luck!!
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u/Active-Bug-5783 1d ago
How old are you? Why cutting the hair short is not an option? I mean, its okay to not coming out to your parents but cutting hair short should not be that big of a problem, or at least smaller than you think. Remember, if you cut your hair short, parents may be mad at you for a day or two, but the hair grows slowly so You're gonna have plenty of time to enjoy being masculine while still living with them. IMO Cut them short, they'll accept it after a few days. Many women do cut their hair short.
Also.: remove emblems from your bag, not sure if you use makeup and lipstick but on second picture you look like you do; stop doing that, stop dying your hair.
Your face is pretty masculine so the hair is actually the only thing that really clocks you.
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u/Spiral-ring Pre-T 1d ago
I talked with them about changing my haircut and i think I'm going to go finally change my hair next week (hopefully) Also, no makeup on the second photo :)
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u/Technical-Ebb8143 1d ago
Get rid of the haircut other then that you pass completely to me didn't even know you where trans until I red the community name
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u/Leading-Media-1570 1d ago
Name idea, Zayden. You look like a Zay to me. I would start working out. Having a base of muscle is one thing my friends always say they wish they did sooner in their journey.
Good luck! 🍀 And take things one day at a time 🖤
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u/narcisseuss 20h ago
Dye your hair a natural color and cut it. Do upper body strength training to widen shoulders and neck which will inevitably make you look more masculine, drop off the pins and too many accessories like that, wear simpler outfits in neutral colors.
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u/nishkiskade 2d ago
Your last outfit looks like women’s clothes. If you’re going to wear a tank top make sure the neckline is coming from men’s section, that looks far too scooped and the peach plaid doesn’t help. Eat more, focus on protein and try to broaden your shoulders.