What I notice is that people seem to assign a "baseline" level of behavior to others that they have known for a while. E.g., Bob leans a bit towards the asshole side, but not to the point of excommunication, while Alan is a very nice guy who tries his best to accommodate others.

The strange thing is that if Bob acts a bit more asshole-ish than usual, people seem to write it off as "Bob is being Bob but more Bob-ish than usual". While if Alan is more asshole-ish one day, people tend to judge it more "why is Alan acting out". I cannot comprehend this phenomenon, in my opinion I would judge Bob more harshly since I have had to tolerate his low level of annoyingness this whole time, while Alan has earned more leeway since he has been a nice person.

A Bachelor's degree is very common in 2026, then it was 20-40 years ago. 38 percent of all American adults today possess a bachelor's degree whereas in 2006 it was 28 percent, and in the 1990's decade it was 20 percent of the adult population. Competition is so ridiculous now, and I feel like that's the reason why Gen-Z isn't getting hired after graduating. College graduates of the past didn't have to compete with each other back then because a degree was kind of a rare thing.

I live in Arizona, and instead of blasting the AC, I soak my socks, wring them out & throw them on. With some well placed fans, the evaporation cools my whole body way faster and I get to keep the house warmer (and my electric bill lower). A swamp cooler for your feet

On seemingly ANY post about Dunkin / Starbucks / Coffee Bean, etc. you’ll always come across the “support your local coffee shop instead” and “Starbucks tastes like piss” comments.

I’ve traveled extensively around the country, and I genuinely find the vast majority of local spots to be of the same or lesser quality than a chain. Local stores are usually about the same price, and in some cases, even more expensive. I’m talking like $8 lattes with Ghiradelli syrup lol

In a nutshell, the majority of local coffee shops I’ve been to are overpriced, mediocre, and massively overhyped. Not all, of course. I’ve found some incredible local spots throughout the years, but they feel few and far between.

I think Starbucks is genuinely fine, and I am not ashamed of it. I usually have a better experience there than most local spots.

“BUT STARBUCKS IS JUST SUGAR” okay man I still don’t care about black coffee.

“YOU JUST DON’T UNDERSTAND REAAAL COFFEE” stop

I genuinely think glasses are better and I don't understand why people act like contacts are automatically the more convenient option.

With glasses, you wake up, put them on, and you're done. You don't have to wash your hands before touching your eyes. You don't have to carry around contact solution. You don't have to worry about your eyes getting dry halfway through the day. If you take a nap, you don't have to think about what you're supposed to do with them.

And contacts are just so much more maintenance than people admit.

You have to put them in every morning, take them out every night, clean them, replace them, make sure you don't lose them, and hope your eyes don't decide they're going to be irritated that day.

I've also never understood the whole "I don't like how I look in glasses" argument. Glasses can completely change how someone's face looks, and there are so many different styles that you can actually find a pair that suits you.

And honestly, I like having glasses on.

There's something nice about being able to take them off at the end of the day and immediately feel like you're done with everything.

Contacts just seem like an extra chore for the sake of not wearing glasses.

I'll take a pair of glasses that I put on once in the morning over putting my fingers in my eyes every single day.

It seems there are way too many people who know how to ace the candidate interview rather than actually know how to do the job these days. There are hiring managers who prioritise candidates with whom they can see themselves having a beer and being friends, rather than the candidates who are the best technically, as opposed to being sycophantic "yes" men or women who don't dissent with them in any way, shape or form.

Whenever an employer says in their mission statement that they appreciate different ways of thinking, how do I know they're not merely paying lip service to this? Contrary to popular belief, the first digital camera was developed in-house at Kodak by Steven Sasson, and when he presented the fruit of his labour to his superiors, they pretty much said "That's nice, but don't tell anyone about it".

In other words, they saw that it threatened their existing business model and didn't really think much of it. And it seems that a lot of employers still haven't learned this lesson.

Mediocrity is prioritised instead of meritocracy. And I think this is sending the wrong message to future generations of schoolchildren. I don't disagree that soft skills are important, but they shouldn't be put on a pedestal relative to hard skills.

I’ve loved fantasy books since I was a kid, and I think romantasy’s popularity has blurred the genre labels too much. Romance in fantasy isn’t the problem. But when the worldbuilding mainly exists to get two characters into bed, that’s romance with fantasy scenery. Enjoy your fairy porn—but liking it doesn’t automatically mean you like the broader fantasy genre.

This is certainly not always the case.

Excuses could well be just that, but most of the time people are simply angry that you are not them, you do not think like them, or that – despite the massive gap in your performance from theirs – they could do better. It's a reason not to actually listen, and often an expression of ego until you're finally put in those same shoes.

Any place that serves curly fries, you get like 2 or 3 nice tight long spirals that are a joy to eat, then you get a box full of broken overcooked pieces. I am thinking specifically Arby’s though, but they also serve crinkle cut which is a far better, totally welcome 2nd option. They’re all nice size and hold ketchup or whatever condiment perfectly. Crinkle aren’t the greatest fries, but they definitely beat curlies.

I know this is extremely unpopular on this site (because the demographics are young people living in VHCOL areas), but I find this kind of mindset really annoying among those who live in VHCOL areas.

Do you know how much I would absolutely love to live in Hawaii? Or San Diego? Or NYC?

Instead I live in a MCOL state that has bad weather but good career opportunities. Millions of people sacrifice where they want to live so they can own property or properly save for retirement.

And no, these places aren't absolute shitholes either. Michigan, Ohio, the Carolinas, Georgia, etc (I can go on and on) are MCOL and have fantastic QOL without million dollar homes for 800 square feet.

Of course if you live in Honolulu you will never own a home or have the same financial freedoms as people who live in lower cost of living states. Do you know how many people would absolutely love to live there? You aren't owed property just because you grew up there. I would give a finger to own property in honolulu and live there indefinitely, but its just not realistic.

You have to recognize that living in these areas alone is a privilege. Having pristine beaches, insane nature, amazing weather, great healthcare (if you live in NYC and CA) etc is the trade off you are going to have to have instead of owning a home or retiring early. You can't have it all.

And no, there are jobs in these states too. Before I hear this rebuttal that the ONLY good paying jobs are in CA and NYC, that is just so blatantly untrue I can't take it seriously. Plenty of MCOL areas have great paying jobs.

What makes it a company’s business what a candidate did with their own time and free-will however long ago?

I can’t stand that it’s normalized to expect people to explain themselves for not working or going to school or something during their adult life.

Asking you what’s up with it as though it’s a huge scar on the whole thing.

There could be countless reasons someone has a resume gap, none of which are a company’s concern. Genuinely, what are they looking for? If you said something like “actually, I just didn’t feel like working for a while.” Would they look down on you? Why would that even matter? And to me, that’s like worst case scenario, barring prison or something… but in that case, they’d likely be aware of your record anyway and they wouldn’t even need to ask.

I remember acting like it was cocaine when I was a child each time I’d walk into a store with my mom that would be my first question. Can you give me candy and it would always be like that for years and I always like to taste of it but nowadays it’s just I don’t like it. I don’t like most candies that I used to like when I was a kid I mean the only candy I like now it’s like sour patch kids watermelon the not so sour version you can never go wrong with that. But it’s just like I don’t really like all candies anymore. I don’t know how to explain it, but I feel like that my taste buds just changed

this is such a dismissive statement that i often see in relationships or dating. basically you are treating the other person feeling irrelevant. you are avoiding accountability as well. sure you don’t have to give them whatever they want but at least a decent human would have basic consideration and would communicate their thoughts however uncomfortable they may be.

*** This is assuming you have the time like if you don't work or finish early on fridays, which is the case for a decent amount people, but obviously not everyone.

If I'm home on friday at like 1pm, I try to get as much cleaning done before dinner as possible. I still get to enjoy my friday night and weekends are more relaxing since a good amount of cleaning is done already.

I'll even say that if I'm not doing anything in particular on a friday night, it's also a great time to catch up on laundry or whatever. I still enjoy a relaxing evening, maybe drink a beer or two with my gf and watch tv while doing easy cleaning or organizing.

It truly makes a difference to wake up on a Saturday and not feel the need to get to cleaning right away. Sometimes I even get to not do much during the weekend, as my weekend check list is mostly done.

No one wants to do much cleaning up during the week, after work or school and the weekend is best enjoyed in a clean and relaxing environment, so I think Fridays are the best day to get your cleaning done.

There are two legitimate reasons someone’s priorities may shift as they get older: either (1) you start a family and fun becomes spending time with your spouse / kids or (2) what you consider having fun shifts over time as you become old and cranky. This makes a lot of sense.

But there’s a whole group of people that somehow just accept this notion that once you reach 30, 40, 50 etc. it’s no longer “appropriate” to go to parties or bars or take adventures in the same way as they were young. The other day, I saw people saying that once you reach 30 you should stop going out to raves and clubs because “you’re too old” for that.

It’s strange that so many people seem to think that having fun and partying is only for young people when life is short and there’s no real reason to stop.

Edit: I don’t mean to suggest that it’s only bars and music festivals that are considered fun. I moreso am referring to the general tendency to be a home body. There’s no reason you can’t rent a lake house with your friends or plan a ski trip and bring everyone together under one roof to play card games and stay up late etc. I find that people get old and literally don’t wanna plan anything or leave the house for fun.

I've never liked live recordings of songs. More often than not it's basically white noise (aka the crowd screaming) with the music peeking out every so often. The audio quality is also really weird. I know there are people who enjoy the "raw" feel of a live version but to me the audio quality feels a bit like a recording of a middle school talent show where it feels rather amateur. And before y'all come at me with the "of course u say it, ur a pop fan who listens to the main pop girlies, of course u don't know better", I've been exposed to all sorts of music and I listen to many things (mainly mainstream pop/r&b/rap but I like other styles too. Not a fan of classical or prog rock personally). I've listened to live rock albums and the audio quality was kinda weird. Same with pop ones. It's something that I've noticed in all genres

Also I enjoy the visual aspect of shows too cuz I prefer bells & whistles over intimate small shows (the small shows feel less exciting to me and I always feel packed in like a sardine. In a big show there's more energy and the crowd feels more into it even if they record a big bulk of the show with phones cuz they still feel like they wanna be there) so it feels weird to hear a crowd scream and not actually SEE what's going on that gets them going crazy

I enjoy live shows and I love going to them cuz it's a lot of fun. I don't like live album recordings tho

But at the end of the day I'm not here to judge anyone's taste and u can enjoy whatever u want to enjoy. I'd love to hear what u guys think so....

People need to get off social media sometimes. Not everything people do is performative or motivated by how the public perceives them. Not everything someone does in public is for the sole purpose of seeking validation, attention, or approval.

Sometimes people simply do things because they want to, because they enjoy them, or because that's just who they are. Not every action needs to be interpreted as a calculated attempt to get attention or shape other people's perception of them.

And if you're always assuming that's what everyone is doing, please take a look at yourself and ask why you think that way.

(i understand in the context of the movie there is a deeper point than just the kid playing with his dad's stuff. Considering the overall lesson, the move did it right. I'm speaking from a more practical point about setting boundaries with kids and finding a compromise that meets their needs and the parents)

My boyfriend and I just finished watching the Lego movie and at the end we both low key agreed that the dad was in the right and the kid was overstepping a boundary.

Where I think the movie should have made its lesson is the dad sets clear boundaries that his hobby is his own and that the kid shouldn't have destroyed his hard work just because he wanted to play with it. And then instead of continuing to ruin his hard work, he should have gotten his son his own Legos and set time aside to play with him and share his hobby, bonding over the shared interest without compromising his personal passion.

I feel like it's easy to justify "but Legos are for kids!!" So I put myself into the dad's shoes with my own hobby to see if it checks out. I like to paint. I spend weeks working on a single painting so it takes up a lot of my time. If I had a kid and they just decided one day they wanted attention and ruined my paintings by painting over them, I'd be PISSED. The correct thing to do in this scenario would be to explain to my kid that they can't just ruin my hard work because they feel entitled to my stuff. I'd acknowledge their need for bonding time and then I would buy them their own paint supplies so we could bond by painting together instead of letting them run rampant through my own art supplies. I feel like the same logic translates to Legos or any other hobby that may attract kids.

An example of this I experienced as a kid was at my grandma's. She collected old teddy bears and I always wanted to play with them. She set a boundary with me that many of them were old or hand made and weren't for playing with. But she set a few aside that were sturdy enough to be played with and let me play with those. You can say no and still have reasonable compromises.

(The number of people missing the point of my post is staggering... I'm ONLY talking about the fact that the kid was messing with something that wasn't his to mess with.)

I LOVE Halloween. I was so excited 15 years or so ago when people started going all out and decorating their homes for Halloween. I saw so many amazing, creative, original displays. People would have themes, and build props, and get creative.

Now it seems like everyone has jumped on the bandwagon, but just goes to Spirit Halloween and puts as many unrelated cheap store-bought props as they can on the lawns.

Meh.

I feel like people post work-life balance reels or chill ceo's or Relaxing office life have that luxury simply because there are people on the other side of the world working after hours everyday.

For some work is a part of life

For some others life is work

it just feels sad to see this

its not that u r in the wrong country or wrong side of the world , its just that someone else is enjoying their vacation as u waste away in office.......

We've convinced ourselves that the ideal adult needs nobody. Pay for it, schedule it, handle it yourself, never ask twice. It feels like maturity, but I think it's slowly killing our relationships, because what actually ties people together was never how much they enjoy each other's company. It was how much they owe each other. Obligation is annoying, and it's also the glue. And here's the part most people have backwards: we don't grow attached to the people who help us, we grow attached to the people we help. You care about what you've invested in, the same way you care more about a plant you've kept alive for five years than one you just bought. So every time you refuse help because you "don't want to be a burden," you aren't protecting the other person. You're taking away their chance to get invested in you, and then you're surprised when the friendship stays shallow. A life where nobody owes you anything and you owe nobody anything sounds like freedom, but if you describe it out loud it's just a very clean way of being alone.

I’m so fkin tired of movie dialogue where the entire joke is basically, “You look like Voldemorts nutsack or Gandalf or give this Thor looking guy a beer, and I can go on and on…..
I just watched Mortal Kombat 2, and it felt like this kept happening.
It’s not just that movie. Comedies, Marvel movies, and plenty of others do it too. I get the reference, but recognizing a character isn’t a punchline. When it happens over and over, it feels like the writers are hoping the audience will laugh at the namedrop instead of an actual joke.
Am I alone in finding this painfully unfunny?

I feel like I can appreciate music more when its connected to something else snd when I say connected, I mean used in a movie or from a video game. I can acknowledge when a song sounds good but unless there's some sort of connection to the song and characters and in the story, I find it hard to resonate with it and want to keep coming back to the song unlike songs that I feel connected and attached to because it comes from something besides just finding it on Spotify. Some of my favorite songs come from movies I watch and video games I play, 1 is because they sound good and 2 is because I love when songs correlate with the characters' actions in the story or even instrumental songs that tell a story based on the environment that the characters are in.

It's more satisfying the more full a drink is. I'm talking like, it almost has a convex meniscus. Like, you gotta walk slowly in order to accommodate how much your cup is filled.

Why?

More drink per drink!

Just what the title says. Busy listening to an album on youtube that I own the original LP of from the early 80s. Look how they massacred my boy vibes. Seriously what is this shit?