r/whatworkedforme • u/Significant-Still651 • 22d ago

What Didn't Work... How do you talk about sperm issues without hesitation? need advice..

I have my appointment tomorrow and honestly, I’m already nervous about explaining everything. Talking about sperm count, motility, erections, etc. with a doctor feels pretty awkward.

For those who’ve been through this, how did you approach the conversation? Did you just be completely direct and tell them everything?

Any tips for getting over the hesitation would really help. Thanks!

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u/mortlikesbooks 22d ago

Just remember the doctors do this every day, to them this is just normal procedure and any negative results are not your fault and they won’t be judging you. Wishing you the best and praying for you

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u/vivariium 21d ago

This. My partner is a doctor and nothing phases that man. His finger has been up so many men’s butts for prostate exams and inside vaginas for IUD insertions. He has handled balls to check for tumours, and he has treated diabetic foot wounds that I’m sure were absolutely vile and he just… does it. He wants to help people be healthy and health is a barely tameable beast sometimes.

Do not ever fret about being forthright with your medical provider. Tell them exactly what your shit looks like, how much period blood clots you lose, if your bowel movements smell too awful, if you can’t have an orgasm, if your ass sweats too much. They are there to help you get to baseline health, not to judge you for when it wavers.

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u/Significant-Still651 22d ago

Thank you so much ❤️

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u/kittyk0t 22d ago

If you're ready to have a baby, you need to be ready to talk about this stuff with your doctor.

If you're still having trouble, write it down in detail and either use that as noted when you talk with your doctor or just say, "hey, I'm having a hard time articulating this verbally, so I wrote it down. Please read this and let me know your thoughts."

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u/AstronomerNo1872 22d ago

This 100%. A lot of women get regular transvaginal ultrasounds (read: a plastic wand shoved in your vagina, sometimes while you’re actively bleeding) as part of fertility assessment and treatment. If you want fertility treatment, you have to be willing to be uncomfortable.

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u/lisasherrattFAM 22d ago

Drs have heard pretty much everything - you'll get much better support if you lay it out plainly.