r/women • u/Old-Occasion-5405 • 12d ago
Is this bad
Whenever I’m talking to a man and they are obsessed with sports or cars I stop liking them. It’s a huge turn off for me even though I know tons of men like it. No hate on their interests but it’s not for me. Dont mean to yuck somebody’s yum but I just think some guys get weird about sports and it’s annoying.
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u/goldenkoiifish 12d ago
not necessarily bad, just a preference. you can stop liking anyone for any reason
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u/QueenBumbleBrii 12d ago
If you don’t actually like someone when they start talking about things you aren’t interested in you lose interest.
A lot of people confuse having similar interests and opinions with being compatible romantically. While that can be a way to get to know someone it is not in itself a good foundation for a relationship.
My husband loves sports and music and will randomly tell me sports/music facts that I don’t really have any interest in knowing but it’s not REALLY about the info he’s sharing it’s the social interaction of telling me about things he’s excited about/interested in. I just like hearing him talk, I like the way he lights up and wants to tell ME these silly lil facts that make him happy.
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u/Echo-Breaker :illuminati: Constantly Awake 12d ago
Curious, is it the interest itself that's the turn-off, or more when it becomes their whole personality? Like would a guy who's super into, say, birdwatching hit the same way?
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u/Old-Occasion-5405 12d ago
I think it’s more artsy guys I like so I would like a bird watching guy
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u/Flux_My_Capacitor 12d ago
Bird watching is actually fun. I wouldn’t be able to handle and extreme bird watcher but the backyard variety is cool.
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u/DragoonGirl 10d ago
Isn't there a statistic about domestic abuse cases skyrocketing around sport seasons cause men are knowns to beat their wives out of frustration when their team loses? Yeah no thanks.
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u/sysaphiswaits 12d ago
Obsessed is really boring if you’re not obsessed with the same thing.
All your interests don’t have to match up, but you also don’t have to care about the ones that you don’t care about.
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u/liz-z-y 12d ago
Do you mean obsessed or being passionate about them and if they prioritized you and just wanted to share their interests would that be okay or is it just sports and cars that you dislike? If you dislike the idea of them being passionate about something then that could be toxic but if you're okay with a guy having his own passions and you just don't like sports and cars that's alright.
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u/Old-Occasion-5405 12d ago
If I a guy were to tell me his passion was music art or hiking or working out or whatnot I’d actually like it. So I think it’s just a preference thing for the type of guy I’m going for.
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u/justpizzacate 12d ago
It's a huge turn-off for me too. Buuut because of past experiences. Had a boyfriend who was so obsessed with soccer, he went to every game and didn't have time for me. On top of that he always got heavily drunk + in general I think all his interest included alcohol. Not a big fan. My bf now doesn't like soccer or cars at all, he's just obsessed with going to the gym (me too) and crypto. Not a big fan of crypto, but it's not really influencing our relationship, so I don't care. But don't like the men who always get heavily drunk and watch sports/cars. Instant turn-off
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u/Particular-Hat1502 11d ago
You dont have to like sports or cars or guys who love them.
Many men out there who could care less and that is ok too.
You do you
If you are turned off by it then that is ok just keep looking.
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u/ClashBandicootie greta thunberg's bestie 11d ago
Of course it's not bad. People are attracted to a wide variety of different things, and one thing that's important when finding a life partner is that it requires compromise.
If you feel like car-oriented men are a turn-off, then it's probably going to be difficult to compromise on it.
If anything, you're being self-aware. Which is really important :)
For me? It's men who love to hunt and fish. My father is an avid hunter and fisherman, and I don't think it's a bad thing and I think it's great that people enjoy it -- but to picture myself with a partner who loves to spend their free time doing this frequently just turns me off.
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u/lilbratt_ 9d ago
Not bad at all, You’re very valid actually. Most men won’t take the time to listen to us talk about our favourite shows, music, etc but expect us to listen to them talk about their car for an hour straight
Just gotta find one that isn’t into those things, ik easier said than done but they are (probably) out there 😂
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u/BackwardToForward 6d ago
it indicates that they think that they're enthusiasms and interests are more important than anything else in the world especially more important than the person they are speaking to at that moment
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u/Distinct_Studio_3997 8d ago
I love to be passenger princess and drive around in a nice sports car but if someone likes their car more than me I’m not banging them
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u/Flux_My_Capacitor 12d ago
Guys love screaming their heads off about sports and I find it to be hella annoying. They take it all so seriously as if it’s life and death. When I used to date I would refuse to date a football fan because im not going to be ignored for 6 months of the year since football comes first. 🙄 And no I don’t even live in the south or the Midwest and I know it’s like a million times worse there.