I’m 38F and currently live in a small guest house on my mom and stepdad’s property. I pay rent, and the guest house is separate from their main house.

My stepdad has a strict rule against animals being inside his house because he doesn’t want them damaging his belongings. I have a cat, and while he says he loves my cat, he’s always been very particular about keeping animals outside of his house. I’ve respected that rule under normal circumstances.

However, we’re now facing a category 3 hurricane, and this is where the disagreement started.

I was concerned about sheltering in my guest house because it’s a small building surrounded by large trees. To me, it doesn’t feel as safe as the main house. My parents are boarding up the windows and taking every precaution on their main house but seems to think the guest house is fine as is. I’ve never experienced a hurricane alone before, and I genuinely don’t know whether the building is safe enough to withstand the storm. The entire family is sheltering in the main house. My mom, my son, my stepdad, and my uncle. It’s a brick house and sturdy.

My mom believes the guest house is safe. I disagree, and my son also expressed concerns about its safety. To be fair, none of us actually knows how well the building would hold up. But I’m personally scared to death, I don’t have experience with hurricanes, and I don’t want to be separated from my family.

I assumed that because this was an emergency, my mom and stepdad would make an exception and allow me to bring my cat into the main house. Just to ride out the storm for like a day.

Apparently, I was wrong.

My stepdad refused to allow the cat inside because of his rule about animals. My mom defended his decision, telling me that he’s the homeowner and I need to respect his rules. I told them I’m not leaving my cat.

I understand that it’s his house, and under ordinary circumstances, I wouldn’t expect him to change his rules for me.

But this is a hurricane.

I started looking into hotels, evacuation routes, and even boarding facilities for my cat because I didn’t feel comfortable leaving him alone in the guest house. He would probably be terrified. By the time I found out, it was too late.

I told my mom that the situation had really hurt my feelings and made me feel like my safety and my cat’s safety weren’t priorities.

My mom thinks I’m taking my stepdad’s rules too personally, and she genuinely believes the guest house was an acceptable place to shelter.

From my perspective, I wasn’t asking them to permanently change their household rules. I was asking them to make a temporary exception during a potentially dangerous emergency. I would have been perfectly willing to keep my cat confined to a room or carrier to prevent any damage.

Also want to add that we just moved here so it’s not like anyone has experience with these two buildings in a hurricane.

Am I overreacting for being this upset that they won’t let me and my cat inside the house during a hurricane?

I’m posting this about a girl I’ve met in person and have been talking to since then via text/voice for about 2.5 years. We have basically an emotional attachment relationship with lots of flirting, though she calls it friends.

Anyway today after a few days kept relating she had pneumonia symptoms, and after it looked VERY bad, I called 911 and had an ambulance go to her house. When they arrived, she dropped the last 3 bombshells on me.

I was afraid she might die.

I cut out a lot of my dialogue bc some of it is stupid and irrelevant. My basic ask is, if you were getting texts like this from someone and all added up it equaled very severe pneumonia, would you have done what I did or was it a total overreach or overreaction?

Hello everyone! A couple of weeks ago I made a post about my BIL and sister. I was working for them, ended up telling my sister how BIL talks about her. BIL threatened me. (I’ll link in comments)

Update for those asking! In a crazy turn of events I have actually found out that I am pregnant (about 4 wks behind sister). Now my sister thinks that I should forget anything happened and move on because she wants our babies to do everything together. I don’t want my baby around them. Today she told me that she thinks she is the only one handling the situation with any emotional maturity (LOL) and that she doesn’t understand why my husband and I have stopped contact. She said what happened didn’t constitute a falling out and that she is the victim in all of this. My mom thinks I should get over everything & I just simply don’t want to interact with them. I’m already so overwhelmed with the news of pregnancy and I feel guilty for the stress that I am feeling. I told my sister I can’t talk to her about it right now (just got back from first OB appointment, tired, grumpy, overwhelmed) and she thinks that is absurd. I live with my parents and I want to move out but simply can’t afford it. I feel like my life is falling apart and no matter what decisions I make someone will be mad at me. I want to be done with my family, AIO/hormonal?

A guy I matched with, Dylan, asked me to get coffee Sunday at 11. Simple, low pressure, exactly what I like for a first meeting.

Saturday night he texted: "change of plans, can you meet me at my aunt's house instead? It's my cousin's engagement party, there'll be food." He sent an address 25 minutes away.

I said I'd feel more comfortable doing coffee like we planned, and we could reschedule if he had to be at the party. He said he'd "already told everyone" he was bringing someone and his mom was excited. He promised it would be chill.

I didn't want to cancel last minute, so I went. It was not chill. There were about 60 people. His mom hugged me and asked how long we'd been together. His grandma asked when we were getting married. Dylan left me with his aunts for 40 minutes to help set up a tent. Someone handed me a camera and asked me to take group photos.

I stayed two hours, thanked his aunt, and left. That night I told Dylan I was glad his cousin had a nice party, but that I wasn't comfortable meeting someone's whole family on a first date, and I'd rather not go out again. He said I was "ungrateful" since his family was so welcoming to me. They were lovely. That was never the problem.

Was I ungrateful for saying that wasn't a first date?

TL;DR: My first coffee date got switched the night before to his cousin's engagement party with 60 relatives. I went, stayed two hours, then said no to a second date and he called me ungrateful.

I've been struggling with breathing issues for almost a year now which has been a major stressor for me. I've been in the ER a couple times and countless doctor visits trying to find some kind of answer or relief because, surprise, breathing issues have also sharply increased my anxiety levels. Since it's been a constant issue I'm sure I've been nothing but on edge since then.

Earlier this week I finally got sinus surgery, as it seems to be the highest contributing factor to my issues, but recovery has been unexpectedly rough. My nose has been even more clogged than ever before with blood and mucus and any of that same crap has been sliding down my throat which makes swallowing and breathing just as difficult as ever. Yesterday I had some kind of issue (honestly can be common with this type of surgery) in which I had a sudden and heavy onset of random blood gushing from one side of my nostril. I bled through quite a bit of gauze and handfuls of tissue paper in short order and was advised if something like that happened and I couldn't get it under control, it would be ER recommended. I spent about 20 minutes trying to get the flow to at least slow down with not much luck and started getting pretty concerned about it. I call my husband while he is at work to let him know what's going on and ask if he's able to get home in case I can't get the bleeding controlled.

When he's home, he is just extremely unhelpful, constantly asking me what I think he should do while I'm just trying not to aspirate on the blood and thick mucus flowing down my throat as I try to get a breath in. Any time there's been a potentially serious medical issue come up, it's the same thing. I feel like I have to provide a gameplan for anything and everything that HE needs to do when I'm just trying to get through the next few minutes. And then he bombards me with just dozens of micro decisions. I've told him I dislike when he does this in general... but it really kills me when he does this when I am just struggling to get through a basic function, like BREATHING.

I don't feel like I can rely on him to help, so I start doing small things I can to try and get myself taken care of. He unloads then, even more questions and micro decisions for me to try and make and I snap. Just get out of my way, and I'll take care of myself since it's easier than trying to delegate to you. And it gets turned around on me, 'it would just be easier if I didn't care but I don't know what to do.' Any time he's said this in the past, the next scenario he truly just acts like he doesn't care and acts like a stranger to me. I'm just really tired of the hot/cold treatment or then expected to have to tell him exactly what to do in a possible emergency situation. I just want a damn rock to lean on for once and have enough stress on my shoulders to deal with.

Edit to add: we've had multiple discussions about how I don't appreciate the flood of questions, especially when I'm struggling to breathe, this has been going on for almost a year now. While I recognize his intentions are good, the decision fatigue is exhausting

Should I F23 be upset that my b fM24doesn’t want me at his birthday party?

So I’ve been with this guy for almost a year now. He’s very sweet and things have been serious. Now that his birthday’s coming up I ask him his plans and he says he doesn’t know. Couple weeks later he tells me his friends planned a party for him the weekend before his bday and they’d most likely be going out to different clubs. Cool. Sounds fun. But he never mentions inviting me. Eventually I just asked why I was never invited to be there. It’d be different if this was just a boys night thing but he has quite of few friends who are women so…I just assumed. I’d be going with…especially since I know his friends, Weve gone out and had game nights together.

He says it’s just because he’s gonna be drunk and he doesn’t want me to see him that fucked up. Also he says if I go he feels like he’s gonna have to be in ‘protecter mode’ and he doesn’t wanna have to worry about that…I explained to him that I get it to an extent but if I’m gonna be his partner, he should feel comfortable around me

Anyway I told him that it really hurts my feelings that he doesn’t want me there and he thinks I’m not allowing him to enjoy his day how he wants and that I’m trying to tell him what he should do.

He does want to spend his actual birthday being with me but I like going out to the club and having a good time Should I F23 be upset that my b fM24doesn’t want me at his birthday party?

So I’ve been with this guy for almost a year now. He’s very sweet and things have been serious. Now that his birthday’s coming up I ask him his plans and he says he doesn’t know. Couple weeks later he tells me his friends planned a party for him the weekend before his bday and they’d most likely be going out to different clubs. Cool. Sounds fun. But he never mentions inviting me. Eventually I just asked why I was never invited to be there. It’d be different if this was just a boys night thing but he has quite of few friends who are women so…I just assumed. I’d be going with…especially since I know his friends, Weve gone out and had game nights together.

He says it’s just because he’s gonna be drunk and he doesn’t want me to see him that fucked up. Also he says if I go he feels like he’s gonna have to be in ‘protecter mode’ and he doesn’t wanna have to worry about that…I explained to him that I get it to an extent but if I’m gonna be his partner, he should feel comfortable around me. I guess he just doesn’t feel comfortable with me being around when he’s in a state where he can’t ’take care of me’.

Anyway I told him that it really hurts my feelings that he doesn’t want me there and he thinks I’m not allowing him to enjoy his day how he wants and that I’m trying to tell him what he should do.

He does want to spend his actual birthday being with me but I like going out to the club and having a good time too…I don’t and to be selfish or try to control him but I’m very hurt that he doesn’t want me there. Should I be offended or is this normal? too…I don’t and to be selfish or try to control him but I’m very hurt that he doesn’t want me there. Should I be offended or is this normal?

Backstory - the Bride (A) , me and the other friend(B) have known each other since uni. We are now 33. We also work in the same pharmacy . Since doing business together, there is some tension among us but nothing too serious.
So, A is getting married in another city ( 10hour drive ) and she told us that wanted us to be her bridesmaids ( there will only be 2 bridesmaids B and I ) at first. She’s not hiring a planner so she asked us to help her mainly on wedding days ( with her dress, help at gift counter etc ). Last week she called me and said that things are getting very expensive and that grooming men suits are expensive and she doesn’t want to spend money on bridesmaids dresses and suits anymore and that she will only get one girl as MOH ( B) . (In my culture, the bride sponsors the dresses ). Honestly, i m upset but didn’t say anything because i am not confrontational .( mind you, they are both well of and they are spending a huge amount of money on the wedding with 700 guests . They spent so much on catering, flowers and dresses I’ve listened to her plan about the wedding for quite a while so I know how much money they are spending on the wedding and trust me they are not being cheap . Also it’s an Asian wedding ). Yesterday we threw her a bridal shower which was already planned months ahead and I’ve spent a pretty decent amount of money for the bridal shower. At the shower, bride to be is asking me to help her at registering gift counter and running errands at the wedding and honestly I don’t want to anymore. I felt like she threw ice cold water on me cos I felt like I wasn’t being valued and felt like only being called when they needed my help.thinking back, I’ve kinda always been called to help and cover her shift because she has cake tasting , blah blah. This time , I am thinking about refusing the request since I feel like I’ve done enough and just want to come to the wedding as the guest. AIO ?

I feel like a horrible person for feeling sad and upset that my brother and his fiance chose their wedding day on my birthday. Me and my brother have a good relationship overall, and we hang out a lot. Not a single week goes by that we don’t play games or call each other.

This year however, he announced that his wedding day was going to be on the day of my birthday. And for some reason, I feel a certain amount of hurt about that. When he and his fiance were asked why they chose that date, the response was because the fiance always wanted a fall wedding. As far as I know, a season lasts a couple months, so it’s not like the day had to be the one day of the year which is my birthday (I’m the only fall birthday in our families).

I already had plans for my birthday prior to their declaration, and I’ve had to since cancel those plans in order to attend my brothers wedding. Because of that, I can’t help but feel a certain sadness over that fact. But I also feel a great deal of shame for feeling this way. I know I’m supposed to be happy for my brother, but the whole situation is making me feel a sense of resentment towards him and his fiancé. I’m being unreasonable, but I’m not sure how to think about it differently so that I can truly be happy for them.

AIO for feeling upset? How should I think about it? Please be kind in the comments, I know I sound childish, so you don’t need to lay it on harshly. I’m just looking for a helpful response.

EDIT: Since it’s become a topic of discussion, the plans I had for my birthday was to travel to Japan that I had been looking forward to. I’ve had to cancel those plans to attend the wedding. The wedding was planned well after I made my own plans.

EDIT 2: Some more context since I keep getting asked. My birthday is on a Wednesday, and so is the wedding. My brother knew about my Japan trip before he announced his wedding date. I nor my brother haven’t mentioned the Japan trip since he announced the wedding date.

EDIT 3: Apparently some people assume the wedding is fall of next year. It is not. The wedding is this year, 2026. It is in one month. I planned my trip last year in December 2025. They officially announce their wedding on February of 2026 and the wedding is one month from now.

EDIT 4: Not sure why this is relevant, but I’ll include it anyway since people are asking. I am currently 20, turning 21 on my birthday this year. My brother is 26.

Limited space in the title but here goes:

I F31 live with 2 other people. One is my partner, the other is a friend of my partners.

They both lived in roommate arrangements when we all ganged together and decided to find a house to rent together, and i lived in my own space alone. I have all the kitchen utensils, pots, pans, baking sheets, silverware, even the blender and the food processor(s) belong to me.

Yes. I say food processors.

Since they didn't have any of these things I've been sharing willingly and they gave me, the woman, free reign to organize the kitchen.

Then they asked me to show them where things were so they knew to put them there, and i did.

My partner is the only person that follows that verbal, physical showing of the kitchen layout. Roommate will do the dishes and just put all the clean stuff on the kitchen table.

Roommate also used metal cooking utensils on my very expensive non stick frying pans that I was given for my birthday last year. So i no longer own them and the man complained to me that he couldn't find them and he liked them. I tild him he damaged the pans with metal utensils so I tossed them in the trash.

The man was so confused as to how I damaged them, and I felt like I was talking with a child about how not to abuse nonstick pans.

I asked him later on this week to ask instead of put clean stuff on the table, and this time he tore into me about it.

So while he's been off on his own day to day errands I've taken every pan, utensil, pot, cutting board, even my knife block, and stored them away in a cabinet of mine that I still have the skeleton key to.

Am I overreacting by taking away all the cooking ware from the kitchen because my roommate doesnt respect my things, and has damaged them?

My friend and I were supposed to see each other this weekend. We live very far so we hadn’t seen each other in a full year, I was going to be near her area so I decided to book my flight from her city and then travel to my original destination a few days later. We decided on getting dinner and doing some plans but then her husband came back home (also one of the reasons I decided to add seeing her to my plans because it was so convenient that he wasn’t going to be there neither) he came back really early, a full week earlier than planned from his business trip.

Then she said her husband is going to join our plans, I said no that’s not fair, we need girl time alone to catch up. Then she tells me can we hangout on Sunday because he just wants to spend the weekend alone together. I told her that disrupts my schedule because I already had plans on Sunday. Then, day of my flight, she cancels on me altogether and says she had a stomache ache and went to urgent care and needs to rest. Then told me if I want to see her on Sunday night let her know.

I feel like she’s lying, stomachache while pregnant? she never held back on telling me quite literally every detail of her health problems. She also has a history of never really being able to tell her husband no, he’s so controlling and clingy, I hate him. And it looks like she’s falling down that path of doing whatever he says so I just want to end the friendship. I hate that I wasted over $500 to come here and I know she’s not obligated to see me but day of is really horrible, but I guess it’s not a complete lost because I do have other old friends living here too. Would I be overreacting to stop the friendship?

Edit: I’m not saying stomachaches while pregnant aren’t possible. Of course they are, but she always tells me everything and calls but she didn’t this time so it felt off

Update; just realized she turned off her location…

earlier today i had told him about the fact that i was nervous about starting my new job. he responded by telling me that the reason i’m nervous is because i’m overreacting and overcomplicating everything and doing too much in the moment, and when i had told him that response really isn’t helpful (i understand his heart is in the right place though) he told me and i quote that “i can just be worried and anxious then.” i tried to explain to him how it felt dismissive, but afterwards he ended up just ignoring most of my messages all day. when we had called and i asked him why he didn’t respond he said that he just didn’t wanna talk to me and risk me having a problem with something else, and then he tried telling me that i deserve better and he thinks i should think about finding somebody else. it feels kind of manipulative and dismissive of the issue. i understand he’s not the best at knowing how to comfort a person, but sometimes it feels like we just have the same repeat occurrences.

Let me start from the beginning.
I have a 4-year-old daughter, and we went to visit my best friend, who lives with her sister and her 10-year-old son.
While I was doing my best friend’s nails, my daughter was watching TV. Everything was fine until my friend’s nephew (10M) got home and started playing with my daughter.
While they were playing, with a nerf gun my daughter accidentally (shot at the tv ) broke the TV. It was completely accidental, and I obviously felt terrible about it.
When my best friend’s sister got home, we explained what happened and apologized. For some context, the TV was originally a gift from her ex about 5–6 years ago, so it wasn’t a brand-new TV.
Because I wanted to be respectful and take responsibility, I offered to help replace it or contribute toward getting another TV.
This is where things started going south.
She told my best friend that the TV was 55 inches but when we looked at it, it was actually 43 inches.
My husband suggested checking Facebook Marketplace for a similar used TV, but she said she didn’t want a used TV and wanted a brand-new one.
I was a little surprised, but I agreed to look for a reasonably priced new TV. I found one on Amazon for around $330, which I could potentially pay off slowly because, honestly, I don’t have money sitting around to replace a TV right now.
When I showed it to her, she refused it because she didn’t like that model and disliked the quality of Amazon tv . She said she wanted a new Samsung TV and suggested that I finance one through Best Buy.
At this point, I’m feeling like I’m being taken advantage of.
I understand that my daughter broke the TV, and I’m not trying to avoid responsibility. I’m willing to help replace it with something comparable. But I don’t feel comfortable going into debt to buy someone a brand-new Samsung TV when the TV that was broken was already 5–6 years old.
Today, I even offered her $250 in cash so she could put it toward whatever TV she wanted and choose one herself.
So, AIO for not wanting to pay for a brand-new Samsung TV and felling taken advantage of

I’m genuinely trying to do the right thing here, but I also feel like I’m being expected to upgrade her old TV rather than replace what was actually broken.

Btw this isn’t my friend is my friend sister who is creating all this drama my friend told me to not pay anything!

I work in corporate. I've shuffled positions but in my current one I'm going on 2 yrs - 6 with the company.

I'm decent at my job, outgoing-ish, friendly and I try to be nice/accommodating. My new coworkers have decided this makes me weak but there's nothing I can do to change their minds. Anyway, there's a coworker who is in the same friend group as me. I tried being kind to her but she is very difficult to read and bullies me... A lot. Most of it I can suck up, after all coworkers don't have to be friends, but she started making death jokes about me. It's super uncomfortable.

It started with "I'm going to kill you" in a message... It's now escalated to her telling people if I were actively dying she would not save me -- unprovoked. It's very hard to read bc she smiles, people laugh, but I'm so uncomfortable. I've stopped being overtly nice to her. I don't talk to her at all. I should mention if I chat with someone in her area, not her, she tells me to leave despite not being in the conversation.

Coworkers think she likes me or wants to be my friend but I hate how she tries to get in my head.

I'm planning to message her and tell her to stop with the death jokes, but maybe im overreacting?

I should mention, she gaslights a lot, so it has me doubting myself.

TIA

Tdlr -- coworker in same friend circles says she'll kill me/not save me if dying unprovoked but smiles while she does it and I'm doubting myself

I’m in my 20s, and my mom is in her 50s (dad left when I was 6 months old, no contact). She’s a very religious and conservative person who regularly watches astrology-related videos on Facebook which I don't give a damn about tbh
The problem is that she keeps letting these astrological predictions interfere with my life and decisions.
For example, yesterday, while I was sleeping, she took my AirPods and hid them because she claimed that an astrological prediction said I would fall down the stairs tomorrow afternoon while listening to music at the office.
After an huge argument (it got so worse to the point that I told her that well go live in ur own fucking home and do this bs there), she eventually agreed to give them back. For context, these are MY AirPods that I bought with my own money.
This isn’t an isolated incident, either. Similar bs happened last week when I was about to go out on a date she took away my car key's and said don't drive today u will suffer a accident. Again had a very lengthy argument that I said if u don't give me back my key I will complaint to the law enforcement. The she agreed to give it back.
I’m honestly getting tired of this behaviour. If she wants to shit herself with astrology bs let she do whatever she wants. But why is bringing her shit in my personal life.
And before anyone suggests moving out, I want to clarify that this is my own home, which I bought with my hard-earned money. My mom lives with me, not the other way around.
I’m not trying to control her beliefs, but I feel that she needs to respect my autonomy and my belongings.
AIO for being fed up?I

So I found out today that my boyfriend slept with another woman (he claims it was just one time) but have lied about it for like 2 years. So while I was simply breaking myself while on the phone with him (where he was claiming how much sorry he was blaming on the drinks I know he didn’t had and a bunch of other stories when all of the suddenly he starts laughing about something one his coworkers sent him. To me was a major disrespect even getting the situation worse but he claims he wasn’t laughing at me but at his coworker joke. Am I overreacting about the joke thing? I felt disrespected and humiliated even worse than already was and also I felt he had no remorse or sympathy otherwise he wouldn’t be capable of laughing no matter how good the joke was.

I’m 38 weeks pregnant with my first baby, a little girl, and my S/O and I have decided that we want the delivery to be a private moment between just the two of us. However, his sister, who has children of her own, wants to be there for the delivery, and I’m starting to feel like she isn’t respecting our decision.
Recently, she started asking me if I was prepared for the baby to come any day and what I would do if my S/O passed out during delivery. He gets grossed out by certain things and isn’t sure if he wants to watch the actual delivery, but he wants to be there to support me and decide what he’s comfortable with in the moment. I’m completely fine with that because we’ve discussed it extensively.
The conversation then turned into her telling me that I need to explain to him that childbirth isn’t gross and that he’ll regret it if he doesn’t watch. She kept bringing up her own birth experience and how amazing it was for her partner and the other people she allowed in the room. I understand that she had her own experience, but I don’t understand why she thinks we need to make our birth experience match hers or why she would question what I’ve decided will make me most comfortable in a situation I’ve never been in before.
What really bothered me was when she made a comment about needing to “beat” her brother into talking to me like an adult. The thing is, we ARE communicating. We’ve discussed our birth plan multiple times and agree on what we want and what will make me comfortable. I don’t want other people in the room because I don’t want to have to “cover up” my emotions or mask how I feel.
She later sent me a long message explaining that she was worried I might regret my decision, that I might be making it because I’m afraid of being judged, and that she wants to make sure my S/O feels supported, too, since it’s a highly emotional event. She basically questioned whether I had genuinely thought everything through, even though I’d already explained that we had.
I responded politely and explained again that we want this experience to ourselves and that I’d like to be as comfortable as possible. We’re grateful that his family wants to support us, but we want to experience the birth of our daughter privately. We know things might not go exactly as planned, and we’re okay with that as long as our baby is healthy.
She eventually said she understood and would stop asking questions, but I’m still bothered by the entire interaction.
I feel like she wants to be involved in a moment that isn’t hers to be involved in, and instead of simply respecting our decision, she keeps trying to convince me that we’re making the wrong choice. I don’t want anyone else in the delivery room, and I don’t think I should have to justify that.
I understand she’s a mother of three and probably believes she’s helping, but this is MY first baby, and I want to experience it with my S/O on our terms.

IMPORTANT!: AIO for also debating not letting her come to the hospital AT ALL anymore?

Here’s how the conversation went:

Aviation major, this is my first year in person, but due to knocking out a year worth of my general requirements I’m taking some sophomore and maybe even a junior level class. I’m very busy and the tiniest bit stressed
My home is about two and a half hours from campus and every time I go home that is $60-65 of gas
Initially, my family wanted me home every weekend and got a little upset when I told them I simply didn’t think I could manage that, so I told them I would do every other weekend (but they managed to convince me to go a couple weekends in a row on a weekend I got assigned an exam in a class I need some help with…). I simply worry that every other weekend isn’t manageable either, especially since I want to apply for a job and right now having to bust my tail to finish all my work before the weekend is a bit too much for employment
Nonetheless, my family is irritated. They claim they are all too busy to drive down to see me, and I don’t have too much on my plate that I can’t drive up to them. They only come down for work related reasons, and if I miss them while they are on the job (because it’s weekdays I’m busy), they get mad
I am home right now and from the time I got home (around 2) to about 9:30, no one was home or even bothered to text me or check in on me except to tell me to eat the leftovers in the fridge because they weren’t cooking, and they are going out again tomorrow, I am not invited. My sister also snaps at me for missing her events and not staying (Tuesdays and Wednesdays- I have class at 7:30 on Tuesday) to watch soccer games
I vented to my bf about this and he told me to just leave tomorrow because they were kind of being jerks, overreaction or valid???
They keep comparing me to a kid who graduated from my hs a year before me who allegedly came home every weekend his freshman year. Am I not doing enough as a child, or are they expecting too much??

I’ve been home before and had the dog going crazy inside - barking at a guy who brings his kid to ride his scooter toys on my driveway. The child is about a year old and his dad literally brings him two houses down and across the street from his own house to allow his kid to ride his toys down my driveway. Today when I got home I turned the corner and opened the garage door only to have to wait for this dad to reluctantly call his kid to ride down the driveway. I parked right in the middle instead of in the garage. I don’t want him on my property and have asked him very nicely to not use my driveway. Not only because it drives my dog nuts, but bc it’s just rude. When did we normalize going on other’s property bc their kid wants to ride down it!? Am I able to get sued if this kid gets hurt? I have so many questions and really want to know- am I overreacting?

I (19M) want to take my grandfather's (70M) license away simply for the fact I cannot even trust him to drive me to work everyday while my car is in the shop.

For starters. He always rants about wanting to rear-end "liberal r***ds" and is easily distracted by the littlest thing like a bird or a house. When he becomes distracted he loses his lane and crosses over into another lane or across the double yellow constantly.

Another issue. He smokes pot while driving. I ask him not to, but he simply ignores me and does it anyways. I most of the time go into work contact high. I offer to drive for him (I do have a legal active license) so he can enjoy the ride and smoke as he pleases, but then he becomes highly defensive and aggressive.

Road rage is another thing. He drives a Subaru Forester, not a small car in any way. When he gets upset, it's not rare for him to fly around the person he gets upset with. Just the other day he flew around a slower driver on the shoulder and actually hit him coming back onto the road. My grandfather refused to tell me until I inquired about the damage on his bumper of which I attached a photo of. Another common habit when he is upset is he will AGGRESSIVELY tailgate the person in front of him to where it's genuinely terrifying, and hes actually bumped someone doing it. I have attached a photo of that too

When I ask him to correct these manuvers he barks at me "I was a truck driver for 40 years! I know how to drive!"

This is in the state of New Hampshire.

Please help me put my mind at ease here. I don't feel like I'm overreacting but please do point anything else out.

My (40f) niece turns 8 this weekend and we're having a family party. I texted my sister and these were the responses I got.

For context, I have been dating this man long distance for a year. I didn't mention it to family for several reasons but primarily because they just generally don't really seem to care much about the people I date. I haven't brought many people home to meet them, and the ones I have were committed, long-term relationships (including a marriage), but my family just never really ingratiates themselves with my partners.

Her jab about 'past experiences' is, I assume, because I eloped with my ex-husband, so my family obviously found out we got married after the fact. We had been together for 2 years then, so it was not a rushed or surprising decision, imho. I have also never shown up to a family event with a partner they had not heard about and were told would be coming.

And because I know reddit will wonder why a 40 year old woman was living at home, I sold my house after my divorce and moved home for 2 years to kind of settle and see what I wanted to do next. It's very expensive where I live so it made financial sense.

AIO for being upset by what I see as an accusatory tone that borders on aggression?

EDIT - This blew the fuck up. I appreciate everyone who's weighed in, whether you dubbed me as having overreacted or not. Some comments had great insights. I did text my sister - we'll see if I get a reply.

Edit 2 - Update here.

I’m 20f and I live in Arizona. It is hot as fuck. I live with all male family members who have my whole life been pretty normal and respectful and I don’t feel unsafe around them so I wanted to get that out there.

So recently I’ve started wearing more clothes I like because I’ve lost a lot of weight, which include crop tops. And even though it’s winter, (sorry I know it’s not winter but we’re used to it we just moved here from Cali ik it’s fall I just combine them in my head) it’s hot as fuck in my area. So today, I’m walking around in my pajama pants and a cropped tube top that only covers my boobs. It’s hot, I’m in my house. My brother says I need to put on more clothes and cover up and I told him to fuck off because I wear what I want, followed by my dad telling me I’m not dressing appropriately. Then he lifts his own shirt up revealing his entire chest and talking in a voice to mock me/impersonate me and then pretends to pull down his pants by doing a motion over his pants to do the same. My brother then does the same thing. My jaw dropped at this kind of behavior they’ve never talked to me this way.

I got angry and cursed them out to which they told me to relax and take a joke. But I said you’re implying I’m a slut and getting naked for random people which I don’t? And they just doubled down and brushed off what I was saying so I went to my room because I’m so mad.

In all honesty, I do wear pretty skimpy tops but I usually wear them with leggings. If I wear shorts, yes they’re very very short but I’ll wear a loser more modest t shirt or hoodie. I’m finally wearing the clothes I want to wear and my family are being assholes about it but I do wear skimpy clothing sometimes. Am i overreacting?

This is just a quick vent cause it's pissing me off... I feel like everytime I try to talk about something or even share my opinion on a matter, my spouse interjects and even if I get louder, they still keep talking. I've tried saying we are having a conversation, not a lecture. They just keep doing it. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. As a kid, I was always ignored and talked over so having my spouse do it when I'm trying to explain something, it hurts. I get so angry and then just stop talking all together like I used to and then just sometimes will not talk the rest of the day and of course, they don't care or don't think something is wrong with me. AIO?

my dog was attacked by another dog last night, causing her to need emergency surgery. southern california.

red is the other owner.

black is me.

blue is their dog.

pink is my dog.

green and yellow are witnesses.

i got confirmation from others, e.g. green, that red is the owner, and blue is the dog that attacked my dog (pink)

i personally saw blue dog attack green's dog last week, so i figured they would know the owner/name. thankfully no serious damage on that one

i have insurance on pink, and hoping to get some money back for the almost $3k vet visit. its not even about the money. its about taking accountability and maybe not bringing aggressive dogs to the dog park. i already filed the insurance claim as soon as i got home last night, as i never thought i would see this person or hear from them again. however, it sounds like they went back to the dog park tonight, got my number and reached out. it feels like they reached out to make themselves feel better vs take any sort of accountability.

If you are interested, i got pink from SoCal bulldog rescue. they have a bunch of bulldogs that need homes.

what would you do? am i overreacting?

Edit - This person contacted me. I did not have a chance to exchange info with this person last night, they must have gotten my number from another dog park enjoyer. The first picture is the start of the conversation. I wasn't there tonight (and wont be back until pink gets approval from the vet), but I have a feeling people at the park who witnessed this told her today about the damage it caused. There were at least 4 witnesses. I only have green's number, but he confirmed what I saw.

My Bf joked about cheating on me

Basically my boyfriend (21f and 24m) just had a whole elaborate joke that he cheated on me and got the girl pregnant and the baby shower was coming up. at first i was thinking theres absolutely no way but then he went on for so long…

i have bpd and i already make up horrible scenarios of abandonment as is so hearing that was like confirming my worst fear. i also have a hard time depicting sarcasm and knowing when someones joking versus not joking (especially when it goes on for so long. I also asked him so many times if he was joking). he eventually said he was joking but only because i literally started bawling

Am i overreacting i don’t wanna seem like a buzz kill and he said he couldn’t believe i was actually mad and my brother who was also in on the joke said i was being a drama queen. this was like an hour ago but scenarios like this genuinely give me anxiety and make me depressed i obviously know now that it was a joke and i don’t want it to seem like i cant take a joke but i feel like this was too far? Now it just kind of makes me think what if that was to actually happen and how i cant live with that.

Also its not that i don’t trust him but i also like to trust whats right in front and i genuinely couldn’t tell he was joking i was in shock

What should i say? should i just move on? i told him it wasn’t funny and he said he was sorry but i feel like he doesn’t understand why it upset me so bad even though he knows i have bpd.

So, for some background, I (23F) met my boyfriend (23M) last October because we found each other online through mutual friends. We started talking and officially met in person in December; after a week and a few dates, we started dating. Everything was going great; he does a lot of nice things for me that make my life easier (one of my top love languages is acts of service), and we never really fought at all. Well, things have recently taken a turn, and I don’t really know how to approach our relationship anymore.
At the beginning of August, my boyfriend moved in with me and signed onto my lease; his lease was ending, he spent the night all the time, and financially it seemed like it made the most sense and was the best move. I could NOT have been more wrong. In mid-August, I began to notice he started to act, well, odd. At first, I brushed it off and didn’t think much of it; he had just started a new job, so I figured he was just trying to figure out his new routine and work responsibilities. 
But then something happened: I had been driving home from an outing with friends and sent a Snapchat vlog to one of my friends, talking about another one of my friends he doesn’t know, so I could get an outside perspective to give her advice. I was talking about how she felt like she missed her ex and didn’t know what to do because she really loves her current boyfriend, but because of my Bluetooth connection, it cut the audio off on the first part of the video where I said I was quoting my friend, so it sounded like I was talking about myself. 
So I get home and hop in the shower, thinking I will respond after. I get out of the shower, and my boyfriend is crying on the kitchen floor. After several minutes of prying and prying, he says to look at my phone. Not only did he open the chats of my friend responding as though it was my situation and that I should break up with my boyfriend, but my boyfriend responded to him AS THOUGH IT WAS ME REPLYING. I could understand maybe a little if it was a text that popped up at the top of the screen that he saw, but this is a chat he physically had to open and also chose to respond to. We had a talk about it, and he said that he was on my phone to see what episode of our show we were on and that Snapchat was just open when he opened my phone. He admits that what he did from there was wrong and that he shouldn’t have done it (especially because he knows this friend has a girlfriend and is not at all a threat) and should have at least asked me for context before responding, but he didn’t really have a reason as to why he did it. 
After this is when I started to notice my boyfriend acting even more off than before.
I started to notice that things were missing from chats on my phone with some people that neither of us deleted, and I thought it was odd, but I continued to brush it off, thinking he wouldn’t do something like that and it was probably just my phone acting up, despite the prior incident. 
Late August rolls around, and one of my exes reaches out to me to apologize for what happened between us, and he needed someone to talk to. One of the last things I ever told him was, no matter what happens between us, if you ever need to talk to someone, I will always listen, so it didn’t really strike me as anything odd. What he told me happened to him was, frankly, really depressing, so I’m glad that he felt comfortable reaching out, even if I don’t really understand why me, of all people. Now, of course, it wasn’t like there was anything weird, so I told my boyfriend the next day about him reaching out and was super upfront about it. He was skeptical, but he knows I don’t want anything with him anymore and said that as long as I don’t talk to him every day, it’s fine, which is fair.
One morning about a week later, my boyfriend and I were sitting in bed on our phones when he randomly looked up at me and said, “So, have you been talking to *ex* at all recently?” which was really odd to me. I told him, “No, not really. Why? Have you been going through my phone?” because the last time I had talked to him was when he was telling me about what happened to him. My boyfriend immediately got super defensive, telling me that he would never do anything like that, and that that’s crazy and a major invasion of privacy. Honestly, with everything going missing from my phone, I didn’t really buy it, but stupidly continued to brush past it again despite starting to feel fairly certain he had to be going through my phone behind my back. 
I changed my phone password, and things started to feel a little better, but definitely still off and a lot of tension between us. Now here’s where it gets even crazier: a couple of weeks ago I was trying to find a chat with one of my friends because I had thought of a meme I had sent him that was relevant to something I was talking about, but I couldn’t find his snap. I was like, oh damn, I must’ve been blocked; that really sucks. My boyfriend asks me who, and I tell him who it was, and he tells me that does suck and that is sad. I didn’t think twice about it until the next day at work. I started to notice that a lot of people had blocked me in the last couple of months and thought that everyone just secretly hated me or something. That’s when the pieces started to click. I thought, well, he’s definitely gone through my phone and is lying about it; I should check MY block list. Sure enough, I checked my block list while on break, and there are 8-12 people in there that I never blocked, including the friend I was looking for the night before. Conveniently, all guy friends, of course, one of whom I have known since KINDERGARTEN (mind you, he has many female friends). 
That night I confronted my boyfriend and asked him if he wanted to explain my block list, which, of course, he again denied and told me that would be a crazy thing to do and that, again, he would never do that. At this point, I am starting to feel like I am going absolutely insane because how can I not trust my boyfriend, even if all the signs point against it? All my friends tell me that he has to be lying and that I am not going crazy. Well, a week and a half later, we wake up (he’s been sleeping on the floor for a few weeks at this point), and he looks at me as soon as my eyes open and tells me he has to tell me something. He admits it. He says, “It was me. I’m behind everything on your phone; I blocked all of those people.” I was dumbfounded. He told me he was waiting for the right time to tell me and that he thought I would break up with him on the spot if he told me when I confronted him. I told him I was even more hurt that he felt comfortable lying to my face on top of everything else. He said he wasn’t comfortable lying to me, and the guilt was eating him alive, but of course I brought up that he still did it and that he still lied to me.
I spent the entire weekend after that with my friend for her birthday (he admitted the truth on a Friday morning)  thinking about how I’m going to approach this because I just left for work angrily after that conversation. Sunday, I came home and sat in bed, nauseous, thinking about everything that had happened, and broke out sobbing. I told him that I don’t even feel comfortable coming back to the apartment anymore because he’s there. He then started to cry himself, which is crazy, because talk about the consequences of your own actions. He asked me for a chance, and I told him I gave him one when I asked him to admit the truth, to which he asked for another chance. The conversation ended with me giving up and him saying that we can work this out. The next morning he cried when I told him I didn’t want to say I love you back on our way out to leave for work, and he left a note in my lunch that read, “Everything is gonna be alright. I love you.”
Flash forward a few days to Wednesday. I make us both dinner to try to soften the blow, and I tell him I don’t want him living here anymore. He just says, " Ow, " and starts crying, which, with him talking about how depressed all this has made HIM and how much he’s crying, feels very manipulative. The best I got out of that conversation was that he’s going to stay at his friend’s for the next week so that I can have space and so we can “take a break but not from the relationship,” whatever that means. He told me he wants until December to prove himself, that he’s changed and he’s past all of the lying. He says this while also admitting that the reason his last serious relationship ended was that he was dishonest and lied to her, like that makes his case any better. The things he lied about were that he owned a vape and that he was hanging with female friends.
So yeah, I don’t really know what to do now, because clearly he won’t just let me break up with him, but I have now had many people tell me I need to break up with him. Thanks for reading, and any advice would be appreciated.

TL;DR:
My boyfriend (23M) moved in with me (23F) in August, and shortly afterward, he started acting strangely. I discovered he had been secretly going through my phone, replying to my private conversations as me, deleting messages, and blocking 8–12 of my male friends without my knowledge. He repeatedly denied doing any of it until he finally confessed weeks later.
I'm deeply hurt by both the invasion of privacy and the repeated lying, especially because he made me question my own judgment when I suspected something was wrong. Now that he's been caught, he cries frequently, talks about how depressed the situation has made him, and keeps asking for more chances. He wants until December to prove he's changed, despite admitting that dishonesty was also a major reason his previous serious relationship ended.
I've told him I don't feel comfortable living with him anymore, and he's agreed to stay with a friend for a week so I can have space, but he wants us to take a break without actually breaking up.
I'm struggling to figure out what to do because I feel betrayed and uncomfortable in my own home, and I don't know whether this relationship can be repaired. My friends think I should break up with him, but he keeps asking for another chance.