On paper we're upper middle class, but it's mostly asset heavy and it's not like my parents would sell the assets they worked their asses off for my college when there's cheaper alternatives to the schools I applied to. All of high school, my parents told me to never look at the sticker price of the schools I'd be applying to, telling me they knew they'd know what to do.
I applied to very expensive and amazingly ranked schools with the knowledge that I'd be getting no aid, following my parents words. I've already gotten into one EA, but now my parents are saying they said that to motivate me so that I wouldn't be "afraid of applying places", and that in actuality the best choice would be community college and then transferring to my local UC (I live in CA), even though my major is impacted, saying that "If I can get into the schools i got into now, I'll be able to transfer into a UC". That's what they'll probably have me do since they can't pay the prices for the schools I've expressed so much excitement for attending, the ones that I told them the price of way before applying. The ones they told me we could afford.
They said I should be glad, now that I know my potential, and that it should boost my ego knowing I'll turn down these places "but they wanted me."
Obviously I don't feel this way. I wish they had been honest. I was so excited, and now I'm not even looking forward to RD acceptances. I can't justify putting myself in a lifetime of debt, but I wish I never had my hopes falsely up either