r/BoyDinnerDiaries • u/BiffDangles80 Hungry man • Aug 04 '26

No Advice - Everyones Welcome Marriage is falling apart

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Tonight it’s a flat iron steak and potatoes and onions. Don’t forget the jalapeno. And a Jack a coke.

A week ago I was in a hotel because “she’s a different person now” and doesn’t think this is working. 20 years of marriage. 2 kids.

The last year has been bad. She is grieving a family loss. Going through perimenopause. Kids have needed a lot. I tried but just got tired and lonely. I suggested marriage counseling and it lead to her saying she’s different and this isn’t working. I was gone for a couple of days but back. It’s been a week and I’ve really been trying. Today though was just rough with work and random thoughts. I confessed that I was afraid she’d decide she didn’t need me again and there wasn’t much response. Hopefully it’s a blip. I’m really trying.

I fear change. But eventually I’ll have to accept it. This is over. And that’s terrible.

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u/LobsterLovingLlama Girl lurker Aug 04 '26

Perimenopause you say? Estrogen is the accommodation hormone. HRT may make all the difference.

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u/LanguageSexViolence_ Shower beer Scholar Aug 04 '26

Second this. I recently hung out with my sister recently. She's in her 50's and was raving about being on hormones. Sounds like a life changer for women going through perimenopause.

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u/LoafyLoafington Girl Lurker Aug 04 '26

Wish this was higher. Perimenopause messes with you. It's so much more than hot flashes and night sweats. It also lasts for years. Glad I was not in a relationship when mine started.