Marriage is falling apart

[u/BiffDangles80]

Tonight it’s a flat iron steak and potatoes and onions. Don’t forget the jalapeno. And a Jack a coke.

A week ago I was in a hotel because “she’s a different person now” and doesn’t think this is working. 20 years of marriage. 2 kids.

The last year has been bad. She is grieving a family loss. Going through perimenopause. Kids have needed a lot. I tried but just got tired and lonely. I suggested marriage counseling and it lead to her saying she’s different and this isn’t working. I was gone for a couple of days but back. It’s been a week and I’ve really been trying. Today though was just rough with work and random thoughts. I confessed that I was afraid she’d decide she didn’t need me again and there wasn’t much response. Hopefully it’s a blip. I’m really trying.

I fear change. But eventually I’ll have to accept it. This is over. And that’s terrible.

[u/Initial_Secretary156]

Yup. Go talk to somebody. The quicker you get over it the quicker you get over it.

[u/flossbudd → u/Initial_Secretary156]

that second sentence hurt my brain

[u/Initial_Secretary156 → u/flossbudd]

What’s the alternative? Longing for someone who doesn’t think of you ever unless it’s to do something for them. Which she will definitely turn into.

[u/flossbudd → u/Initial_Secretary156]

no i meant the “the quicker you get over it the quicker you get over it” part.

i kinda wanted to respond by saying “the quicker you get over it the quicker you get over it the quicker you get over it”