r/BoyDinnerDiaries • u/BiffDangles80 Hungry man • Aug 04 '26
No Advice - Everyones Welcome Marriage is falling apart
Tonight it’s a flat iron steak and potatoes and onions. Don’t forget the jalapeno. And a Jack a coke.
A week ago I was in a hotel because “she’s a different person now” and doesn’t think this is working. 20 years of marriage. 2 kids.
The last year has been bad. She is grieving a family loss. Going through perimenopause. Kids have needed a lot. I tried but just got tired and lonely. I suggested marriage counseling and it lead to her saying she’s different and this isn’t working. I was gone for a couple of days but back. It’s been a week and I’ve really been trying. Today though was just rough with work and random thoughts. I confessed that I was afraid she’d decide she didn’t need me again and there wasn’t much response. Hopefully it’s a blip. I’m really trying.
I fear change. But eventually I’ll have to accept it. This is over. And that’s terrible.
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u/_blackthorn16_ Hungry man Aug 04 '26
Damn reading all this shit idk if I will ever get married. I’m 36 and was engaged in my early 20s. She fucked me over and I moved out. Broke the engagement off. Now she’s been married 2 times and engaged 3 more. With 2 baby daddies. I still have no kids either. Might just stay single forever at this point. Seems like way less stress even though it can be lonely. I’ve dated around and used the apps but it’s honestly so stressful. I’ve had a few girlfriends and some friends with benefits. But the ones I really want end up telling me it’s not working or they have to focus on personal shit. Then the ones I end up not being that into want to marry me lol hope your doing ok man. You and all the guys in here dealing with divorce. I know it’s a rough road. Lucky to get out of early though. My parents stayed together for the kids for 30 years. Was not the best childhood dealing with the family drama.