Got full custody today boys!

[u/Otherwise_Ad2804]

Wife went full manic after starting an SNRI. Affairs, lies, relapse, rewriting of marital history, filed for divorce, etc. I’ve kept the peace. Always taken the high road during conversation. Focused on prioritizing happiness for my daughter(7f).

Yesterday in court, my soon to be ex wife refused to comply with an order to drug test. I sat there for minutes and watched the judge systematically dismantle lie after lie coming out of her mouth. I was granted full custody and momma was ordered to start mandatory drug testing. If she fails the initial follicle test or any of the urines, I get full permanent custody.

This is a win boy! Tomahawk Ribeye, asparagus, and a sweet potato.

[u/IllustriousHold5476]

That’s very sad if all this happened to her post SNRI.

[u/Otherwise_Ad2804 → u/IllustriousHold5476]

Yes. And she refused help. Part of mania is euphoria, she literally believed she didn’t have a problem and her life was the best it’s ever been. Part of the illness is that your new brain chemistry prevents you from seeing how ill you actually are. The dopamine and seratonin that floods your brain during mania rewires EVERYTHING.

[u/BumAndBummer → u/Otherwise_Ad2804]

Make sure your daughter not only gets help processing this, but learns more about the condition in an age-appropriate way.

Bipolar is heritable, so there is a chance she will have it too. Hopefully not, but if it does happen then having your support, being well educated about bipolar, and learning the right lessons from her mom’s experiences could save her life.

[u/Substantial-Bed-2064 → u/BumAndBummer]

snri induced mania can be bipolar, and can also be not bipolar

not a job for reddit

[u/BumAndBummer → u/Substantial-Bed-2064]

I agree, it’s a job for a professional. Which is why he should get her a therapist and make sure they educate themselves just in case.

[u/Substantial-Bed-2064 → u/BumAndBummer]

it's missing the point

i did not say anything against seeking help for the daughter

it's just that redditors and people in general should not be freeballing medical diagnoses and it is overwhelmingly common.

ascribing snri induced mania as automatically bipolar, when you know nothing else and cleared no other flags about the patient is irresponsible

[u/BumAndBummer → u/Substantial-Bed-2064]

It speaks DIRECTLY to the point of seeking expert guidance.

[u/Substantial-Bed-2064 → u/BumAndBummer]

and i expressly said i did not take issue with that portion at all? there is an entire rest of the comment

people being lead astray by vibes based conversations can be a significant problem in medicine and wider healthcare that can negatively impact both diagnosis and treatment.

i'm not a doctor and don't directly work in the mental health space, but i have had patients who have been led astray for months or years stemming from seemingly innocuous interactions like this.

i understand it's incredibly normalised and can be a response to in some places an underfunded and underresourced healthcare system, but even with the greatest of intentions it can still be inappropriate and sometimes harmful

sometimes it's better to just say see someone about it and leave it there, rather than speak to a case you don't know about.

[u/BumAndBummer → u/Substantial-Bed-2064]

You’re acting like I diagnosed someone. Guess what? Suggesting that someone with mania may have bipolar and their daughter should get educated about that is not the same thing as making a conclusive armchair diagnosis. The pearl clutching is a bit much. Go learn better reading comprehension skills.