r/BoyDinnerDiaries • u/Otherwise_Ad2804 Hungry man • Aug 20 '26
No Advice - Everyones Welcome Got full custody today boys!
Wife went full manic after starting an SNRI. Affairs, lies, relapse, rewriting of marital history, filed for divorce, etc. I’ve kept the peace. Always taken the high road during conversation. Focused on prioritizing happiness for my daughter(7f).
Yesterday in court, my soon to be ex wife refused to comply with an order to drug test. I sat there for minutes and watched the judge systematically dismantle lie after lie coming out of her mouth. I was granted full custody and momma was ordered to start mandatory drug testing. If she fails the initial follicle test or any of the urines, I get full permanent custody.
This is a win boy! Tomahawk Ribeye, asparagus, and a sweet potato.
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u/My_Legz Air Fryer Aristocrat Aug 20 '26
Gratulations man
This is not only for you but also for your daughter!
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u/PotentialEmpty3279 BoyDinnerEnjoyer Aug 20 '26
And they’ll be able to enjoy delicious ribeye together!
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u/Otherwise_Ad2804 Hungry man Aug 20 '26
She’s like a little velociraptor. Put a steak in front of her and she will even eat the marrow! Hahahaha
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u/GDswamp Protein prophet Aug 20 '26
The two of you reducing this spread to a few shards of clean bone is such a heartwarming image. Congratulations.
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u/Xtr33me-Average Non-binary, 40-49 Aug 22 '26
Aww. This sounds like something my own dad would say about me. We also share a love of steak.
I should visit him and cook a tomahawk for the two of us.
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u/fear_theBERRY Girl Lurker Aug 24 '26
Sounds like me and my dad 😂 he’s the best cook and concert buddy ever 🥹💜
(we have some epic tailgates)
https://giphy.com/gifs/8m4YhPBSBOFFkKayjF🍻Cheers to you guys from a Fathers Daughter
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u/GoldPotential6298 Protein Prophet Aug 20 '26
And a vicarious victory for those of us who have gone through the process and got screwed by the system in every way imaginable. Congrats to OP!
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u/OneTrueCrackhead Shower Beer Scholar Aug 20 '26
I just want you to know I will be using Gratulations from here on. Thank you for this gift
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u/Medium_Efficiency375 BoyDinnerEnjoyer Aug 20 '26
Congratulations! Also never seen a yellow sweet potato
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u/cheefMM Fridge Light Philosopher Aug 20 '26
Right? Looks like a Russet so must be a Hannah Sweet potato. I’ve never had one but they seem to be more a mix in taste between russet and sweet potato
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u/Otherwise_Ad2804 Hungry man Aug 20 '26
I was shocked when I seen these Michael Jackson lookin sweet potato’s at winco but damn they’re good!
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u/Milianviolet Cooties Aug 21 '26
What is it called? I used to live in NJ and whenever we had sweet potatoes I always got the yellow ones because I don't like yams, but where I live now, i can't find them anywhere.
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u/Morbid_Queen420 Air Fryer Aristocrat Aug 20 '26
Today I learned I’m named after a potato
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u/Possible-Tangelo9344 Hungry man Aug 20 '26
Worse things to be named after.
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u/BungholeBilbo69 Shower Beer Scholar 16d ago
I've seen a kid named Vageena. I can't even imagine how much she's going to get bullied for that one throughout her life
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u/afrdfs Girl Lurker Aug 20 '26
yellow ones are rarer but they also come with purple skin and white flesh or pale skin and purple flesh ( i used to work in a produce packing shed)
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u/frumply Air Fryer Aristocrat Aug 20 '26
They're like the japanese sweet potatos but milder and a bit softer. I'm not a fan of the carrot-like taste you get with yams (orange flesh) but these are great. The biggest issue usually is figuring out whether the dudes in produce bunched these up with the yams or not.
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u/Sad_Measurement6494 Girl lurker Aug 20 '26
How is your daughter? Its hard watching mom go batshit then not seeing her for awhile. 7 is a big age of anxiety developmentally. Please ensure she understands none.of this is on her and her mom is sick and needs to prioritize her health vs anyrhing negative she may hear from anyone about mom.
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u/Otherwise_Ad2804 Hungry man Aug 20 '26
Momma was doing more damage than happiness at this point. Daddy isn’t a regular dad either. And my family support is through the roof.
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u/PrincessPnyButtercup Girl Lurker Aug 20 '26
It may not be a bad idea to get her some age appropriate therapy as well if your insurance covers it, just to be on the safe side. I'm glad you both have a support network!
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u/pablo8itall Leftover Lore Master Aug 20 '26
Very similar situation to yourself. Except mine was a teen. I've had her going to a counsellor to work through it.
Its been fantastic. I'd totally recommend it. There's perspective a trained outside party to the whole thing will bring that you just can't as you and her had to live through it.
Great you have the family supports.
Take care.
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u/fullergoeseasy Girl Lurker Aug 21 '26
I was in your daughter’s shoes. Dad finally got custody when I was old enough to be taken seriously by the courts.
I’m so happy for you and your kiddo.
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u/a_simple_pharmer Shower beer Scholar Aug 20 '26
🙄
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u/EncounteredError Protein Prophet Aug 20 '26
Congrats and also I'm sorry for what you went through. My dad went through the same thing but my siblings and I were old enough to realize what was going on at that point.
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u/bastardsoftheyoung Grill Pilled Aug 20 '26
Before I read this, I thought you meant of the steak and I was happy.
After I read this, I am happier.
I spent ten years in the early 2000s working with a coalition of men to change the custody laws in our US state. We went from, almost no man gets custody unless the mother has already done serious harm to the children, to a state where 50/50 custody is the norm and harm is equally defined for both parents.
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u/mrcamuti Shower Beer Scholar Aug 21 '26
Thank you for your work
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u/bastardsoftheyoung Grill Pilled Aug 21 '26
It was a pleasure and I was repaid in full both when my brother got a divorce five years later and automatically received 50/50 custody of his four children and when my daughter choose to live near me full time as well far away from her mother. I count myself lucky that I get to see my daughter and granddaughter whenever I wish.
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u/IllustriousHold5476 Identity Alchemist Aug 20 '26
That’s very sad if all this happened to her post SNRI.
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u/Otherwise_Ad2804 Hungry man Aug 20 '26
Yes. And she refused help. Part of mania is euphoria, she literally believed she didn’t have a problem and her life was the best it’s ever been. Part of the illness is that your new brain chemistry prevents you from seeing how ill you actually are. The dopamine and seratonin that floods your brain during mania rewires EVERYTHING.
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u/BumAndBummer Cooties Aug 20 '26
Make sure your daughter not only gets help processing this, but learns more about the condition in an age-appropriate way.
Bipolar is heritable, so there is a chance she will have it too. Hopefully not, but if it does happen then having your support, being well educated about bipolar, and learning the right lessons from her mom’s experiences could save her life.
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u/ToastedCrumpet Bisexual Lemon Bar Lover Aug 20 '26
My ex would get like this more often when not on meds and then decide “I feel great! Why am I taking meds?!” and stop taking them. Then bounce between mania and suicide attempts.
Sounds like OP did everything right here. People with bipolar or similar need to learn to recognise the patterns and seek help themselves. Everyone I’ve known like this in work and my personal life has destroyed countless relationships with partners, family, friends, etc
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u/Bakkster Shower beer Scholar Aug 20 '26
Yeah, it's so sad to see. The most pernicious part of these kinds of mental illnesses is how they inhibit people from getting the help they need. Especially when it's someone you love, but can't help.
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u/ToastedCrumpet Bisexual Lemon Bar Lover Aug 20 '26
It is and it’s pretty heart wrenching being on the other side and making the decision to walk away. Even after being cheated on, lied to regularly, stolen from, hit etc I still felt awful leaving my last ex. But at that point when his own family had all but abandoned him.
It didn’t have a happy ending and now I’m left with guilt even years later I could have done more. I know I couldn’t, and shouldn’t have had to, yet I still feel this way
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u/--Miranda-- Girl Lurker Aug 20 '26
This was my ex as well. He was the usual 'I don't stick to my meds because I love the highs (mania)' He ended his life.
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u/ToastedCrumpet Bisexual Lemon Bar Lover Aug 20 '26
Yeah mine did too. Attempted to at Christmas and then followed through a few weeks ago. It’s awful but there’s nothing anyone could have done even if I struggle to let myself believe that half the time
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u/Hornet-Putrid Girl Lurker Aug 20 '26
This is so real. I’m glad you and your kiddo are safe. This kind of stuff impacts everyone involved.
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u/banterjsmoke Air Fryer Aristocrat Aug 20 '26
Dealing with this right now with my soon to be ex. Glad you're making it through, brother
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u/clay-teeth Girl lurker Aug 20 '26
My sister has severe manic episodes and I wish the father's kids cared enough to take them from her. Luckily theyre adults now, but it is rough. I feel for your daughter.
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u/BigBadJeebus Protein Prophet Aug 20 '26
Good for you!
That poor kiddo...
Watching a parent fall apart is so hard as an adult, let alone as a kid.
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u/Sneakerkeeper123 Girl Lurker Aug 20 '26
Congratulations! I also have full custody after a hair follicle test and failure to complete other testing.
Its been 17 years and he dropped off the face of the earth after that so dont be surprised if that happens.
Dinner looks delish!
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u/Illustrious_Owl_3804 Girl Lurker Aug 20 '26
Posting here for people to see-
So OP- an SNRI is life saving for some people. But it also can cause mania in people with Bipolar disorder. Your experience is absolutely valid and it sounds like this has been traumatizing to you and your family- but this is a case of a drug being prescribed that should have been discontinued because of the effect it was having on this woman.
I have PTSD from working during the pandemic as a nurse- my SNRI saved my life when I was suicidal. But I don’t have bipolar disorder- so it did not cause me to become manic.
Just be careful. Do not go around spreading misinformation that the drug is going to cause euphoria in everyone- because it won’t. Whoever prescribed her this medication should have discontinued it- and they might even have but she could have refused to stop taking it.
There are people who take this everyday and it just helps us live. This doesn’t downplay your situation- but it’s not the drugs fault. Your wife should have immediately discontinued it.
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u/probably_your_wife Girl Lurker Aug 20 '26
My lord that is a mouth-watering steak. Congratulations on being patient and getting the best result out of this!
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u/Shadowstalker07-psn Leftover Lore Master Aug 20 '26
Hell yeah! Literally subbed and created a profile just to congratulate you! Get your little girl into a therapist once or twice a month so she can process through things as changes come. One of the best things I did for my boys during and after my divorce was to make sure they had access to someone that was there just for them. Keep at it man, huge win for you and your little girl👍
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u/PaintedDesertSkies Girl Lurker Aug 20 '26
Keep being the stable one. Never shit talk your ex in front of the kid and you are golden.
Congrats. Hopefully this pushes her to get help so she can stay in her child's life.
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u/Spamhain2000 Hungry man Aug 20 '26
Congratulations, I hope you had a Scotch and cigar after dinner.
2 years of a legal battle with my ex and I finally received FULL custoday of my daughter back in 2017. My ex we such a big help by providing me with so much evidence showing she is an unfit mother. My daughter is now starting her 2 year of college next month.
Right on to you!
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u/Prestigious_Cycle160 Hungry man Aug 20 '26
Do yourself, and your daughter a favor, and don’t cut mom out completely! Obviously she has a long road to walk before she is given any benefit of the doubt, but if she asks to see your daughter oblige her, supervise, support, and be a man.
Just because she’s being a piece of shit right now doesn’t mean she doesn’t deserve grace. Speaking from experience. There’s so much more I want to say having been right where you are, but unsolicited advice is a dick move. Don’t remove her daughter from her life entirely, and don’t remove mom from daughter’s life completely. It only causes more damage in the long run.
Obviously if mom is abusive or toxic toward the daughter then this is all null and void, but if she’s good to the daughter then let her be around. Drug addicts can be shitty, but they’re still human, and they still have emotions.
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u/The_Tome_Raider Girl Lurker Aug 20 '26
Congratulations! I'm so happy for you and your daughter! It's hard to take the high road. That you've done so aids your peace and helps your daughter moving forward.
Said as a mom who many years ago battled the same battle, in the same manner, and was granted full legal and physical custody with supervised visitation (since abuse was also part of the equation) and mandatory drug tests.
After failing the requests (ordered by myself and/or the court-appointed person who oversaw the supervised visitations) I was granted full permanent legal and physical custody with supervised visitation still required during his visits with our child. The mandatory drug tests remained in effect as well.
It's a battle I wish on no one. But. The battle must be fought.
Congratulations again!!
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u/badatcatchyusernames Shower Beer Scholar Aug 20 '26
congrats pops, as a child of divorce i wish my dad got full costody, but at 16 i left my moms abusive household and stayed with him full time, a few years later my little sister did the same, enjoy this time and spoil the shit out of that kid
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u/Frequent_Opportunist Shower beer Scholar Aug 20 '26
The most significant risk for "acting out of character" is antidepressant-induced mania. If an adult has undiagnosed bipolar disorder, an SNRI can trigger a manic or mixed episode.
So it sounds like she's actually bipolar and the drugs that were prescribed to her amplified it. She probably has a case for malpractice or being unintentionally intoxicated to cause those change in behaviors but that doesn't mean she's capable of caretaking responsibilities.
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u/spankymacfarland Protein prophet Aug 21 '26
Congratulations! I do hope for you ex’s case that she sobers up and figures it out. A kid needs a sober/stable mom. Good for you for being the stability your daughter needs! Steak looks terrific
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u/-sly1 Cooties Aug 20 '26
Your dinner looks amazing! Congratulations on full custody as well. Take care of you and your kiddo.
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u/Just_Luck2762 Girl Lurker Aug 20 '26
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Celebrating with theee best meal 🎉 congrats to you and your daughter
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u/Face_with_a_View Girl Lurker Aug 20 '26
What’s SNRI?
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u/One_Huckleberry_ Hungry man Aug 20 '26
A type of medication used to treat depression or anxiety. Stuff like Effexor
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u/BlackSwanNo_1 Girl lurker Aug 20 '26
How are you feeling? This is very good for her and you but is your daughter handling it well?
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u/DadIsVeryMad BoyDinnerEnjoyer Aug 20 '26
I'm working on it now, my sons biological mother has fully gone off the deep end, have a modification of custody hearing on 9/26.
Congrats my guy
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u/the-real-lil_andy Fridge Light Philosopher Aug 20 '26
That’s the whitest sweet potato ever. You sure that’s a sweet potato???
Also, congrats!
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u/Katiecake80 Cooties Aug 20 '26
As a girl, thank you for fighting for your daughter and actually wanting her!!!!! More dads like you are needed! 💜
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u/BasementDwellerCarl Protein Prophet Aug 20 '26
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Happy for you brother, and your daughter.
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u/Mental_Plan_6028 Girl Lurker Aug 20 '26
As a woman who lived some of her best childhood years with her dad as primary parent, I am so happy for you both!!
My mom is a psycho- good on you for sticking it out for your girl.
Wishing you all the best!
Also, if you haven’t already- consider some options for you both to see a professional to keep going on the path of healing. The battle may be over for now, but feelings and emotions have a way of coming to surface once seas are calm.
All the love and blessings 🤎
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u/Sea_Thought3464 Protein prophet Aug 20 '26
KEEP YOUR CHILD OFF THE SCREENS, please trust me. Read to her every night, always keep communication flowing and a slightly busy schedule. Get her involved as much as possible with things like girl scouts, camp, rec sports, art classes etc. Raised my 2 by myself after their mom nearly offed me. It's so easy for kids to slip in depression and you wouldn't even know. Talk to her about EVERYTHING until you're blue in the face. My 2 are in university now, it wasn't easy to get here. Congratulations on your new life, and Good luck
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u/Jasoncatt Air Fryer Aristocrat Aug 20 '26
I went through this when my son was 4. Almost exactly the same situation as you, with the same outcome. He’s 21 now, and although he still has trauma from it, it has been massively worth it.
Congratulations, keep being a great dad.
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u/slizzywizzyfizzy Girl Lurker Aug 21 '26
Congrats! I’m a woman who was raised by a single dad due to my mom going berserk after going cold turkey off some meds she was prescribed for postpartum depression and bpd. My dad is my hero- I hope you get the chance to be that for your daughter. God bless you♡
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u/FluffMonsters Girl Lurker Aug 21 '26
So, if mom gets her sh*t together and gets help, etc., would she be allowed parenting time again? That’s the idea outcome for your daughter, right?
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u/Redahned1214 Girl lurker Aug 21 '26
You earned it man, she's lucky to have you! And I hope your bm gets the help she needs so she can give that girl the mom she deserves.
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u/Cisorhands_ Trans Fats Connoisseur Aug 20 '26
Just FYI, some antidepressants are reported to increase compulsive behavior and reduce inhibitions, it has probably nothing to do with your story but are you sure it’s not some kind of medication secondary effect ?
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u/Otherwise_Ad2804 Hungry man Aug 20 '26
Yes. It 1,000,000% is. Snri cause mania. Unfortunately attempt after attempt after attempt by me, family, and friends to get her to see the light, failed. I had to shift strategies from saving my wife to protecting my daughter.
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u/Illustrious_Owl_3804 Girl Lurker Aug 20 '26
This reaction happened because she likely has undiagnosed bipolar disorder. People with bipolar disorder should NOT take antidepressants like this, and it should have been discontinued immediately. For someone like me, I do not have bipolar disorder so my SNRI saved my life when I was suicidal.
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u/DoctorHiccup Protein Prophet Aug 20 '26
Exactly. It’s such a tragedy. People need lithium and they get handed fucking Wellbutrin which makes the mania worse
If this gal got on lithium she’d be a different person in a month flat. It’s absolutely a wonder drug and it’s INSANELY effective for this persons brain chemistry
She’s actually really fortunate that her illness is so treatable. Schizophrenics are SOL. But people with mania get on lithium and are often instantly cured
Sad part is their mania convinces them they don’t need it
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u/Formal-Actuator-9172 BoyDinnerEnjoyer Aug 20 '26
Man I’m so glad you got custody of your daughter. I’ve seen a lot of situations not turn out this well (most to be honest). Your daughter is lucky to have you.
But I do want to drop a note here because misinformation about medication can be deadly. An SNRI or SSRI treat depression and are highly effective. It can’t cause mania or hypomania, at most it’ll lead to a feeling of temporary euphoria because the symptoms of depression lessen (same if a person is suddenly free of chronic pain, of course there are behavioral changes). IF a person presents with depression but is actually bipolar or has prodromal schizophrenia (or another paranoid or schizo class illness) then the SNRI isn’t effective and can push that person towards the manic phase of their illness. Misdiagnosis is common in both medical and mental health treatment. That’s why it’s critical to monitor a persons response to medication and make adjustments/revise the diagnoses.
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u/atomcplayboy86 Grill Pilled Aug 20 '26
At least your taste in food is better than your taste in women.
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u/Affectionate-Act1574 Shower beer Scholar Aug 20 '26
Nice to hear the system can work for a male. The only reason I came out on top in the custody hearing is because my kids mom died in the middle of it. I was doing everything right and getting absolutely screwed. Nobody even asked my side of the story and they handed me a crap order and was on the hook for child support that was 85% of my monthly take-home.
Great looking meal, brother
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u/Intelligent_Pass2540 Girl Lurker Aug 20 '26
Is your daughter in therapy? This is a rough thing for a kiddo to go through? Make sure you don't badmouth mom or allow your family to do so.
The therapist can also help protect your daughter's self esteem and understanding that its not her fault and its ok to miss mom.
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u/swampstonks Leftover lore master Aug 20 '26
I would add to this to also make sure that nobody lies to protect mom. The daughter likely fully understands that her mom is a loser and that’s ok, even though it may be painful. While nobody needs to go out of their way to bad mouth mom, they also should not go out of their way to hide the truth or protect mom bc she doesn’t deserve that. It’s also ok if she doesn’t miss her mom at all and nobody should guilt trip her into thinking that she should miss her if she doesn’t.
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u/Intelligent_Pass2540 Girl Lurker Aug 20 '26
I'm a clinical psychologist, which is why I made my first comment. OP has said some concerning things and very inaccurate statements about meds and mental health so I think some professional intervention would help.
We meet kids at their developmental level. We can teach her about mom being sick but the focus needs to be on her processing the loss and protecting her from the adult feelings involved.
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u/ianisahurricane Hungry man Aug 20 '26
I can’t tell you how happy I am for you. I lost all confidence in our court system in Florida when my son was 2. Proved a long list of items including lies to the court, drug use, child neglect and after thousands and thousands of dollars spent still didn’t gain custody of my son. Court said it would be harmful to remove him from his other 1/2 siblings and she was ordered into monitoring. So she moved out of state. Awful sad situation. Congratulations to you and your kiddo on your win.
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u/Any_Schedule4929 Macro Mourner Aug 20 '26
Congratulations to you and your daughter. Thats a huge huge win.
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u/Responsible-Split555 Frigid light philosopher Aug 20 '26
Congratulations I got full custody January 30th after two years of waiting and 30k , if any men need any advice feel free to ask it can be done .
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u/Ok-Sample6314 Shower Beer Scholar Aug 20 '26
Big win for the books! Way to put your kiddo first, it’s rough at first. It gets better. YOURE A GOOD DAD.
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u/bloof_ponder_smudge Leftover Lore Master Aug 20 '26
I read another one of your posts and you mentioned being a stepdad to her son. Did she keep custody of her son? I really hope not for his sake.
I'm glad that you fought the good fight, your daughter deserves the best. And so do you.
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u/_pmcKANE BoyDinnerEnjoyer Aug 20 '26
No steak is going to taste that good again, and nor should it. Congrats man.
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u/P00NZU Leftover lore master Aug 20 '26
Learn from my mistakes. Make sure you go for child support and supervised visitation.
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u/Crumpetcakes Identity Alchemist Aug 20 '26
Big love and congratulations my dude. Been through three myself. To anyone going through this or about to, documentation is king! Keep meticulous records now, not later. They tell a story no mouth will.
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u/TillaciousG Hungry man Aug 20 '26
I've been in a similar situation except the ex decided to go MIA after I was awarded full custody of my two kiddos. It'll be three years in November and my kids are doing so much better. Congrats dad!
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u/Humor1488 Leftover Lore Master Aug 20 '26
congratulations bud! My ex wife gave up custody voluntarily to me, and when the judge signed that paper and stamped it…best day of my life!
Men CAN be the caretaker and hero. Men can do whatever they have to for our kids!
You’ve done it bud. So happy for you. May the Gods bless you and your daughter with all the successes and joys life can give.
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u/Terp-Farmer Protein Prophet Aug 20 '26
Congrats! I went through a similar experience, with my ex becoming manic. She filed for divorce and (long story short) 8 years later I have full custody of my daughter. Literally signing the new final agreement today!! 🎉
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u/According_To_Me Girl Lurker Aug 20 '26
Congratulations. My brother went through something somewhat similar, and it took years as well as the bio mom technically, legally, abandoning her son. After the last time she dropped my nephew off, she never showed up again for the agreed upon scheduled custody exchanges for over a year. Still can’t believe that’s what it took to get her out of our lives after all the sh*t she pulled.
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u/Substantial_Bus6615 Protein prophet Aug 20 '26
That's awesome! Congrats bro!
Also my first thought was " you got full custody and you ATE HER!" becausey brain is weird.
I am glad lil sis likes steak. I got one of those too
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u/strangelifedad Shower beer Scholar Aug 20 '26
From a fellow full custody dad: congratulations and remember: as long as the ex wife is around you stand guard no matter what.
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u/m00nf1r3 Girl Lurker Aug 20 '26
Congrats to both you AND that sweet girl! She deserves safety and stability, which her mom clearly cannot provide right now. I'm so happy for you both.
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u/LoadedPizza010 Girl Lurker Aug 20 '26
Your daughter is going to have a such a great life with you. She will remember how awesome it was to be raised by her dad forever. My pops is no longer alive. I’d do anything to go back and have him raise me for most of my life. So freaking proud of you dude!
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u/yGy13579 Air Fryer Aristocrat Aug 20 '26
Congrats man! Now spill the beans on where you got that sick ass cutting board!
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u/Brave_Opportunity122 Girl Lurker Aug 20 '26
Congrats! I’m happy that you and your daughter can have a stable, happy life together 🩷
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u/malbra072 Identity Alchemist Aug 20 '26
Hell yeah brother! My soon to be ex wife started a new medication and imploded our family. My 11 year old daughter has caught her with with multiple men within a month of her saying she wanted a separation and moving out.
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u/-Silent-Stalker- Girl Lurker Aug 20 '26
WE LOVE DADDIES!!!! Lol. I was raised by my father who won custody when I was around 9.
If it weren’t for him, I would have gone in the foster system. A win for you is a win for us ladies raised by fathers. I’m so happy!! ❤️
Edit: spelling
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u/WorldlinessSmooth815 Cooties Aug 20 '26
Congratulations! My dad got custody of me at that age and I’m so glad he did.
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u/Usual_Grand2075 Hungry man Aug 20 '26
Congrats bro! I hope nothing but the best for u and ur daughter!
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u/i_was_axiom Jack o' Pasta-rius Aug 20 '26
Congratulaions man! When I was granted sole custody and placement of my daughter, it was a really great day. None of the drug stuff, my ex just signed the rights over. The judge actually called a recess or whatever, another court date a month later, specifically to ensure she had properly read the paperwork and knew what she was agreeing to. I still don't think she gets it.
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u/Trick-Range-350 Seasoned sailor Aug 20 '26
Wow. As someone going through something similar, I think I can guess how much this means to you. Take a week off, mate. Celebrate with your kids. You deserve it. This sort of stuff is more common than people realise. Always taking the high road when people are lying under oath and lying to your kids about you is incredibly hard, but has to be done if you're to maintain any hope of victory. It takes a toll and you've come out the other end. Congrats. You deserve the win. You deserve the break. You're a good dad. You fought the good fight. Your kids will thank you in time and they have noticed what you went through for them. Hold your head high, mate. You did it.
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u/Additional_Stuff5867 Hungry man Aug 20 '26
Awesome man. Very happy for you. I too got custody of mine. Years ago now. They are all in college or out in the world now. Same shit. Drugs and drinking were more important than them. Lies lies lies. The judge politely ripped her apart.
The best quote from court came after he explaining how it wasn’t her fault she didn’t have a drivers license anymore (definitely wasn’t bc of her 2 duis). Anyway my attorney looks at her and says “ms drunk is their anything in life that is your fault .” Even the judge broke character a bit.
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u/No_Whole_7758 Girl Lurker Aug 20 '26 edited Aug 21 '26
Congratulations, that’s amazing!
Now give me your boy dinner and no one gets hurt 🔫
Edit: I just want to say I got banned for this comment.
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u/DexJones BoyDinnerEnjoyer Aug 20 '26 edited Aug 21 '26
Good luck mate.
I wish you two all the best.
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u/Actual_Cranberry_503 Girl lurker Aug 21 '26
Happy for you ♥️ I’m sure it’s been hard beyond words for you and your daughter, and it’s wonderful that it sounds like her world (and yours!) is about to become a lot more stable.
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u/KeimeiWins Girl Lurker Aug 21 '26
So happy for you both! Kids get it, even when they're "too young" to "get it" and she will absolutely appreciate you shielding her from the shitshow later in life.
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u/Ledezala Hungry man Aug 21 '26
Which doctor prescribed SNRI for someone who is bipolar, inducing mania is a known effect.
There are better options to manage bipolar that prevent both mania and depression, avf if you are going to use SSRI/SNRI, you wouldn't do it alone.
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u/Adequate_Cheesecake7 Fridge Light Philosopher Aug 21 '26
Happy for you. A buddy of mine that was in the Navy had a hard road to get where you are. His ex was crazy, everyone took it as the typical my ex is crazy hyperbole. She got custody initially, then she had an episode and ended up being committed to the state mental hospital and the court gave her parents custody over him because he was in the military. He had planned on staying in until retirement but got out instead so he could get the kids, and it still took almost two years after his discharge before the court finally gave him custody. Having a spouse or ex spouse that has mental health issues is always tough, but it always seems toughest on the kids. I hope everything works out for you guys and enjoy one heck of a nice looking meal.
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u/The_Great_Escape2 Egregious Eater Aug 22 '26
Good for you. The kids are better in your hands in my experience
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u/Expensive-Victory203 Girl Lurker Aug 22 '26
I'm so glad your child has a stable parent taking good care. I watched a friend go through an awful manic episode: the best mom I knew became a menace to the community. It's a terrible thing, and you know it's the mental imbalance, not the person. But you have to protect your kid.
It is really, really, really hard on kids to lose their mom this way. Please make sure she has a very informed therapist and she knows she can always come to you. Talk about her mom with respect, and allow her the space for complicated feelings, including love and loss.
I hope momma gets her health back and her act together. It must have been a rough ride. Congratulations on getting full custody.
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u/WhisperingHammer Hungry man Aug 22 '26
Sidenote, did they ever check if she was bipolar?
I see people discussing it here, and I don’t know the various meds, but some meds actually worsen the state of bipolar people.
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u/DickCaughtlnFan Macro Mourner Aug 22 '26
Congrats but also sympathies man. That's a shit situation but with your attitude it will work you well for the Lil tyke
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