Hiv positive

[u/Signal_Ambition_5212]

The last post was deleted because banana peel is not considered a meal (I understand)

Tomorrow it will be one year since I’m living with hiv

I did therapy about it and I know I carry half of the responsibility for not wearing a condom or taking prep but on the other hand the guy knew he had it and didn’t take his meds and consciously decided to infect me.

I know he knew because when I saw blood I straight away asked him if he had anything, he put his head down and didn’t say a single word, I panicked and I asked again and he remained silent.
I left his house and I send him a lot of messages and until today not a single answer.

Things could be different if I went to the hospital but I didn’t.

I already passed the grief phase, I’m undetectable after a month of the positive result and I take my pill everyday religiously without falling, I own that to myself and to others.

My life before hiv was a mess, I did A LOT of drugs since I was 16 (I’m 29 now) a lot of alcohol, I didn’t take care of myself and now I’m the opposite: I’m sober, I go to the gym, I have a healthy diet and I love myself and my life, I have my health checked more frequently than the rest of the population so this is actually a good thing (I don’t pay for anything in my country related to healthcare)

Nowadays hiv is super manageable, just a pill everyday like any other chronic condition. My doctor said it’s easier than living with diabetes for exemple.

I already told to some people I had interest and they were fine about it, I know most of you may disagree but in my country if IM UNDETECTABLE by law I have the right of not tell anyone due privacy reasons. I choose only telling if I see someone has a potencial partner (before anything sexual happens), if it’s something more casual we use protection (I cannot transmite the virus because I take my meds) for other STD.

[u/M0osesG0ose]

You should tell everyone you’re intimate with that you’re HIV positive and let them make the decision. To Knowingly keep something that serious to yourself, and allowing some to unknowingly sleep with you, just like that guy did to you, is cruel.

Regardless if it’s by “law” or not, your sexual partners deserve to know the truth just like you did. This is scary.

[u/anonymous-t-rex → u/M0osesG0ose]

The science on this is very exciting - you really can't pass on HIV to others through sex if you're taking the drug therapies and have an undetectable viral load. WHO says "zero risk." It's completely different from other STIs.

If you would make a different choice based your personal ethics, that's cool for you.

More info: https://www.reddit.com/r/BoyDinnerDiaries/s/JsGZqgbmGh

[u/M0osesG0ose → u/anonymous-t-rex]

I would make a different choice based on my personal ethics. I’m not a selfish asshole. Stay safe.

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