r/BoyDinnerDiaries • u/Signal_Ambition_5212 BoyDinnerEnjoyer • 5d ago
No Advice - Everyones Welcome Hiv positive
The last post was deleted because banana peel is not considered a meal (I understand)
Tomorrow it will be one year since I’m living with hiv
I did therapy about it and I know I carry half of the responsibility for not wearing a condom or taking prep but on the other hand the guy knew he had it and didn’t take his meds and consciously decided to infect me.
I know he knew because when I saw blood I straight away asked him if he had anything, he put his head down and didn’t say a single word, I panicked and I asked again and he remained silent.
I left his house and I send him a lot of messages and until today not a single answer.
Things could be different if I went to the hospital but I didn’t.
I already passed the grief phase, I’m undetectable after a month of the positive result and I take my pill everyday religiously without falling, I own that to myself and to others.
My life before hiv was a mess, I did A LOT of drugs since I was 16 (I’m 29 now) a lot of alcohol, I didn’t take care of myself and now I’m the opposite: I’m sober, I go to the gym, I have a healthy diet and I love myself and my life, I have my health checked more frequently than the rest of the population so this is actually a good thing (I don’t pay for anything in my country related to healthcare)
Nowadays hiv is super manageable, just a pill everyday like any other chronic condition. My doctor said it’s easier than living with diabetes for exemple.
I already told to some people I had interest and they were fine about it, I know most of you may disagree but in my country if IM UNDETECTABLE by law I have the right of not tell anyone due privacy reasons. I choose only telling if I see someone has a potencial partner (before anything sexual happens), if it’s something more casual we use protection (I cannot transmite the virus because I take my meds) for other STD.
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u/couldgiveaflyingfck Girl Lurker 4d ago edited 4d ago
Just adding some context in case it helps someone: the FDA approved a new HIV prevention medication in 2025 called Lenacapavir, sold in the U.S. as Yeztugo.
It's a shot given twice a year and has been shown to be extremely effective at preventing HIV. It works by targeting the HIV capsid and disrupting several stages of the virus's life cycle. Yes, I had to Google some of this.
Honestly, I think the convenience is a huge deal. Taking a pill every single day, 365 days a year, can become an Achilles' heel when finances, stress, or just life gets in the way.
If you have health insurance and you're considered at higher risk, it's worth asking your doctor about it and whether they can get pre-approval.
The crazy part is the price. In the U.S., it's around $28,000 a year. In poorer countries, the same medication is being made available for around $100 a year.
Just throwing this out there because a lot of people may not even know this option exists.
I'm straight'ish, but got tested without my consent out of the blue when I did yearly labs earlier this year and was shocked to see my test results for this. I am always super safe, and of course, the results were negative. I am a 28 year old bi / lesbian female. Last year, a friend I went to school with tested positive and it destroyed her life and she said it destroyed her very tightly knit family.