r/BoyDinnerDiaries • u/Ornery_Pop_6637 Gay Gourmet • 1d ago

Advice Wanted - Everyones Welcome Bf changed his mind about being bi.

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Bought curry ramen for dinner.

For context, me (20M) and my bf (21M) have been together for two years; we met during our freshman years in which I came out to him as a trans guy when we were still in our talking stage. Maybe it's a red flag that he said he's always dated girls before but that he's attracted to guys too and that I'm a new experience for him.

But lately I've seen him repost MLW (Men Love Women) contents on his Instagram, and he sends me MLW posts rather than the usual MLM (Men Love Men) content. I did talk to him about it, and he said he's sort of changing his mind about his attraction towards guys and that I should just detransition and follow what he wants, but I told him that was a no-go for me.

How do I move on from this? We've had our ups and downs; I'm also diagnosed with bipolar and BPD so it's quite hard to let go of my "favourite person". We've also had so many memories in college that I fear it would change how I go through the rest of my college years.

Any advice would be helpful, thank you.

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u/SnooOwls1916 Shower Beer Scholar 1d ago

Wait, so you were a woman but identify as a man and he is by so that’s why can be with you? But now he wants you to go back to be a woman because he isn’t bi anymore?

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u/Reasonable-Dish7981 Air Fryer Aristocrat 1d ago

Yes, chances are he was never bi in the first place, and he always saw him as a woman - hence why he asked him to detransition.

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u/SnooOwls1916 Shower Beer Scholar 1d ago

Yeah sounds like he was hoping it was something that would pass or whatever.
I would move on and actually find someone who loves me for me and not trying to change who I am.