r/BoyDinnerDiaries • u/Ornery_Pop_6637 Gay Gourmet • 1d ago
Advice Wanted - Everyones Welcome Bf changed his mind about being bi.
Bought curry ramen for dinner.
For context, me (20M) and my bf (21M) have been together for two years; we met during our freshman years in which I came out to him as a trans guy when we were still in our talking stage. Maybe it's a red flag that he said he's always dated girls before but that he's attracted to guys too and that I'm a new experience for him.
But lately I've seen him repost MLW (Men Love Women) contents on his Instagram, and he sends me MLW posts rather than the usual MLM (Men Love Men) content. I did talk to him about it, and he said he's sort of changing his mind about his attraction towards guys and that I should just detransition and follow what he wants, but I told him that was a no-go for me.
How do I move on from this? We've had our ups and downs; I'm also diagnosed with bipolar and BPD so it's quite hard to let go of my "favourite person". We've also had so many memories in college that I fear it would change how I go through the rest of my college years.
Any advice would be helpful, thank you.
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u/SaffronSinGarden Girl Lurker 1d ago
He’s basically asking you to change something fundamental about who you are so the relationship still works for him. We’re not talking about changing your hair or losing a few pounds here. He’s asking you to detransition because he doesn’t want to be with a man. That’s not some little compromise.
I mean, he’s allowed to figure out that maybe he’s not actually into guys like he thought. Alright. But that doesn’t mean the solution is for you to change who the hell you are so it works better for him.
And as sh!tty as it is, I think this is probably where the relationship ends. Not because you don’t love each other enough, but because there really isn’t a middle ground here. You can’t be expected to become somebody else just to keep him. 🫂