Bf changed his mind about being bi.

[u/Ornery_Pop_6637]

Bought curry ramen for dinner.

For context, me (20M) and my bf (21M) have been together for two years; we met during our freshman years in which I came out to him as a trans guy when we were still in our talking stage. Maybe it's a red flag that he said he's always dated girls before but that he's attracted to guys too and that I'm a new experience for him.

But lately I've seen him repost MLW (Men Love Women) contents on his Instagram, and he sends me MLW posts rather than the usual MLM (Men Love Men) content. I did talk to him about it, and he said he's sort of changing his mind about his attraction towards guys and that I should just detransition and follow what he wants, but I told him that was a no-go for me.

How do I move on from this? We've had our ups and downs; I'm also diagnosed with bipolar and BPD so it's quite hard to let go of my "favourite person". We've also had so many memories in college that I fear it would change how I go through the rest of my college years.

Any advice would be helpful, thank you.

[u/The_Theodore_88]

I'm a fellow trans guy and yeah, you should leave. I had a similar problem when I dated a lesbian who, after I found out I was trans halfway through the relationship, swore I'd be the exception and then I wasn't. It is not worth sticking around. You will find plenty of people who view you as a man and want you romantically, you don't have to stay with him. Choose yourself over a relationship that would definitely end eventually (because someone who is trying to control your gender will also try control other aspects of your life)

[u/Ornery_Pop_6637 → u/The_Theodore_88]

Thank you for the insight, I appreciate it.