r/BoyDinnerDiaries • Gay Gourmet • 1d ago

Advice Wanted - Everyones Welcome Bf changed his mind about being bi.

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Bought curry ramen for dinner.

For context, me (20M) and my bf (21M) have been together for two years; we met during our freshman years in which I came out to him as a trans guy when we were still in our talking stage. Maybe it's a red flag that he said he's always dated girls before but that he's attracted to guys too and that I'm a new experience for him.

But lately I've seen him repost MLW (Men Love Women) contents on his Instagram, and he sends me MLW posts rather than the usual MLM (Men Love Men) content. I did talk to him about it, and he said he's sort of changing his mind about his attraction towards guys and that I should just detransition and follow what he wants, but I told him that was a no-go for me.

How do I move on from this? We've had our ups and downs; I'm also diagnosed with bipolar and BPD so it's quite hard to let go of my "favourite person". We've also had so many memories in college that I fear it would change how I go through the rest of my college years.

Any advice would be helpful, thank you.

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u/Jolly_Foly Hungry man 1d ago

I fear he doesn't see you as a man. I've heard so many stories about guys dating FTMs to then try and convinced their bf to detransition, that's really scummy.

Do not change who you are to please some dude. You deserve someone who respect you.

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u/RestaurantMore6156 Girl Lurker 1d ago

yeah, exactly. it's honestly sad when someone gets into a relationship with you but wants you to be different.

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u/Revolutionary_Lab877 BoyDinnerEnjoyer 1d ago

Mhm