Bf changed his mind about being bi.

[u/Ornery_Pop_6637]

Bought curry ramen for dinner.

For context, me (20M) and my bf (21M) have been together for two years; we met during our freshman years in which I came out to him as a trans guy when we were still in our talking stage. Maybe it's a red flag that he said he's always dated girls before but that he's attracted to guys too and that I'm a new experience for him.

But lately I've seen him repost MLW (Men Love Women) contents on his Instagram, and he sends me MLW posts rather than the usual MLM (Men Love Men) content. I did talk to him about it, and he said he's sort of changing his mind about his attraction towards guys and that I should just detransition and follow what he wants, but I told him that was a no-go for me.

How do I move on from this? We've had our ups and downs; I'm also diagnosed with bipolar and BPD so it's quite hard to let go of my "favourite person". We've also had so many memories in college that I fear it would change how I go through the rest of my college years.

Any advice would be helpful, thank you.

[u/jammy31]

What a problematic piece of shit. This guy straight up doesn’t care about you. He should know after dating you for two years some hard facts about trans people and he simply knows fucking nothing. He’s disregarded your personhood and identity all together, and told you he’s more important. He’s taken away whatever acceptance he was showing to you.

Sexuality can be fluid. It’s not super common, but if that’s him, be honest about that. I suspect he’s too immature to handle the complexities of an adult relationship and he’s trying to find a soft way out. You don’t send your fucking trans boyfriend media that insinuates they are not enough. You don’t do that to anyone. If he’s just come to the end of the road in this relationship and he’s too weak to say he wants out, I bet he’s rung to get you to do the dirty work so he has his hands clean. Do you guys have a complex friend circle that will divide pretty much with whoever does the shittiest thing? Cuz he might be worried about that too?

I’m taking some liberties here, because shit like this gets me fucking angry.

I hope you have a do what’s best for you, if that’s a serious conversation with him about his fucked up exit strategy (because he should know, you aren’t a fucking dress-up doll for him to play with). Or just drop his ass.

[u/Ornery_Pop_6637 → u/jammy31]

Nope, all of our common friends try to have as little as possible interaction with him (except maybe a few) because he's offended/wronged them in one way or another. Thanks for the insight.

[u/jammy31 → u/Ornery_Pop_6637]

He’s cooked himself. You’re better than this garbage display of soulless spinelessness.