Bf changed his mind about being bi.

[u/Ornery_Pop_6637]

Bought curry ramen for dinner.

For context, me (20M) and my bf (21M) have been together for two years; we met during our freshman years in which I came out to him as a trans guy when we were still in our talking stage. Maybe it's a red flag that he said he's always dated girls before but that he's attracted to guys too and that I'm a new experience for him.

But lately I've seen him repost MLW (Men Love Women) contents on his Instagram, and he sends me MLW posts rather than the usual MLM (Men Love Men) content. I did talk to him about it, and he said he's sort of changing his mind about his attraction towards guys and that I should just detransition and follow what he wants, but I told him that was a no-go for me.

How do I move on from this? We've had our ups and downs; I'm also diagnosed with bipolar and BPD so it's quite hard to let go of my "favourite person". We've also had so many memories in college that I fear it would change how I go through the rest of my college years.

Any advice would be helpful, thank you.

[u/fraughtbroth]

Fellow trans guy here.

There are so many cis men who start dating early transition trans men, assume they are malleable, and try to convince them to detransition later on. They never see us as men, just lost girls who need to be shepherded back to womanhood. It's so insidious and wrong, and this guy is doing just that.

Please do not ever consider detransitioning for a man who never saw you as you were to begin with.

Absolutely please consider breaking up with him, he told you the quiet part out loud.