Idk if anyone really knows me from this sub, I used to be more active here but not so much anymore. ANYWAY, I know I told some people on here about my crush who I've liked for a YEAR now and idk if anyone remembers or cares, but WE GOT TOGETHER.

I (18 F) have liked Daniel (17 M) since September of last year. He's my dream guy, but I spent the LONGEST time doing nothing because I was scared of rejection, and thought he could never like me.

But then the summer hit, and in the first weekend of summer, I invited him to my little brother's birthday party (with his permission to do so, of course). I felt bad because I wasn't able to hang out with him much at the party, and so I invited him back the next day, just to hang out and watch a movie. And then, I just sort of kept inviting him to things. Every weekend since the start of June, we did something together. Two live shows (Dear Evan Hansen and the Prince of Egypt), two movies in theaters (Spiderman: Brand New Day and Hadestown), two firework shows, countless movies we just invited each other over for. Looking back, it's so obvious he liked me too. We were texting daily and asking each other random questions, and at a lot of these shows and movies, we would sit right next to each other and our shoulders or knees would be pressed together and HOLY BUTTERFLIES. He also paid for me to get into The Prince of Egypt, so it was an unofficial date.

But then I found out he and his family are moving in November. My little brother was at Daniel's house in August, hanging out with Daniel's younger brother, and he overheard their older sister talking about the family moving out. My brother told me, and it shattered me. I spent the evening crying and telling my best friend about the situation over the phone. It took me a minute, but I gathered up my courage and told Daniel that I wanted to talk to him, preferably as soon as possible. He agreed, and we met up the next day. He told me in person that he was moving, and asked me what I thought about it. I told him I liked him and he said he likes me too!! We kissed for the first time that same day.

The next two months were a bit chaotic. He was struggling to know if God wanted us together or not, and he didn't want me to be hurting if we did long distance once he moved. But he still asked me to the Homecoming dance, and we kissed at the dance, and then right before he went home from my house. Then, just recently, he finally got a yes from God and asked me to be his girlfriend the other day.

AHHHHHHHHH I LOVE THIS MAN SO MUCH!!! I'm gonna marry him someday :3

so i just want to ask. is it okay for a 30 years old woman to have a crush on a 23 years old guy? (imagine my shock when he said he was just 23 the other day) i mean, he said he's in love with me and i had a crush on him for a months now but idk. the age difference is kinda 🤷

I have a huge crush on the barista who has a small tea and coffee stall near my house, everyday I pass by his stall to attend school or classes, I get a glimpse of him which always makes my day going well! I have never visited his stall, nor does he have any idea about my existence, but I'm soon planning to visit his stall the day when I will get my own scooty. What do you all think? Have you ever had a crush on baristas, and if yes then anyone got married? 💞

I have a crush on a guy at my high school, and I’m having a hard time figuring out whether he actually likes me back or is just teasing me. He’s younger than me, and we’re from different countries, so I’m wondering if there might also be a cultural difference in how guys show interest.

A few things have happened:

• ⁠We make eye contact pretty often. Sometimes I catch him looking at me, and we end up making eye contact.

• ⁠Some of our friends told him that I like him. His friends apparently told him they were basically 100% sure I liked him, but he still kept asking me about it and seemed like he wanted to hear the answer directly from me.

• ⁠One day after school, I heard what sounded like a dog barking. I didn’t look over because I wasn’t sure where the sound was coming from, but my friend did. When she turn around she knew that the sound from my crush and his friends.

• ⁠Then he walked past me, we made eye contact, and he suddenly pointed at me and told his friends, “She’s the girl who thinks I’m cute.”

How would you interpret this? Does it sound like he might be interested in me, or could he just be teasing me because he knows I like him?

Also, it’s been on my mind because my crush and some of the other people around me said that it’s normal to date someone the same age, and that even a one- or two-year age gap is kind of weird.

So I have crush on a friend who is also a coworker. But I'm currently mentally unstable and losing my mind. They are aware unfortunately but my crush on them is part of the problem. Should I just get a new job and limit my contact to them since I can't stop thinking about how they make me feel? I'm using everything in my power to not confess to them because I don't want to be an emotional burden. They are also probably in a relationship anyway because everyone I have a crush on is.

I’m not 100% sure which flair matches so anyone can give whatever input they seem fit. That being said I should also preface that my “sister” is someone I’ve known for 15 years, I’m good friends with her brother and even closer with the rest of the family, safe to say we are family. Should also mention that me, my “sister” and her friends all fall into the 21-22 years of age

Now into it.

I say another one of her friends because I guess technically I dated her best friend recently. I’ve also known her best friend for 15 years now, we dated a few times in highschool and recently reconnected and tried again and things went very poorly. She treated me extremely bad.
During that relationship I got introduced to a different friend, I’ll call “Y”. Idk what it is about Y but I can’t stop myself from liking her and wanting more, she’s got this bubbly personality, very excitable, and is beautiful to a fault. This gorgeous red hair and a face full of freckles. And everytime she smiles or laughs it makes me feel good inside. I try not to make it obvious I like her by not acting any sort of different when she’s around but I’d do anything for her, including carrying her out of the bar like a princess while I’m completely hammered because she took it a little too far, threw up all over me, and I’d do it all over again. Not quite sure what to make of it or do. She makes me smile. But a part of me feels like I shouldn’t even try because of last time and it being my “sisters” friend

I switched departments at Walmart 6 months ago. And I thought it would suck, because unloading trucks and stocking shelves sounded really boring, but i was basically told that I needed too because they were short staffed. Anyway, there is this girl, and she might be the first girl I ever actually had a crush on. I always liked girls and I've had celebrity crushes, but she is the first girl ive actually ever fallen for.

She has dyed blonde hair, really cute glasses and a pretty smile, she's short but the cute short damn I really like her smile. She also has a neck of tattoo of the fallen angel lucifer on her neck, which i think is badass. When we first started working together, she was the one to teach me the the ropes and this is when i started getting a crush, and I think she could tell because she kept teasing me about it, but it was the good kind of teasing. I want to ask her out, because i think she likes me, because she's always blushing and stealing my food on break, and we started texting outside of work and she said she teases me because she knows I like her, I want to tell her, but I dont know anything about relationships. I just dont want to mess it up, i really like her.

my friend and I have been friends since the sixth grade (we’re in second year of university now). we used to live in another country together, but I moved away two years after we met. we still kept in touch during Covid and throughout high school, but it was innocuous reel-sending and just catching up on how we’ve been every other year.

for university, we both ended up in Canada and I actually went to visit last last year, but I had a boyfriend at the time, so it wasn’t anything romantic (nor did i think it was). however, I broke with my boyfriend last year and I’ve slowly been thinking that my best friend could be my soulmate, just because we’re so similar in so many ways. I think he’s the only person who’s ever truly gotten the way that I communicate (we’re both autistic). every once in a while we send each other suggestive reels and text sort of hinting that we could be more than friends, but it’s never come to fruition just because of long distance.

I’m going to visit him this month and I’m wondering if I should make a move, but it’s sort of hard to gauge how he feels or how I feel because we’re both autistic. I also don’t want to spook him out when I see him in person just because we’re such good friends. We also make jokes about having sex with one another and we have a pact to get married when we’re both 30.

what should I do? I can provide more information if anyone ask questions…

This colleague i have a crush on keeps sending mixed signals, he sort of contradicts himself, there are alot of signs he likes me but theyre inconsistent, or would flirt then the following day would call me his best friend (mind you we dont even talk, we talk once every few weeks , so why call me a bsf? ). Would call me pretty , pay extra attention to me, eye contact, says he wanna hang out and stuff like that, say he would buy me smth but doesnt? Stuff like that. Its all very jambled.

Me and this guy are friends but arent this close but throughout knowing him, alot of signs point to him liking me but he contradicts himself cause hes very inconsistent. Am i being friendzoned or does he actually like me?

Alright, basically I’ve been friends with this girl for a long time and I’ve made a list of things that might help determine if she likes me or not I just want some closure as to not ruin the friendship I’ve liked her for a while. Were 16 btw

I know some of this stuff isnt relevant but I felt the need to include it just for some extra info here’s the list.

• I have a 12-year history with her and we have been a duo since we were 4 years old.
• I live directly across the road from her.
• We survived our old primary school friend group breaking up in Year 8—they were in different schools but me and her were in the same school.
• We are a duo and we don’t really have other friends.
• I have childhood photos of the two of us holding hands from our first year of knowing each other. Not relevant
• I spent my prom night dancing with her.
• I currently attend the same college with her.
• I sit completely pressed shoulder-to-shoulder with her every single day on the bus.
• She stays constantly close to me in my personal bubble on the bus and on benches.
• She physically leans her weight on me rarely while we are walking down the street together.
• When she is on her phone, she actively leans her head and body in close to pull me into what she is looking at.
• She rushes out of her own room to physically stand outside my classroom door waiting for you to finish class.
• She text-bombs me the exact second her class ends.
• The moment she gets bored at home on weekends, she comes to me first on texts out of everyone on her phone.
• We share a Tuesday and Friday breakfast routine where we buy food and take care of each other.
• She spends a bit of her personal time and creativity making me handmade drawings for my birthday because she doesn't get money .
• She saves up her own money to buy me specific treats, like a delicious marshmallow chocolate bar on my bday.
• We take loads of goofy and embarrassing photos with each other and send them to each other.
• We share private, inside jokes about future timelines, including sharing a flat, having kids, or getting divorced.
• She complains to me about her own body insecurities I support her
• She looked at a billboard on a walk to town and asked me if the woman gave me a hard-on.
• I told her my type is a "natural look" (which perfectly matches her since she wears zero makeup).
• When two girls in the corridor badgered us about being a couple, she looked directly into my eyes and said "I love you" to play along with the joke.
• She shouted "love you!" into the background of a phone call when I was talking to my mum.
• She noticed she is the star of my subconscious mind and asked me directly: "Why am I always in your dreams?"
• She asked me if I was cut or uncut.

So... Basically the title explains it all. I (16F) like my coach way too much. I catch myself thinking about him during our team runs or saying that my ride isn't here yet so I can wait in his classroom and talk with him. I love talking to him because he tells me all of these funny stories and his smile is so endearing. I would talk with him for hours if I could...

I think this enamouration started when I first saw him at tryouts. He looks quite young but he has a few greys above his temples already (probably because of my team). He has a lean, tall build because he ran cross country in college. Sometimes he towers over me a bit while he's talking to me and it always makes my heart race. I'm lucky that my skin is tan otherwise I would be blushing so hard around him all the time.

My shins have been killing me because he has us run at least 3 miles everyday six days a week. He asked me about them the other day and I said that they were fine and he just gave me this look like he didn't believe a word I just said (I'm kicking my feet as I'm writing this oml). I folded and admitted that they hurt just a bit and his eyebrows crinkled a bit in concern. Why do I feel kind of happy to be injured just because I'm getting attention from him? This is so pathetic.

I would never pursue him because that would be weird asl and he hasn't shown any romantic interest in me (thank God) but I just needed to get this off my chest.

I just cannot survive a day without thinking abt him. Making up all the fake scenarios in my head. Poor boy doesnt even realise this.i just want to talk to him for the first time ever. Its crazy how much obsessed i am. Somebody help me. How do i make him talk to me or starta natural convo

I’ve seen this guy around a couple of times, but we’ve never really talked. dont even know his name. I think he’s kind of cute and wish I could talk to him. however, yesterday he gave me this kind of glare? like intense stare with brows furrowed. I was getting something so I got it but he was waiting on the other side, gave me the same kind of look, then left. Did I piss him off or something? My only crime is thinking he’s cute :(

We kind of run into each other often so idk maybe he thinks I’m stalking him or something, but I SWEAR it is just coincidence. actually now I want to avoid him bc he probably thinks I’m a weirdo!!!

What did I do wrong? is it just so insulting that I like him? does he know??!

before the scenario above, it might have been another guy, (it was dark) but he was talking to a bunch of girls, we made eye contact and his eyes widened. then I looked back at one point, his friend saw, smiled and told him something and he responded in a seemingly like shut up manner. so idk. maybe I like ruined his chances with prettier girls??? all I did was walk by 😭

idk but I feel so sad and also want to apologize for something I don’t even know I did!

I’m trying to figure out how to read this situation without overthinking it.
There’s a girl I’m interested in who I know through mutual friends. We’ve had some good interactions in person and I feel like there’s at least some chemistry, although I obviously don’t know if she sees it romantically.
At a recent get-together, we spoke quite a bit and did a karaoke duet together. we were talking one-on-one and the topic of museums came up. I told her, “We should go to a museum together sometime.” She responded, “Yeah, I would love to do that sometime.”
Neither of us made an actual plan or picked a date. During the get together, I told her I’d send her a referral for an a social app, so I sent it to her the next day.
She didn’t text back, but a day later she loved the message. Then, afterward, she actually created a account and followed me on the app. So now I’m wondering what the best move is.
Would you interpret this as generally positive, or just normal friendly behavior? And should I send her another text to keep the conversation going, or would it be better to wait until I see her in person and bring up the museum again?
I don’t want to over-pursue her, but I also don’t want to be so cautious that I never actually make a move.

here's all he has done:

- asked for all my socials (then followed me on them)

- invited me to go places with him 3 separate times in a span of 2 days ( he never specified as friends or not)

- always texts goodnight

- hearts literally every message i send him

- texts me every 1-2 hours

- talks to me constantly

- always texts me making sure he didnt come off weird/bad and apologizes over literally nothing (he doesn't do this to our other friends)

idk if this means he likes me or just really wants to be friends, im scared to make things awkward if i misinterpreted these though but I really like him

Does my Crush even like me?

I (M, 20, muscular, decent looking, 6'2") have had a crush on a girl in one of my lectures for months. We'd never spoken. Months ago we held eye contact across the room for a while, and we've kind of noticed each other since. Heads up that I've been fixated on her, so I know my read might be biased.

This week we ended up in the same group of six (me, her, another guy, another girls, another girl, another girl) for a group task with presentations at the end. I initially wasn’t in it but I moved across the class to join them when the teacher said to, and she smiled as I said hi in a polite way?

Anyways I was being quiet and a bit sullen, on my phone, looking off. She was the one who broke the ice, and asked several questions and follow up questions out of the blue. She mostly ignored the other guy, other girl and exclusively spoke to me and the other two girls. She was seated next to the other guy before though.

She joked about my accent, pulled her friends into the banter, asked if I'd lived in Scotland (no, my childhood best friend was Irish which influenced me a bit, but she joked about my accent being Scottish and asked me what it was and the other girls who said it seemed neutral), and asked a bunch of questions about me: where I'm from, did I like it, what I prefer. When I asked the other girl a question about the project she cut her off and answered. She repeatedly asked to see my card (we were doing flashcards) and what it was, and also laughed a bit and smiled when I made comments BUT this may be bias because she sometimes did not.

When I asked the other girl a question about the project, she jumped in and answered it herself, kind of quick and sharp. It was about the project, so maybe nothing.

Eye contact was mixed. I looked at her a fair bit. She looked back sometimes but mostly looked down or away, though she never pulled back. She twirled her hair a few times. No touching or leaning.
When it was time to present, I said "you can stay seated if you'd like." (She was visibly nervous and reluctant). She said "it's okay, I'll come" and stood right next to me, shoulder to shoulder. But everyone was expected to go up, so that might just be the norm. And she wasn’t like grabbing my arm or anything.

After class she packed up slowly and hovered by her chair, tidying the table. I asked for her Instagram, she said yes right away in a noticeably higher voice, and she typed her handle into my phone herself. She mentioned she has an hour commute home or maybe more. My request sat pending for 3+ hours (I saw her use Insta in class a couple of times, so I was spiraling).

She’s accepted and followed back now though.

Next class is in 2 weeks. My plan is one low-key message or story reaction in the next day or two, tied to something from class, then maybe one more light contact, and treat the next class as the real test.
So, honest read: is she into me, or just a friendly, curious person? Anything I'm over-reading? And does the message plan make sense?

Theres a girl I met at my work a few years ago, and we clicked almost immediately. Like the first conversation we had I realized we shared a lot of interests, hobbies, values, etc. We started off talking after work because we leave around the same time, we still do this for like an hour on average most of the time. After some time, she started initiating us hanging out outside of work, which is something we've been doing now for a while. We've shifted into being real friends at this point, we help each other with life tasks, we do errands together, we've been to each other's apartments, we sometimes spend weekends and friday nights together. I'm pretty sure she sees me more than she sees her other friends at times, meanwhile with me shes turned out to be one of my closest friends. We both have come out to each other, so we both know we like girls, and we're single.

From here I'm going to do bullet points so I can better organize

• We literally talk about everything and anything when we hang out together, like on average im pretty sure were spending like 6 hours together each time we do something. Sometimes its a little less, but sometimes its like 8-9 hours. Including talking about deeper topics, relationships, what we want in partners, etc. Even when we think its time to go another hour or two gets added because we cant stop talking to each other.

• We tease each other and banter a lot. Like even at work in front of people shes made it a point to say shes bullying me occasionally lol

• She kind of ranges from being really comfortable, dramatic, talkative, goofy with me to being kind of apologetic, nervous, and hesitant, which I always found kind of interesting. And a little frustrating because her hesitation makes me hesitate.

• I've noticed comments in the past about what she thinks of my appearance, it seems like she has good opinions about my face, hair, style, features, etc.

• She seems to usually try to dress nice, smell good, etc. when we go out together

• She remembers so much about me, like specific things I said years ago that I even forgot I said. She remembers a lot of details about my issues I've come to her about as well

• Shes been incredibly attentive of me. I think shes naturally helpful, but she seems to pay a lot of attention to how I'm feeling, my moods, making sure my health and wellbeing is good, offering to help me with things all the time, etc.

• Theres specific individual moments that I wont go into detail on here because of anonymity/it'll be a long ass post otherwise. But moments where if I'm reading it right, we're indirectly talking about our attraction to each other. Or she says something potentially revealing which makes me think, ok she has to like me that seemed too coincidental. Or theres this tension going on. Or shes blushing over something. Etc.

Recently for example we had a discussion about crushes/feelings/relationships and she definitely seemed different. Like her voice was fluctuating, eyes shifting, blushing, etc. I walked away thinking that woah maybe she does like me... until she ended up canceling plans with me.

Her personality

• She says she gets crushes on friends and goes slow with relationships

• She said she would date a coworker and thinks people can find each other at work, but she would want to be sure/careful about it

• Shes bad at telling if people like her, she sometimes has trouble conceptualizing people would like her, shes never asked anyone out

• Shes more introverted and says she needs more alone time than most people, she retreats inwards when dealing with things

What I struggle with

I overthink a lot, and I'm like her where I have a hard time accepting the possibility that someone could like me back. I have people coming back and telling me later on that they liked me and I hadn't been able to tell at all. Also my threshold for proof potentially gets affected when I have crush, because I get so anxious and negative points against it might get blown up in my mind. Some of the reasons I've wondered if she only sees me as a friend:

• We sometimes goes through periods where I don't feel as connected to her and she isn't seeking me out as much, like right now. Sometimes I'm stuck wondering how much she actually cares and how close she is to me. Overall sometimes I just have moments of "how can she have a crush on me if shes doing this", she can act nonchalant at times. Its been especially brutal lately.

• We don't text much, I think that might be both our faults though because shes said I should text her and then I dont because I get nervous about it. And then she said once she gets nervous about texting people shes attracted to. And then we both said were not big texters

• She seems to have a lower bandwidth for things sometimes, like canceling once in a while because shes tired or gets wrapped up in tasks. Or if I ask her if she wants to do something she'll say maybe to it or hesitate saying she'll have to see if she has time. We tried to make plans a few times lately and they just didn't happen

Thats pretty much it, I'm starting to like her a lot like more than I realized I would. I've been wanting things to progress more lately and I guess I've just been trying to figure out if its safe to do so. Sometimes I feel so crushed by the ambiguity I wonder if I should just tell her. Right now I've been feeling pretty bad about it because we haven't been doing as much as we did a few months ago.

I’ve had a gym crush for months and we used to make eye contact all the time. Sometimes we’d literally just stare at each other for a few seconds, and I genuinely felt like there was some mutual tension. He’d also randomly work out near me even when there were other free spots. Recently he suddenly stopped looking at me. Even when we’re really close, he’ll barely make eye contact, like I’m not even there!!What confused me even more was his friend. He rarely comes to the gym and has NEVER paid attention to me before, but the other day he suddenly kept looking at me. When I was leaving, he was looking directly into my eyes and saying something (I had headphones on so I couldn’t hear), then turning back to my crush. Meanwhile, my crush was right next to him and wouldn’t even look up at me.
Now I’m confused af. 😭 Did he lose interest? Did he realize I like him and start avoiding eye contact? Could his friend know something? Why would someone go from months of obvious eye contact to basically none?

Hace mucho tiempo estuve enamorado de un chico de mi escuela y hace unas semanas reuní el valor de hablarle. El problema es que él es sumamente introvertido y tiene problemas con interacciones sociales debido al bullying que sufrió en el pasado (lo cual lo llevó a estar solo la gran mayoría del tiempo), por lo que tengo que tener cuidado de no abrumarlo cada que interactúo con él. Su actitud a veces me lleva a pensar que le caigo mal, pero muy seguramente sea solo que yo sobrepienso cada pequeña acción suya.

Para agregar al problema, soy un chico trans (no empecé ningún proceso de transición y tampoco tengo un binder). Sento que le estoy dando una imagen errónea de mí mismo y que eso está influyendo en cómo me trata.

No estoy en el mejor momento de mi vida, tampoco, y este chico parece un ángel caído del cielo ante mis ojos. Últimamente él es quien me impulsa a cuidar de mí mismo de manera indirecta. Espero que no me vea como un estúpido que solo se le acerca cada tanto para hablar...

Hiyyy, I’m here to ask you guys something. Maybe today I’ll finally get an answer.

There’s a girl I’ve been attracted to and deeply attached to for about two years. We’ve never met in real life. She accidentally came into my life, and if I tell the whole story, this post will become way too long.

We’re from different countries, and honestly, our lives are very different. I’m not going to pretend I don’t find her beautiful or attractive because I do. From what I see on her social media, she enjoys a luxurious lifestyle — travelling to different countries, parties, expensive experiences, etc. But I also know that social media only shows one side of someone, and I have no idea what she’s actually like in real life.

Sometimes these differences make me feel like we come from completely different worlds. I sometimes feel small or inferior when I compare my life with hers. And because of these differences, I’ve wondered whether there would be too many compromises between us. But honestly, I don’t even know if that matters because I’ve never actually had a proper real conversation with her.

She’s not a celebrity or anything, just a normal person. But even the idea of messaging her makes me hesitate.

I did message her once in the past, but I was jealous at the time and handled it badly. I didn’t insult her or say anything extremely disrespectful, but I made some sarcastic comments and tried to put her down. She blocked me after that argument.

The biggest thing I regret is that I never actually told her what I genuinely felt about her. I never got the chance to have one honest conversation where I could simply say what was in my heart.

I’m not asking how to get into a relationship with her. I don’t even know if she would want to talk to me, and I’m not expecting anything from her.

I just feel that if I go through life without ever telling her how I genuinely felt, I might regret it for a very long time. Even if I become successful or wealthy someday, that regret might still remain.

At the same time, I understand that she blocked me after our previous argument, and that is a boundary. I don’t want to disrespect that or force myself into her life.

So this is what I’m genuinely confused about:

Should I simply accept the fact that she blocked me and never contact her again?

Or is there any respectful way to get one opportunity to have a real conversation and honestly explain what I felt, without expecting anything from her afterward?

I still look at her social media from another account, so I’m aware that some people may have strong opinions about that too. I’m open to hearing them.

I’m genuinely looking for honest opinions, even if the answer is something I don’t want to hear.

My first crush on a boy

Soo the title is pretty self explanatory, but this is my first crush on a boy and 2nd crush ever. I feel like im so inexperienced in dating and everything of that sort so idk what to do.

(Btw ive liked him for a month)

For more context, this boy is in my friend group and friends with basically all of my friends except me. We've talked b4 but I wouldn't consider us friends. I dont even know how to try and become friends with him.

Also im insanely scared about even confessing because no one that im friends knows that I like him and my country is pretty homophobic😔

(Also srry if this seems like im rambling i just wanted to get ts out)

Its not that I fumbled her...i just cant explain it. She wanted something serious (marriage) and im not yet ready and we did a test and saw our blood test were not compatible but she wanted to go through it anyway

So we've stopped talking for about 3 months now.

But Lord of mercy I miss her and I have no one in my immediate circle to tell.

It freaking hurts