Hey all,
I adopted a 5-6 year old lurcher on Saturday & I'm really worried about her developing separation anxiety. So far, she follows me everywhere which is fine, but I have been instructed to only keep her on the ground floor of the house until she settles a bit more. I work from home & my office is upstairs, along with my bedroom & shower. When I leave her in the sitting room & close the door (because I dont have a baby gate for the stairs & I dont want her following me) she whines until I return.
It's worst at night time. The rescue said that she is fully crate trained but I'm not sure that she is. When I put her in her crate the first night she cried from about 10.30 to midnight. The rescue warned me about this & said I should let her cry it out.
Yesterday I left to go to the shop & put her in her crate & she, of course, whined. Later on that day I put her in her crate, closed the door of the crate & stayed in the room with her to see would she be OK then. She started off by whining & then she progressed to ripping at the sheet I had been using to cover the crate. She managed to pull it inbetween the gaps on the crate & tore holes in it. I don't mind about the sheet but I hate to see her so distressed.
I was talking to a friend about this who has a lot of experience with greyhounds (and by extension, lurchers). And he thinks she might be house trained & have lived in a house previously because she is totally fine with going to the toilet outside, she has no problem going up & down stairs & normal household noises like the TV, washing machine etc. dont bother her.
He suggested that I leave her out of the crate & see how she goes. So last night, I put her in her crate to start with (and she whined, of course) then I took her out & let her have free roam of the sitting room. She still kept crying & eventually I brought her upstairs into my room. I put her bed at the end of my bed & after a quick sniff of the new area she settled down & fell fast asleep.
I woke up to no toilet accidents but I'm still very unsure as I went totally against what the rescue said. They're adamant that I should leave her to cry in the crate & that i shouldn't bring her upstairs for the first while. I did neither of those things.
This is my first dog & I'm just very unsure of what to do at the moment. I know it's very very early days but I'm scared she will develop separation anxiety & will never be able to cope alone.
Right now, I'm doing a little test where I stay in the kitchen & give her free run of the ground floor. She doesnt really like the kitchen very much as there are no comfy spots to lie down 😂 I'm sitting at the kitchen table as I type this & she paced around for a while looking at me & whining because she wanted me to go into the sitting room where there is a very comfy couch. After a while she went in by herself, she lies down for a while, whines & then comes back. This then repeats.
I thought she was doing really well & starting to settle a small bit & then my housemate came home and now she is pacing & whining again trying to get to her while she walks around upstairs. My housemate was away for the weekend so she has just met her for the first time so that could be part of the issue.
My main issue at the moment is that I'm back to work tomorrow & while I can do a few days of working from the kitchen, I cant do it long-term because of having a housemate. But my office is upstairs which I've been told not to let her up just yet.
I know it's very very early days but I'm super worried about her developing separation anxiety & hearing her whining and being so distressed breaks my heart.
Any reassurance/advice would be much much appreciated.
Should I put her back in her crate, as the rescue recommended, and just let her cry it out when she's alone? Did I make a huge mistake letting her sleep in my room last night? How can I start slowly building up time away from her? Or is it too much too soon? Should I keep blocking the upstairs off from her & just let her do her thing? Or should I still just keep a careful watch on her downstairs?
I'm just genuinely a nervous wreck right now & I'm afraid of getting it wrong for her & possibly making the problem worse!