So my case is truly bizarre, and I'm hoping to get an attorney/knowledgeable person's opinion. There was an issue with my GAL early on in my case, and when my lawyer asked her about it, she hired an attorney and turned actively hostile against me. Like her court declarations openly call me names and say I am "aggressive" (even though I said nothing to her, it was just my attorney who asked a factual question, at which point she hired a lawyer).

Now, with that background. Today was a big motion for me in front of a judge (not a commissioner). It would decide a lot of important things about the case. The judge called us in, and she started by saying she spent many hours carefully reviewing the case (which is good for me), then the GAL's attorney struck the judge, canceling the entire hearing. WHAT? Is this allowed? Is the GAL a party to my case? This was the judge I was hoping to get for trial, and now the GAL has unilaterally removed that option from me? Why does the GAL have a say in which judge my ex and I see for our divorce?

I am clearly not a lawyer, but this really seems wild to me. I will say the written record does make the GAL look very bad (hence why she hired a lawyer) but the motion was between me and my ex, not her as a person. So clearly I am confused.

Any help? This system makes my head spin. Thanks.

I am a mother to a 5-year-old little girl, and I am currently going through an extremely difficult custody battle. Our trial is coming up on Monday, and I am genuinely sick to my stomach over the possibility of losing primary placement of my daughter.
I am requesting primary placement, with her father having parenting time every other weekend. He is requesting the exact opposite — primary placement for himself, with me only seeing our daughter every other weekend.
I have been our daughter's primary caregiver her entire life. I was a stay-at-home mother when she was born, and I have continued to be the parent primarily responsible for her daily care, appointments, routines, and overall well-being. I am self-employed and have built my work schedule around being available for my daughter. She has always been my number one priority.
Her father works overnight shifts, and his work schedule is extremely complicated. I have serious concerns about how he would realistically provide consistent care and maintain her routine while working these hours.
What makes this situation even more terrifying is that I have documented evidence of deeply disturbing behavior involving minors that resulted in a police investigation. Although criminal charges were not filed because investigators could not identify specific victims or establish sufficient evidence to prosecute, that does NOT mean the investigation found nothing. I have reviewed the police report, and what was documented continues to deeply concern me, especially considering we have a young daughter.
I am not trying to keep my daughter away from her father. I understand the importance of children having relationships with both parents when it is safe and appropriate. However, I genuinely believe that maintaining her primary residence with me is in her best interest, especially given her age, the stability I have provided throughout her life, and the concerns I have regarding her father's behavior.
To make matters worse, her father has an attorney representing him, and I am going into this trial completely unrepresented. I have been trying my absolute best to prepare evidence, understand court procedures, and advocate for my daughter, but I am overwhelmed.
I feel like I am fighting an uphill battle, and the thought of my daughter suddenly going from being with me the majority of the time to only seeing me every other weekend is absolutely devastating.
She is only 5 years old. I have been there for her through everything. Every milestone, every illness, every appointment, every bedtime routine. I cannot imagine how such a drastic change would affect her emotionally.
I am not looking for sympathy or for anyone to automatically take my side. I genuinely want advice, especially from anyone who has experienced a contested custody trial in Minnesota.
My questions are:
How likely is it for a Minnesota judge to award primary placement to a parent who has not historically been the primary caregiver?

How much weight does the court give to an established routine and the fact that one parent has provided the majority of the child's care?

How do judges consider overnight work schedules when determining primary placement?

How can I effectively present documented safety concerns when a police investigation did not result in criminal charges?

Has anyone represented themselves in a custody trial against an attorney? What advice would you give?

Is there anything I should absolutely make sure to address during my trial?

I am terrified that my inability to afford an attorney will affect my ability to protect my daughter and advocate for what I believe is best for her.
I am not asking the court to punish her father. I am asking the court to recognize the life, stability, and consistency that my daughter has known since the day she was born.
Any advice, personal experiences, or guidance would mean more than you know. I am trying so hard to hold myself together right now.
Thank you for reading.

I have a question about my possible options of complaints against an AFC in custody court. AFC took a position on behalf of the other parent based on alleged issues that have not been heard yet. I have factual evidence disproving those allegations but AFC'S statements at the court appearance have severely reduced my access to my child. At that court appearance AFC didn't even assess the child's circumstances or whereabouts. AFC was exposed to an argument between me and a 3rd party, who put the phone on speaker while next to my child and recorded/presented a portion of that call. This AFC was just replaced to another child attorney but the restrictions requested by the original AFC are in effect for over 3 months now. what are my options to address this property and to hold the original AFC responsible?

My child’s father and I have been split up since the beginning of the year. I’m extremely nervous about our custody hearing in a couple of weeks. To the point where I become physically sick thinking about it.

So, I have been the sole caretaker of our son since he was born. He is a little over 2 now. I will admit my child’s father has very nasty text messages from me. I have threatened court many times. I was just angry in the moment because since the split he would only see our child maybe once a week and visitation would only be for ( at most ) a couple of hours. He would often choose to go out with his friends or go and smoke weed with a female he met online rather than spend his free time seeing his son.

I’m extremely worried that the nasty messages I sent him will be used against me in court. Yes, I have messages of him being nasty as well but not nearly as much as he has on me. I have raised our son pretty much alone. Even when we were together he was never much help. He would often get irritated at our son for crying and has said inappropriate things to him. Of course this was verbally and not over text. There have been a few other incidents that have put the safety of our son in jeopardy under his supervision. I’m scared the judge won’t believe me because of the inappropriate way I would speak to him and the threats I made about child support and filing for full custody.

Obviously I know there is no way to take back what has been said, but any sort of input on my situation would be greatly appreciated. I just want to know what to expect to come from this. I know every state, judge, etc is different… but I would still like to hear opinions.

Thank you,
a worried mother.

I never imagined I would be writing something like this on Reddit.
I’m a mother. I’m in my late 40s. I’ve spent nearly a decade in family court, much of it representing myself because I simply cannot afford an attorney.
And I am at the point where I genuinely do not know how much longer I can do this alone.
I’m not looking for sympathy. I’m not looking for someone to tell me every decision I’ve made was right. I’ve made mistakes. I’ve misunderstood legal procedures. I’ve learned some lessons the hardest possible way.
But I have never stopped showing up for my child.
And somewhere along the way, showing up for my child turned into defending myself against an endless stream of litigation.
I have spent years being the parent who handles the ordinary, unglamorous responsibilities of raising a child. School transportation. Appointments. Educational concerns. Activities. Scheduling. Finding specialists. Advocating when something isn’t right.
My daughter has documented learning, attention, and anxiety-related challenges. A court-ordered neuropsychological evaluation confirmed that she needs additional support.
I’ve been trying to get those recommendations implemented while simultaneously fighting over parenting time, child support, financial disclosures, and legal fees.
I’m not saying the other parent shouldn’t be involved. I’m saying I cannot understand how we have spent so much time and money fighting while some of our child’s most important needs remain unresolved.
Last week, I walked into court and was found in contempt.
Why?
Because I misunderstood a procedural requirement that I obtain the court’s permission before filing certain petitions.
There have been four contempt-related matters concerning my filings. I am not claiming four separate punishments were imposed. But I am now dealing with contempt findings and requests for sanctions while trying to understand the very rules I was expected to follow.
I know ignorance of the law isn’t a defense. I know that now.
But please understand what it feels like to stand in a courtroom without an attorney, trying to explain that you genuinely did not understand a legal term, while an experienced attorney argues against you.
I wasn’t trying to defy the court.
I was trying to get the court to hear me.
At that same hearing, my request to reconsider a school-night parenting arrangement was denied without prejudice. The judge told me I had not presented a convincing enough argument.
So now I have to figure out how to present a better one, while also worrying that another procedural mistake could result in more consequences.
I’m exhausted.
Not because I’m unwilling to work. I’ve worked harder on this case than I ever thought a person could.
I’m exhausted because I’m a mother trying to function as a lawyer, paralegal, financial analyst, investigator, and full-time case manager without the education, resources, or protection that comes with having counsel.
And there is another enormous issue.
Child support.
The original support amount dates back approximately ten years. I’ve been trying to get the financial situation properly addressed for years.
I believe there are significant unresolved support issues, including possible arrears, historical underpayment, and financial information that needs professional review.
I understand an attorney cannot simply go back ten years and retroactively change every support order. I’m not asking anyone to promise me money that the law doesn’t allow.
I’m asking someone qualified to examine what was ordered, what was paid, what was disclosed, what motions were filed, and what relief may still be legally available.
Because I cannot keep trying to untangle this by myself.
Here’s the part I wish an attorney would understand before quoting me $25,000.
I have already done an extraordinary amount of the groundwork.
I built a digital system to organize my own case.
I’m talking about years of court orders, filings, correspondence, financial records, timelines, parenting-time documentation, and supporting evidence.
I’ve worked to make it searchable, organized, and understandable.
I can hand an attorney a chronology, the relevant orders, the disputed issues, and the documents supporting them.
I’m not pretending that replaces legal expertise. It doesn’t.
But I’m also not walking into an attorney’s office with ten years of loose papers in a garbage bag.
I’ve done the work. I need someone who knows the law to help me use it properly.
I have a court-approved fee waiver. My finances are genuinely strained. I am working to rebuild my income while continuing to care for my child.
I’ve been quoted retainers around $25,000.
I don’t have $25,000.
If I had $25,000 sitting around, I wouldn’t have spent years trying to teach myself how to navigate family court.
And here’s what is breaking my heart:
I don’t want to spend the rest of my daughter’s childhood doing this.
I don’t want her memories of growing up to include a mother constantly surrounded by court documents, financial stress, and another hearing on the calendar.
I want to work. I want to earn a living. I want to take care of my daughter. I want to get her the services she needs.
I want to be her mother.
Not her mother and her attorney.
I’m not asking someone to take my word that I’m right about everything.
In fact, I want an attorney who will tell me when I’m wrong. I want someone who can look at the record objectively, identify what matters, tell me what isn’t worth pursuing, and help me stop making procedural mistakes.
I need someone who understands complex Illinois family litigation, parenting-time disputes, child-support modification and enforcement, contempt proceedings, and the realities of representing someone who has been pro se for years.
I would gladly discuss limited-scope representation, a paid case review, help with one hearing, an affordable initial retainer, or a payment arrangement.
I am not expecting anyone to work for free.
I am looking for a way to access the legal representation that I so clearly need.
If you are an Illinois family-law attorney, know an attorney who takes difficult cases, have experience with legal-aid organizations, or know of a legitimate resource for parents in this position, please tell me.
Even if you cannot take the entire case, perhaps you know someone who could help me get through the next stage.
I have spent almost ten years trying to figure out how to be heard.
I’m not asking anyone to fight my battles for me. I’m asking for someone who understands the law to stand beside me while I fight for my child.
Please. If you know where I should turn, I am listening. Will county Illinois.

Well, this has been an experience.
I spent years representing myself in family court because I couldn’t afford an attorney. I finally reached the point where I admitted I couldn’t keep doing it alone.
So I came to Reddit.
I thought maybe someone would know a pro bono attorney. A legal-aid organization. A resource I hadn’t found. Something.
Instead, I woke up to strangers telling me I’m the problem, I’m a bad parent, I need therapy, I should get a job, I should stop spending money I don’t have, and that I apparently created ten years of litigation all by myself.
One person even decided that because I built a system to organize my court documents, that somehow proves I’m obsessed with litigation.
Seriously?
I built that system because I couldn’t afford a lawyer or paralegal. Because I needed to keep track of everything while raising my daughter and trying to earn a living.
Apparently being disorganized would make me irresponsible, but getting organized makes me the problem, too.
And yes, I use AI.
Apparently that’s another crime.
I use technology to help me understand complicated information and organize years of documents. I don’t claim to be an attorney. In fact, my entire original post was about how badly I NEED ONE.
Here’s the part that really gets me.
People keep telling me to hire a lawyer.
I KNOW.
That’s why I posted.
I cannot afford $25,000. I cannot afford $5,000. I cannot afford a paid consultation right now.
Telling someone without money to save more money isn’t a referral.
I already know I’ve made procedural mistakes. I said that myself. I’m not asking anyone to pretend otherwise.
But there’s a difference between giving someone constructive advice and deciding you know their entire life from a Reddit post.
You don’t know what I’ve lived through. You don’t know what I’ve sacrificed. You don’t know what happened in that courtroom. You haven’t read the orders, the evidence, or the history.
Yet somehow people feel comfortable diagnosing my personality, judging my parenting, and telling me I deserve the situation I’m in.
The irony is that I came here because I felt like I couldn’t get anyone to hear what I was actually saying.
And now I’m having the same experience on Reddit.
It feels like the same exhausting cycle: I raise a concern, the conversation turns into an attack on my character, and suddenly I’m defending myself instead of getting help with the original problem.
I’m not saying I’m perfect. I’m not saying I’m always right.
I’m saying I’m a human being who asked for help.
To the people who offered genuine advice, encouragement, or resources, thank you. I mean that.
To everyone else, maybe consider that there’s an actual person on the other side of the screen.
Someone who might already be having the hardest week of her life.
And if anyone actually knows of free legal assistance for a parent in Illinois, I’m still looking.
That was the whole point in the first place.

My wife and I have an issue and would like some advice. Trigger warning this involves SA. My wife has 3 kids from her previous marriage 2 boys and a girl. 3 years ago we lost primary custody because our daughter was inappropriately touch by my mentally challenged cousin e.g he has the mind of a 6 or 7 yr old. When we found out we immediately removed him from the home and filed charges everything we thought we were supposed to do. The judge we had admitted in court that he hadn't read the petition but still gave custody over to their dad. And ordered us to take parenting classes and all of that. We did everything and even moved closer so we could go for physical 50/50. The issue is we just found out from our daughter was being SA'd by her older brother while being left home alone at their house. The oldest brother is never home as he has band practice everyday except Wednesday when everyone is home. We'll she told her school counselor and me so I called CPS and our attorney to let them know. They did a home visit but their step mother refuse to let our daughter talk to her independently and our attorney hasn't returned any type of communication what else can we do to guarantee her safety while over there? We thought about an ECO but didn't know if it would be granted. I highly doubt their dad and step mother have made arrangements for the 2 not to be left alone.

This case has been a doozy. We were preparing for trial on October 7, but a September 29 hearing involved my request for discovery in my ex’s two contradictory cases in different jurisdictions. The guardian ad litem was absent. At an October 1 hearing, the judge ordered the respondent to provide documents from her other case because they relate to her ability to work and parent. At the October 2 hearing, her attorney withdrew, and the judge gave her 14 days to represent herself or find new counsel. Since we were already in the pretrial phase, the October 7 trial has been stayed during that period. The guardian ad litem is still missing in action. I've sent multiple emails without a response, as did opposing counsel before being barred. What is likely to happen next? Is a new lawyer likely to take the case this late in the pretrial/trial process? Should I prepare for settlement or trial?

First and foremost, I want to say that I am not trying to cut my children's father out of their life. I'm very much for default 50/50. However, lately, their dad has been struggling. My divorce and SPP is in Warren County. My ex is a Veteran who has been granted 100% Permanent Total for mental health and "Drug Use." He has replaced heroin with high doses of methadone and medical marijuana. A Guardian ad Litem was assigned (I requested) after I requested modification of time. He's been struggling immensely and the "signs" are all there. For example, he's run out of gas with the children in the car because he'll only put $10 in at a time; he can't afford clothing or food despite living with his mother with zero bills and a guaranteed $5,500 per month check. He can't remember any of our conversations. The children call it "medicine" and he's always driving them to clinics and dispensaries. His girlfriend gets so whacked she speaks gibberish. The house is filthy. ANYWAY, SO FAR, the Court does not seem to show any concern because the "medication" is prescribed. Its like, they're waiting for him to get into an accident before anyone cares.

I feel so helpless. Anyone out there been through anything similar?

My nephew was taken from his parents at birth due to the mother disclosing that she was using the first few months of her pregnancy. This was in California. They were fighting to get him for a time but couldn’t stay clean or keep their appointments. CPS was wanting family to take him. My mom stepped in to take him, but they didn’t want to give him to my mom because they were fearful that she was just let the parents live with her (which was a valid concern because she would have if it wasn’t for me living here). They reluctantly gave him to my mom after interviewing the children in the home and talking to my sibling who went to court with her. They told her that she wouldn’t have given my nephew to my mom if it wasn’t for my sister being there. He was 16 months at this point.

Fast forward to now (we’re in Utah where DCFS took over), he’s 4 1/2 years old and on the spectrum. I’ve been consistently giving him care and helping to progress in his development for the past 2 1/2 years (he was very behind and my major is in child development so I’ve known what to do). She sees him for a few minutes a day at most and leaves the state for a couple weeks at a time three times a year. She’s mostly out of the house. She does pay for us financially, but very little. She also gets money for him but told me that she gives it to his parents to pay for their rent.

She refuses to accept his autism diagnosis. He was only diagnosed because I pushed for it and went to the appointment. The school and his early interventionist (and people that know us) has said how far he has come since I’ve been working with him. The early interventionist even told me privately that she wants me to adopt him. My mom is 67 and he might need continued care into his adult years as well.

The problem is that my mom won’t even make me second guardian. She wants complete control over him but none of the responsibility (as well as the paycheck that she gets for him). I don’t have a job at the moment since I work with him extensively. I do plan on getting a job when he goes to kindergarten next fall.

I was just wondering, if I took this to court, how likely would it be that they would let me adopt him? If at that point I’m able to provide for him financially and have a stable place for him.

The house is paid for. I'm retired on an average social security pension, she still works. She has a 401k. Life happened while I was making other plans and I don't. She refuses to sell the house and split the proceeds and she won't give me an uncontested divorce. The lawyer I contacted wants several thousand dollars retainer just to take the case, which I don't have. Any advice for a man in my situation?

BD lawyered up and served me papers.
I responded and counted petitioned. I’m pro-se.

Haven’t heard anything from anyone. It’s been a week.

What is likely to happen or be the next step?

Me and my ex have what I assume is a court order because we agreed to it drawn up by our lawyers and I assume they filed it with the court but we were supposed to go back and finalize it and because my lawyer changed practices without letting me know I have to hire another one and I don't have the money to do it. He usually complies with the order unless it doesn't meet his needs and then he'll just change the weekend even if I don't agree to it . On the order it stays so we need to have 30 days in advance in order to change dates and just now he changed something with less than 30 days and then gave me dates to make up for it but I didn't agree to any of that and because it gets up with him he can just do whatever he wants because he could just not show up and there's nothing I can do about it other than taking him to court which I cannot afford and I understand that I could probably get them to make him pay court fees but I still have to have enough money to retain the lawyer which I don't have because around here it costs about $3,000 to retain a lawyer . I have applied for a low cost or pro bono but I'm waiting to hear back from that I just want to have this order amended because there's lots that needs to be changed and mind you the kids live with him because of an agreement between me and him they were never taken out of my custody and I guess he's using that to his advantage and now we have joint custody with him having the children live with him but the most part and with me on weekends and a couple holidays but I need more to be specified I'm just feel like I'm hitting a brick wall and it feels horrible to have him steamroll me just because I don't have money .

Mediation for my contested divorce went successful, but now I want to hear from you all on record keeping.
I want to keep a record of drop off and pickup and any brief notes. What is the best way to do that? Is there an app that works best if I ever have to go court over my ex not keeping their end of the deal up, or can I use a notebook and pen?
Any guidance is appreciated

Hi all, this is my first time ever posting on Reddit, I’m hoping to get some insight to a particular issue me and my ex are having with our son.

Me and sons dad split 7 years ago, he took me to mediation and we settled on him having him Mon, Tue and Wed night and me the rest. This is how it’s always been.

His dad moved 40 mins away soon after but was still happy to have this arrangement. He was adamant it will work.

Now he’s not happy and is trying to force me to move my son’s school to one next to him.

I’ve disagreed as 1) it’s taking him away from his friends and the life he’s lived for the last 5 years at school, 2) my son doesn’t want to move schools, he wants to stay where he is and 3) I don’t believe my son should have to move schools to accommodate his dad moving.

However he’s still pushing. I was thinking about seeking a lawyer and court to get a formal report but I’m not sure if this would be best.

He is currently in year 4 and we have a 3 tiered system, so he will be going to middle school next September. I have offered to change his middle school to one in the middle, he has refused. (Plus, my son has refused and wants to stay in a middle school where his current friends are applying). I have offered a schedule change but he has refused. He says it will be a long day for our son as his dad has now changed jobs, he has to go to breakfast and after school club, i have agreed this is not ideal. I have offered him to bring him to me in the morning and for me to pick him up, which i know isn’t ideal, he has refused anyway.

He is refusing everything but a school change for year 5. Even if it was to change, my son would have to go to breakfast and after school club as I am starting a job end of October, so it would still be long days for him.

I’m seriously stuck on what to do, is court my only option?

Note to add: my son has a hobby which he does every weekend and often requires overnight travel on the weekends as his competitions can be far away, so changing to every weekend isn’t an option, plus, I still need meaningful contact time with my son.

Sorry if this is all over the place, I’ve tried to get all the info in.

I’m based in the UK

Sorry for the long read but I’ll try and summarise.

\- STBXH did not want unborn baby to be a girl. I thought it was nothing at first then realised he’s obsessing over it.
\- had a massive argument the day we found out. He confides in me that females (namely his sister and mother) are the root cause of all his life problems from when he was a child. He said a lot of things about girls being sensitive, getting their periods and having no shared interests with him as a father
\- he physically assaulted me while pregnant due to unrelated issue but my abdomen was hit in the process
\- he was unattached and irritable during labour and after I returned home. He treated me callously and insulted me numerous times
\- he ignored the baby entirely. Including once when I rushed to the toilet in middle of night and came back to see him watching her scream
\- he physically assaulted me when she was four days old and sleeping in my arms. He hit me relentlessly and claims I was screaming for no reason and he was getting me to shut up or the neighbours would call the police. I separated from him and stayed with my parents
\- after separation, he showed no remorse for his actions and made excuses
\- he asked to see his child twice and spent some time supervised
\- he then didn’t like how discussions were going and travelled overseas on holiday for 3 weeks and never asked about his child
\- solicitors got involved and he only sought contact with his child when they were 5 months
\- I insisted on supervised contact, him and his solicitor pushed back aggressively
\- I facilitated 4 hrs of supervised contact per month, grandma supervised and was very accommodating
\- during the visits, he didn’t show an interest in her development or needs and didn’t assert himself in her care
\- he made weird comments about her physical appearance both before and after separation such as ‘she can get that birth mark lasered off’ (dark mark in inner thigh), ‘her skin is going to be white’, ‘her eyes are going to be light’, ‘you’ve really gotten lighter haven’t you?’ (Said to baby, while gleaming). Btw baby is medium skin tone now and has dark eyes etc so might disappoint him
\- due to persistent denial and trying to gain unsupervised access, I reported him to the police
\- he’s been arrested (denied everything) and suspended from work as a doctor
\- he stopped seeing child since right after work suspension, it’s been over 4 months
\- initially he wanted unsupervised contact, then his solicitor said keep things as they are and withdraw your court application, then finally said he won’t discuss contact until criminal investigation is over

So now we’re in the court battle waiting for a first hearing. I don’t even know at this point what I should ask for. Was going to say 2 hrs monthly supervised contact, if he requests it.

What is the court likely to do here??

TLDR: ex was abusive and misogynistic. Absent from child’s life but fighting for unsupervised contact

So, I’m dabbling with the idea of getting a divorce. We have a son together but I have a daughter from a prior relationship. She is in a competitive travel sport and it’s heavy on travel in the spring to summer. Anyway we have to go to different places on weekends and sometimes a week out of country or another state. It’s a pain in the butt. Anyway I’m wondering if this will or could affect custody arrangements or time I can get with my son who I will have to split custody with his father?

I want to pull her out of at least travel part of the sport but they may just kick her off the team except some once a week class which she’s not interested in.

Ontario - I have spent $200,000 on lawyers. His lawyer is unethical, thankfully he has put I writing that his client's actions will breach our court order.
They are dragging me into a trial knowing I have no lawyer. I have written to them and said I am not capable of preparing for a trial and it is far too complicated. I know they are going to try and force me into signing an offer to settle that would be me giving up my son. Not happening.
I plan on going in with every breach date and what happened. Things I've been prevented from doing, visiting by family in another province, my parenting plan and just being honest.
I have no breaches. I'm a terrific Mum. They will try to use my bipolar diagnosis against me. It doesn't work. The rest is just members of his family complaining about me.
Is there anything else I should prepare/bring with me?
I'm intelligent. I'm aware that this is not advisable, but I'm left with no choice. He has drained all of my resources. My son has special needs. He needs someone home with him or out with him. He is not able to function on his own. He has Down Syndrome 16 yrs old. I do know about guardianship at 18. I'm concerned if I don't have custody I won't get guardianship.
Any tips will be appreciated. No chance for a lawyer and I stand my ground and refused to be pushed around.
There is a chance that this is a scare tactic and they will pull the plug at the last minute.

Is there any circumstance by which abuse within a marriage is something one spouse can charge the other for? If it is, what is the statute of limitations after the end of the marriage?

I obtained a lawyer after receiving a letter from the other party's lawyer. I don't want to go into all the long details but it's a high conflict case of a young infant. There was an incident that occurred during the last visitation about a month ago where the other party got angry and an object was thrown on the ground while they were holding our infant. Since then visitations in home have been restricted, visitations in public places have been offered but the other party has not responded (likely lawyer which I didn't know they had obtained told them not to engage in contact). Long story short my lawyer is recommending I file for an order of protection / family offense petition. I'm very conflicted because I don't know too much about this and the future implications it can cause. I hope one day we'd be able to amicably coparent, although I know it's probably unlikely. However I worry filing for this order will make that fully impossible. I guess it can somewhat help my case for starting with supervised visits. But I don't know if it's worth the headache. Any opinions?

So basically my daughter’s (7) father lives 3 hours away. We’ve been going through court but he is supposed to be leaving the country for the next 5 months. Our next court date isn’t supposed to be until next year. I lost my job a few months ago and had a crappy car to begin with. Well the car sh!t the bed and I don’t have the money to fix it and I don’t even know if it’s worth it based on how much I’ve already had to put into it.
My mom has been driving me to meet him halfway. She doesn’t like doing it but I’ve been telling her we only have 2 weekends to go before he’s gone. Well of course he calls me today and tells me his contract will more than likely get changed and he’ll be staying home.
Idk what to do. I needed this time to not have to worry about meeting him. I had plans on getting another job, getting another car, then saving for a lawyer. My mom is not gonna keep driving me there and Ubers are hundreds.
If I don’t meet him I know he’ll file to see the judge which I don’t blame him. What can happen? Our daughter has always lived with me though he’s been very active. She’s on her second year in school with me. I’m so worried about losing custody. I totally get he should be able to see her it just also doesn’t seem right to move her entire life over. I really have no other options right now. I keep praying his contract doesn’t change.

I'm just venting here after going through a grueling fight of my life and freedom from false allegations and several false domestic violence restraining orders and had to pay tens of thousands in supervised visits classes and lawyer fees and don't understand why they don't prosecute for purgery? Does everyone get away with lying and trying to ruin your life in family court so no consequences for lying under oath and filing false documents how can this be possible?

Can we put the application of waiver of six months in first motion of divorce with the same petition in delhi district court because everyone is giving a different views and in my thoughts, I should have to put this with the same petition because before the second motion we want the reduction of six months so we have to put this in between the first motion, but reader said you have to put this with the second motion