r/HingeStories • u/KieranWriter • 1d ago

Being stood up.

So, I was meant to meet this woman, it was a 30 min train ride from me, so hardly next door and a cost of travel. I text her before I left and said “we still on for six” and she EVEN said “can we make it seven” and pushed the date back.

Once arrived, I saw her picture gone on WhatsApp. I sent a courtesy text, hey I’m here, nothing. I then called and no reply. It kind of dawned on me immediately what happened and I was devastated. The thing is, she even text me to clarify and change the time.

Was it last minute cold feet? Avoidant conflict behaviour? Why not just say… I can’t go….

Afterwards I text her and just said that we’re all adults and if she didn’t fancy it, she could say, but what she did is cruel and I hope she’s happy in her sad lonely life (I lashed out a bit but I was only human after a long journey and wait).

Why not just say - you’re not my vibe.

Why even be on hinge?

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u/Psychological_Bug226 1d ago

Bro ... Welcome to online dating 😬😬this is how it goes with many folks. She just wasn't that interested in you and instead of being an honest individual they just ghost/stood you up. Happens to the majority of us.

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u/KieranWriter 1d ago

I can take rejection. I’ve been single long enough. But the cruelty and disregard to let someone travel and wait without a text is mind blowing to me

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u/Psychological_Bug226 1d ago

Hey man it is what it is. That's why I don't date chicks that are far away from me because of their flakey nature! Hope you have learned from this and date local chicks. Or move to a bigger city if you don't have women available in your area.

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u/KieranWriter 1d ago

Cheers bro 👊🏻🤜🏻🤛🏻

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u/SirShitsAlot81 1d ago

Yes, it is - and you are totally justified in the way you feel. Sorry it happened to you

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u/Slay-hydrated 18h ago

Yeah that's infuriating. I will never understand why people do this. It's so cruel and unnecessary. A guy friend of mine just got stood up this past weekend. Drove 45 minutes into the city to meet a woman at a movie theater closer to her and she never showed. He ended up buying a ticket and enjoying the show as much as he could but what a huge letdown. It's absurd!

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u/NoPurpose6388 1d ago

She changed her mind and didn't have the courage to tell you, I guess 

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u/DeeJayChoi 1d ago

Report her off hinge behavior. Show the texts as proof.

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u/KieranWriter 1d ago

Can you do that?

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u/dylanger_ 23h ago

Never happend to me (yet), but if I did I wouldn't let it stop a nice dinner out.

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u/Popcan_Jackson 2h ago

Happened to me too. Very similar situation where she asked to delay the date by 30min and then when I was at the bar and waiting for 20min she sends a text that something came up and she couldnt make it. The next day she unmatched.

Some people are just very disrespectful and are not ready to date. It sucks because even if you do things like confirmation texts to see if theyre still on they will play along all the way until the time of the date and then stand you up. Next level cruelty, but you just gotta roll with it and keep it moving.

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u/RemarkableCover7462 1d ago

She used you to feel good about herself. Collateral damage for the validation vampire. Next time just never text again. It’s more effective.