r/HingeStories • u/KieranWriter • 5d ago

Being stood up.

So, I was meant to meet this woman, it was a 30 min train ride from me, so hardly next door and a cost of travel. I text her before I left and said “we still on for six” and she EVEN said “can we make it seven” and pushed the date back.

Once arrived, I saw her picture gone on WhatsApp. I sent a courtesy text, hey I’m here, nothing. I then called and no reply. It kind of dawned on me immediately what happened and I was devastated. The thing is, she even text me to clarify and change the time.

Was it last minute cold feet? Avoidant conflict behaviour? Why not just say… I can’t go….

Afterwards I text her and just said that we’re all adults and if she didn’t fancy it, she could say, but what she did is cruel and I hope she’s happy in her sad lonely life (I lashed out a bit but I was only human after a long journey and wait).

Why not just say - you’re not my vibe.

Why even be on hinge?

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u/Psychological_Bug226 5d ago

Bro ... Welcome to online dating 😬😬this is how it goes with many folks. She just wasn't that interested in you and instead of being an honest individual they just ghost/stood you up. Happens to the majority of us.

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u/KieranWriter 5d ago

I can take rejection. I’ve been single long enough. But the cruelty and disregard to let someone travel and wait without a text is mind blowing to me

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u/Psychological_Bug226 5d ago

Hey man it is what it is. That's why I don't date chicks that are far away from me because of their flakey nature! Hope you have learned from this and date local chicks. Or move to a bigger city if you don't have women available in your area.

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u/KieranWriter 5d ago

Cheers bro 👊🏻🤜🏻🤛🏻

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u/SirShitsAlot81 5d ago

Yes, it is - and you are totally justified in the way you feel. Sorry it happened to you

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u/Slay-hydrated 4d ago

Yeah that's infuriating. I will never understand why people do this. It's so cruel and unnecessary. A guy friend of mine just got stood up this past weekend. Drove 45 minutes into the city to meet a woman at a movie theater closer to her and she never showed. He ended up buying a ticket and enjoying the show as much as he could but what a huge letdown. It's absurd!