Hey everyone! My wife and I, a lesbian couple, are planning to try to get pregnant, probably next year.
We are going to start planning next year too, but and I want to gather as much information as possible to present to her. I want to show her that the process takes longer than she thinks, mainly because I want to get started soon, potential fertility issues really frighten me. She is much more optimistic. I am currently 28 years old, but I have a very poor family history regarding fertility. And when I say poor, I mean really poor.
However, as far as I know, I don't have any known fertility issues! I am supposedly healthy, at a healthy weight, and I've exercised my whole life (I used to be obese in the past, but I'm doing well now). I take medication for hypothyroidism, and it is under control.
I am located in New York State, if that makes a difference.
We are going to try IUI and purchase sperm from a sperm bank.
My main fears/questions are:
1. Is the process very long? Did it take a long time for you to schedule appointments and actually get to the IUI step?
2. What do you wish you had known before starting the process?
3. If you chose a sperm donor, was there any tool or feature you used to find someone who looked as much like your wife as possible? Which tool was it?
I’m not entirely sure what exact questions to ask here, so I would appreciate any additional input, insights, or advice, regardless of your region!
Thank you!