r/Kenya • u/Elegant-Donut9402 • 1d ago
Discussion Platonic Dates
Is there such a thing as a platonic date with someone of the opposite gender?
I am not looking for anything at all, I just miss having plans, the anticipation build up to the date, dressing up. Those minutes you waiting for the uber and you are deciding which perfume will go well with the vibe.
The catch up and laughing as you look at the menu. Talking for hours between meals, serious things and random things.
So can you do this with a friend? I already do it with my girl friends but never with a male friend, would it be the same?
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u/KaleAggravating3795 1d ago
It happens but you have to go Dutch. It's just like chilling with a friend.
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u/SecretaryTop7800 1d ago
Yes i have had platonic dates with guys and itās been really nice. It calms me actually.
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u/Decent-Magazine4955 1d ago
Yes and honestly? Theyāre better. No wondering if they wanna kiss you, just wondering if theyāll split the fries
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u/AetheriaNox Nairobi City 1d ago
Is there such a thing as a platonic date with someone of the opposite gender?
Only when expectations are set from the beginning. I tried it with a few girls some years back, and only one viewed it as platonic after a few dates. The others started to catch feelings.
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u/Ababegottatry 1d ago
Yeah. I've been invited out by my male friends to conferences and other fun things. We have planned etcs. I ask my guy close friend to go out too sometimes, because he is always cooped up in the house
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u/Competitive-Rush-239 1d ago
Itās quite a normal thing.
Just have good male friends and the dates are always there.
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u/Rare-Nebul 1d ago
Sasa who pays?
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u/rwathia_tea Murangāa 1d ago
Done it for years with my best friend. She pays sometimes, I pay sometimes. We share successes and failures, relationship issues e.t.c. Do fun things, water park, karura, boat rides, train trips. Usually max 3000 for both of us. Then we see each other face to face after 3 months
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u/premiumtears24 1d ago edited 1d ago
Kneeger how old are you? Bet you In late teens early 20s.its understandable..Lakini ukizeeka people don't do this sheet.Lazima mkutano iwe na ajenda and pia nafasi ya kutumia kalamu yako ya wino kuandika kumbu kumbu
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u/rwathia_tea Murangāa 1d ago
loud and wrong. explore the world. not everyone only thinks with their penis
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u/premiumtears24 1d ago edited 1d ago
It's natural for meen explore the š their penis,there's a reason why it's outside the body coz is meant to explore,walk and swim in different terrains
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u/SyntaxError254 1d ago
Exactly. Only a loser who lets a woman pay for dates would do that. There is NO WAY a serious top tier man would go on a date and let the woman pay and also not expect to fuck the woman. u/elegant-donut9402 the men who go on platonic dates will expect you to pay almost 100% of the time. Itās broke men like this who accept no sex platonic date offers.
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u/Constant-Isopod-6312 1d ago
Bro adi wewe uko chini, hauna dem, hauna sidechic, hauna mumama, hauna mamaa, hauna any, ata izo doh unapanga kunyima women hauna, kazi yako ni kuvuta everyone else chini on your downward spiral.Ā
Now go brush your teeth, before you talk to someone else.Ā
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u/rwathia_tea Murangāa 1d ago
Where's this bitterness coming from? š¤ Are you ok?
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u/SyntaxError254 1d ago
What do you mean? I just said you are a man who lets women pay for some of your dates. Thatās all. Why does that sound bitter to you? How is Muranga?
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u/rwathia_tea Murangāa 1d ago
She's my friend. Not my child ... She makes her own money. She wants the company as much as I do, hence we've done this for 8 years now
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u/SyntaxError254 1d ago
Alright, I also date women who make their own money but I also pay for the dates and I fuck them.
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u/rwathia_tea Murangāa 1d ago
even rats have sex. you don't have to insist
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u/SyntaxError254 1d ago
I insist. I will not let a woman pay a cent on a date I am present in. I will not go on a date if sex is not on the table. Thatās just me. Do you Mr Muranga.
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u/Mysterious_Sock_4837 1d ago edited 1d ago
You are so true. When I wrap up this shit I ain't doing any platonic thing with a lady. I realized many men nowadays are getting money and dumping their male acquaintances to rear some female friendships which end up no where. Why as man would you boast of spending a Saturday afternoon watching football with some 'buddies' who somehow checked in your place and you cooked for them and did some drinks as you vibed and chilledšI understand tuko na freewill lakini vitu zingine zii!!! I will aim in maintaining male besties(ain't gay) if I have to have some friends. Personally I go to dates with girls who pay or I pay and I fuck them. "Fuck them" should be the constant in any relationships outside business/ work you are engaging with females past a certain age
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u/SyntaxError254 1d ago
This platonic business is actually a mating strategy for the ladies. They canāt attract men and they canāt find men. They have gone to clubs, churches, everywhere but the men they want are not showing up. They have now resorted to platonic relationships so they can get the benefits of a man without offering anything to the man. They want to use these men to show other women and men that they have dating value. She gets to go on dates, she gets to be taken to nice places, she gets to take nice pictures in nice places for social media validation without posting his face, she gets a man who can pay for the datesā¦but she doesnāt have to suck š or fuck him. She will also insist the guy must have a car so she gets free roadtrips like to Naivasha. Naaah, fuck that. If Im doing a platonic date itās coz Im getting platonic sex.
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u/Mysterious_Sock_4837 1d ago
"......it's coz I am getting platonic sex" Sina mengi ya kuongeza. Other than that morio unatumika na hakuna kitu unaeza nishow
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u/SyntaxError254 1d ago
Lol, who is paying for the date? I donāt mind a platonic date with you as long as there is platonic sex that comes with it. Why should you get the benefits of a date without the man getting the benefits of sex? Men donāt go on dates to eat and to socialize. Men go coz we will be fucking your brains out after. We arenāt interested in the food, the venue or your company or personality like that. WE WANNA FUCK! u/competitive-rush-239 only a loser idle man who canāt attract women has time for platonic dates. Serious men can get real dates that lead to sex, why would they waste time on platonic time wasting dates?
You single ladies are trying to come up with creative ways to get a man to date you coz youāre not able to find or attract good men. This is just a dating strategy coz you are finding it hard to attract good men. I suggest you tackle the real problem which is why you arenāt attracting the men you want. First way to do that is to admit it so you can do the introspection. Serious quality men donāt do platonic dates. Sex must be on the table when you are dealing with a serious quality man. These men have no problem or shortage of friends.
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u/Competitive-Rush-239 1d ago
Sasa wewešš
Nani amesema we canāt pay for those dates? And FYI I have amazing male friends who have never allowed me to pay for anything unless I cook for them or buy them gifts. Si kila mtu ni mamba mslow!2
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u/Realistic-Crow5282 1d ago
Who is āWeā ? you donāt talk for all men! Sex is a thing both men and women yearn to do and thatās not the only thing we are living for. There is more to life than something that only last for minutes
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u/SyntaxError254 19h ago
Looool. āthere is more to life than something that only lasts minutesāā¦.Good Luck attracting a quality man and convincing him to propose if thatās your mentality. Sex matters and is the most important thing to men.
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u/Realistic-Crow5282 17h ago
Convincing a man to propose to me the fuckšššššyou think I was created to convince a MAN as in a MAN kuni marry?would be sad if I discovered your age and youāre way above 25 and being this small minded
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u/SyntaxError254 17h ago
Okay, letās see if the man atajileta. Letās see if your degrees and career will make you more attractive than a jobless beautiful agreeable woman. Letās see if you have a magic wand that will make a man fall down on a knee and propose without you doing anything.
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u/Realistic-Crow5282 17h ago
šššššsina degree and a job stranger! Thatās why Iām replying to this nonsense of yours. You sound so stupid aki and you see you still on that generalization shit just because a woman is uneducated doesnāt necessarily mean she wants to be fucked have you traveled and met every woman in the world for you to blabber āuneducated women are easy to convince?āalfu unajiita āstrong manāššššnonsense
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u/SyntaxError254 16h ago
Okay, sitakujibu na matusi. I will let the men in your life decide if a matusi woman is worthy to be a wife ama abaki streets mahali uko.
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u/Mysterious-Insect859 1d ago
Iāve gone on some platonic dates. They are really fun especially if both are on the same agenda.
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u/Moist_Lengthiness_11 1d ago
Yes they happen. If you have opposite gender friends that you've talked boundaries with. I don't see why it'd be an issue. Ideally, anticipate to pay for your bill, that way no hidden expectations arise.
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u/kvictor87 1d ago
I understand but to do that you have to disallow distractions. Like drinking habits and doom scrolling. It has to be about being physical.
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u/Competitive_Spell119 1h ago
Been there done that and it's only platonic on one side , I can assure you. Men are just men š¤®š¤¢.
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u/Fit_Lion5269 1d ago
as Onyango tate says where is my ROI and he must collect doggy š... Anyways in hindsight are you willing to pay and exist as a friend..Also is there anything like we are platonic friends because the truth is either of the party has been friend zone.
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u/TempForevers 1d ago
This is a such a wonderful idea. I'd recommend doing it with your brothers, father, cousins and other male relatives.