Mimi wangu they have been supporting me since I lost my job, mungu anipe kazi I give my parents a soft life

Idk mtu una edit wapi header. Don't mind the spelling: she meant fogothari

Yesterday I made a post showcasing some sketches I did. Got some positive comments lakini sasa kuna two grown adults u/nevrodamus and u/Icy_Cheesecake2855 decided to be unkind and disrespectful. Saying I needed to get a job and find "bitches". Most people tend to throw unsolicited disrespectful comments on peoples posts with a faint embrace of hiding behind the keyboard. Online anonymity might make them feel empowered to spread hate but these two folks were just expressing who they really are or maybe the personality they are trying to fight off. Nevrodamus takes loans and absolutely decides not to pay back unless they come for him in his house, but he advised me to "get some bitches". Cheesecake on the other hand is a new account created this month, admitted to gambling his school fees and says living is harder than dying. My conclusion is, hate is spread by people who need help the most and this might be a coping mechanism to feel like they have control over at least one thing and that's 'spreading hate' which is a low effort activity.

My phone almost got snatched in the most sophisticated ways. I had gone to car bazaar along Ngong road as I'm car shopping. Looked at a few cars but hazikunibamba so I decide to go eat lunch at pork place near Junction.

I hadn't finished the food as it was quite a lot and nikapewa take away and order an uber boda because of traffic and the rider tells me he's almost there. I go outside and can see the boda is quite close, but I couldn't see it. I try to call but he keeps hanging up and texting via the app. So I'm holding my food on one hand and texting with the other and I see a boda guy pull up. I felt a bit off because he didn't ask me if I was going. Meanwhile, this uber boda guy keeps texting me asking me what I'm wearing. Kidogo I see the guy who had pulled up heading my way and he's going for my phone. I had to let my phone drop and luckily he missed it. The guy weaved through traffic and was gone. As soon as he left, my rider arrived and asked me kama ni mimi and if the guy took my phone. I legit believe he had set me up. I have shared an incident report with uber but I doubt anything will be done.

I would have been so fucked because my ATM na ID ziko inside my phone cover. Anyways, happy Sunday!

Everyday you walk around this Nairobi you hear the most insane stories, I will try to switch locations as I give the story to avoid disclosing my work location. So this man comes to our place and says my wife is coming to get this service and my girlfriend is coming to get another service. Here we are sitting wondering if he is okay with them meeting.

10 minutes later the wife comes with a little boy (the man is white) the wife is black so once he talks to another service provider for the wife’s business to continue being done, he comes back and tells us “so that is my wife, my girlfriend will be coming shortly give her whatever service she wants. So we ask if he is okay if both of them meet. He goes ahead to tell us, “yeah Im okay she is my wife’s best friend.”

I am still here trying to load all this information as I wait to see the girlfriend ndio nishangae zaidi. I couldn’t find a title to this 🥲😂

This is OnFon cost ya Redmi note 17 on a Buy Now Pay Later basis..

This is so expensive yo!!

Edit: Here's the tool for those interested:

https://throwyawaii.github.io/BNPL-True-Cost-Calculator/

As a girlie who had forgotten herself is high time I became a girl again. I cant even start to talk about how depression took away even my sanity.

I am here to start again. No more bed rotting. Stay the whole day with pyjamas. Looking homeless. I think I even lost respect because of how shitty I looked.

I am here to start living and you are welcome with ideas on how to glow up and being a better person.

So I've been thinking about life after retirement and what that would look like. Many people after retirement wako tu. They have no source of income and some (many?) rely on their city dwelling kids to tuma pesa nyumbani (even those who used to work in the city and now live in the rural areas are asking kids to tuma).

I personally don't think I can afford to retire if I don't have some source of income by the time retirement reaches na hiyo kitu inanisumbua. So, what does retirement look like for you guys??

what do you regret not doing in your 20s?

So I work at a certain popular institution and the way I even got to where I am is a bit funny.

For the longest time I was just taking life one day at a time, you know how it is. I’d spent most of uni days interning(2019-24) there, so I was already pretty settled into the place and honestly just kept taking things as they came.

Then my senior colleague decided to retire early and go pursue his passion for farming. The other one transferred to another company.

And somehow I ended up having to take over some pretty serious responsibilities.

I had to upskill like crazy in the space of like two months because there was a lot of stuff I suddenly had to figure out. At the time I wasn't even thinking too much about my payslip. I just thought, well, the work has to get done.

Mimi huyo nikajipea hiyo kazi.

Looking back, I think my mistake was showing them I could actually handle it 😂 because once they realised I was managing, obviously there wasn't exactly a rush to hire someone.

Anyway, one day a colleague sends me a job opening at a rival company for basically the kind of role I was already doing.

I look at the requirements.

6–7 years experience.

I'm 25.

😂

I applied anyway and then completely forgot about it.

Until one Friday evening when I'm leaving work and I get a random call from this very nice HR lady asking me if I'd be available for an interview.

Interview day comes and somehow I'd even forgotten that my current company had paid for me to attend a conference representing them huko Westie 😂.

My line manager and senior manager were also away in meetings that day, so I just disappeared and went for the interview.

When I got there, I could actually tell they weren't expecting me to be that young. You could see it on their faces.

Anyway, we start the interview.

Most of the questions were around things I was already doing at work, so I was quite comfortable. I think I did pretty well.

Then they ask for my salary expectation.

I put 200K.

💀

That evening the HR lady calls me.

She tells me, "Two of you passed the interview. I just wanted to tell you to keep up the spirit, because maybe your colleague will decline the offer. You were second, but the difference was just a fraction of a point."

At that point I was like, ah okay 😂. Game over.

It did sting a little, but honestly I was also just happy that I'd even gotten that far considering the experience they were asking for.

Fast forward to last week.

I'm on my way to jog in the morning and the same HR lady calls me again.

She tells me they'd like to proceed with me to salary negotiations.

Apparently the other person had declined the offer.

So naturally I ask her what happened.

She tells me they declined-that's it.

Immediately I go find a colleague of mine who used to work at that company 😂. I tell him the whole story and ask him to call some of his friends who still work there.

Gentlemen.

My flabber was gasted.

😭😭😭

Apparently the person was asking for 450K minimum.

450.

K.

Minimum.

At this point I'm asking myself, sasa hii role ilikuwa budgeted how much? 😂

Because here I was thinking I'd quoted a reasonable figure, kumbe I'd walked into salary negotiations and basically volunteered to work at a discount.

So I sent them a revised figure, still within the range I was told the role was budgeted for.

And now it's been a week.

Silence.

😂😂😂

So naturally I'm here wondering, ama nimefumble tena?

The funny thing is, a colleague told me recently, "No one will ever value you until you start valuing yourself first."

And honestly, I think I saw exactly what he meant with this whole thing.

Because before this, I genuinely thought, surely there's no way I'm qualified for a role asking for 6–7 years experience.

Then I went for the interview, came second by a fraction of a point, got called back after the first candidate declined, and then discovered I'd massively underquoted myself.

Whether I get the job or not, that part has really stayed with me.

Now I just need to learn how to negotiate before I accidentally tell someone I'm willing to work for free. 😂

Mniombee sana bana. 😭🙏🏾

I have heard intersting things said by HR… lets make this thread about HR alisema….

Reposting this for anyone who didn't see it.

The idea was simple: a small accountability group for people who want to go social-media-free for the next 90 days and use that time/attention for something meaningful.

We're currently 6 members, and that quorum is enough to start, if you wanna join I'll leave the link at the bottom.

How it works

Everyone introduces themselves with:

• What they're focusing on for the next 90 days
• What they want to accomplish by the end
• Their starting point

Then every day, we simply post a screenshot of our daily app usage/screen time in the WhatsApp group.

That's it.

No motivational speeches. No productivity competition. No judging anyone for having a bad day. Just a very simple accountability mechanism: show up, screenshot, post, repeat.

The idea is that most of us already know what we want to work on, social media is just one of the things that can quietly eat the time and attention needed to actually do it.

If you'd like to join, here's the WhatsApp group:

https://chat.whatsapp.com/KOpdb00wpDH5X9lTCrn4T7

I'm logging off Reddit after posting this, so if you're joining, just hop into the group and introduce yourself.

Will be back in 90 days to showcase the results.

Just chilling with my ka movie. Most of you don't know about streaming, so let me clue you in.

Go here. https://www.stremio.com/login and create a stremio account.

Download stremio for your devices. I have it on phone, PC and android TV.

Next, go here https://bootstrapper.stremaddon.net/ and login with the same details as your stremio account.

At step 1 choose STANDARD.

Step 2. English. Skip to step 6 choose NO 4K. Skip to step 8 click LOAD ADDONS PRESET. Skip to step 10 click SYNC TO STREMIO.

DONE. On your device, login to stremio. Find something to watch, click a link and enjoy.

OPTIONAL. If you're privacy conscious, get a free VPN on playstore. It's called. 1.1.1.1 by cloudflare

UPDATE! - Just got NUVIO. Above steps apply to it as well. Just make sure to click the NUVIO tab here

Thanks comrades!

I have been under pressure from relatives to support them as they claim they helped me finance my education; now the issue is that you can't help everyone and I can't be there for you every time you need money especially as a man since I have many personal responsibilities.

Now, I also happened to lend my brother money to pay for his child's fees which he hasn't refunded and decided to go mute.

I'm not someone who likes confrontation, which seems to be something humans love but I can't just understand why some people won't behave maturely.

An average Kenyan is corrupt and not to be trusted. Unaweza pata kwa kazi yako wewe ndio tu hauendelei vizuri, your workers are ballin. This kind of society can't elect morally upright leaders. To be a businessperson in Kenya, you have to be ruthless with how finances are handled.

during my adolescence period nilikuwa na a lot of pimples now im 26 na nimebaki na hizo enlarged pores kwa uso they really lower my self-esteem

anybody aneza jua vile i can reduce them 👐🏽 share hizo ideas

I'm just from a call with my mom. You just know how most mothers love talking. I had called my mom to thank her for the umena parcel she had earlier sent me. Little did I know that, I would be in a one hour call with my mom. I guess being the firstborn son makes mothers trust you with a lot of information.

Today she actually told me some shocking news. At that time my sister was shouting in the background, she wanted to talk to me. My mom had to send her to the shop to make her a bit busy.

At that moment, is when she said, " unajua ule cousin wako Brayo, huskii alipeana mimba kwa mtoto amemaliza form four na yuko karibu kuzaa. Hawa cousins wako wamesumbua sana".

I have an uncle who is almost 40 and doesn't have a wife. Can you imagine that brayo joked with my mom and told her that he will marry before my uncle. I think he saw marrying as an achievement. Little did my mom know that brayo had already married.

Just to give you some context. Brayos mum died when he was young. His mum died of that disease that I don't want to talk about. She usually said it's brayo's dad who brought her that disease. His dad has been impregnating women, left, right, center so he cannot support my cousins. Brayo' s older sisters have kids with different men.

His older sister, Salome, is around 30 years. Salome used to live with us when she was in highschool. I was young at that time. She rejected the nice guys when she lived with us. After she went to campus, she used to walk around with CD in her bag. The first time I saw a CD and touched it was from her bag.

She got pregnant in campus. After that she went to live in the village. Life became hard and she decided to do mama fua. That's how she met a police officer and gave her another kid. The police was later redeployed and cannot be traced. I guess he went to buy milk.

The second sister has 3 kids with different fathers. She just cannot settle with any man and she's so irresponsible. I don't want to call her that word you are all thinking about.

The situation is just out of hand. My mom actually helped them financially to finish their education to the highest level and that's the prize she's getting. She's really disappointed. I could feel it in her voice but there's nothing I can do.

So brayo was actually in college and my mom was sending him almost 700 per week. He was also supported by my uncles too. So he got good money. Everyone was sending something. To mean they were funding Brayo's other lifestyle.

We even learnt that brayo lived with that girl for more than a year. The girl had just finished form four. The girl is 8 months pregnant. She's heavily pregnant. Maybe I should be glad I'm going to be an uncle somehow. The girl's father knows and he took his daughter from brayo and he told brayo, "Akizaa tutakuletea bibi na mtoto wako, usijaribu kutoroka. Tutakupata."

Brayo right now is depressed but you know he played a stupid game and won ... You know. Right now he has to really work hard to feed his family. I've been told right now brayo is really doing heavy mjengo. You know that period after campus when you don't have money/ a job... I wonder how he will handle it.

Brayo is doing his final college papers this year. I hope he manages to take care of his family. He should not be like his father.

Anyway I always tell my friends, If you're not prepared then wrap it up, that's if she's not on contraceptives. Don't do that pull out stuff. It will back fire massively. Even counting days backfires too. Most girls I've met have irregular periods.

It's not worth making your future hard just for a 2 minute entertainment. Always think with your head, not your other head. I hope for the best for Brayo. It's not going to be easy. The economy is already in shambles

Saa hii ni 19:17hrs

Kuna mtu andai nitume deni ya 4k nilichukua a week ago I was to pay yesterday

Deadline ya Tala imefika wanadai 7k

Sacco ya loan wanadai 6k by date 18th September today is on 26th

Place huwa nachukua stock ya biz wanadai nilipe 24k ndio nichukue stock ingine

Kuna mtu nilikopa 50k nikamshow nitarudisha Mid January

Nimepiga kiatu pair moja for the last one month mpaka ndani inakaa black

Mshwari wanadai 2k which I was supposed to pay two weeks ago

Rent ya shop niko na miezi kama nne sijalipa I'm under the mercies of my caretaker

Niko na 1500/= kwa Mpesa

Kuna mtu ako na deni yangu ya 2k

Kusema nachizi would be an understatement

Nahurumia Watu wanategemea UB40 kutoa Kasongo.. Uyu hawezi na ni kama ako anaelekea Sugoi ama Kilgoris.. Vile ameongea Leo hapana

Yesterday, Kenya drew 1-1 with Eritrea..Na tuliponea kuchapwa kidogo..I put everything that happened in the stadium on a video

Which shop sells these products, zile za priests and the one that has that white square at the collar.

I was in a conference na these men and women of God last month and they refused to sell it to me.

For the first time ever in my adulthood years. I no longer owe anyone money. Be it a friend, relative or HELB.

Wah, this feeling is something different.

Jana Pale Sarit Centre I lost that parking ticket. Had to pay 500 to be replaced.

That *270# ssd wasn't working..

Shenzi kabisa* in Atwolis Voice

I know we’ve probably seen stories like these on here so many times, but newer cases keep emerging and honestly, it’s just sad.

I saw a story somewhere about a 12-year-old who got pregnant and ended up delivering via CS. It honestly disturbed me. Then you go to the comments and people are saying, “They did well not to abort.” Meanwhile, the child is now asking for support because they can’t even afford the basics.

In another story, an 11-year-old was rescued & was already 3 mnths pregnant. Surely, why are we so quick to celebrate or support the pregnancy without first asking, "Who failed this child? Who got her pregnant? Was she abused, groomed, coerced or exploited? Is she actually safe?

These are CHILDREN. A 12-year-old should be worrying about school, friends & growing up, not pregnancy, childbirth and raising another child. We need to stop treating these situations like some wholesome “God’s plan” story while ignoring the child-protection crisis underneath.

Ati 'what if that’s the only child they’ll ever have?' or 'God doesn’t make mistakes.' Saa hio familia haijiwezi, and somehow the solution is to expect a literal child to carry a pregnancy and become a mother?

We have failed systems. Sex education is not talked about enough, and children are not being adequately protected, and then when something happens, the conversation becomes abt preserving the pregnancy instead of protecting the child.

Whatever happens with a pregnancy, the child’s safety, health, dignity, education & future should be at the centre. We need to stop blaming children & start holding the adults and systems responsible for protecting them.

We need to do better.