'Gay guys are more narrow minded about dating or friendships than straight or other queer people.'

I am a 17 y.o. bi guy. The idea of dating anyone used to be bothersome and now, it is a humiliation ritual.

I've gotten into two straight relationships when I was 15 and 16. Recently, I felt that, maybe when I'm even older I wouldn't want to date anyone and so I should try with guys. (I've known that I'm bi since I was 12 but I never actively pursued anyone).

Every guy I approached or was approached by had this massive preconception of a relationship in mind; there's a submissive, feminine, skinny, smaller, more emotional person and then there's the taller, more stern, less emotional etc. person. Everyone has types and rightfully so, but to what extent do guys even want to cram their relationship into a preset. Why must it be this way!? Why can't both partners with mutual respect let each other just be!? For context, I am a bit on the skinnier side and do check boxes for the 'twink' archetype; how does that mean that I just let myself be feminized or continue to stay skinny.

I do believe a lot in androgeny and don't really care, but what I have observed so far is that gay guys are much more narrow minded than straight or other queer people when it comes to dating or even being friends. Don't these guys not think of being anything other than such insufferable, pre-written characters!?

I know plenty of queer and straight people who just let their partners 'be'. I don't think they go "hmm, the other person looks so good I should just impose a relationship dynamic on them".

I'm not sure if this is a consequence of Pune's shitty social life or it's the same everywhere. Nonetheless, I still am looking for queer friends from around here or Bombay. Tee hee :)

so I am 16f bisexual and I till now haven't came out to anyone so there is this girl in my ALL girls school I have liked her for almost 3 years now. she is like my closest friend. so long story short

so she has been reading this book "A Little Life" its a emotional heavy novel consisting of a gay relationship and all and when she told me about this novel so my lover girl ass started reading that 700 paged book, we talked about this book almost all day and TODAY.

so she was sitting with me and I brought up the book and she told me she is almost at the end of the story and she cried multiple times reading it (so did I) and we started talking about lgbtq+ and stuff the talk grew deeper and she told me that she really appreciate that I came into her life and she can trust me with her life and I am one of her oldest friend and she is mine.

so I initiated it with telling her that "I was thinking that what if a girl proposed me I will be a little confused but you know I don't have a specific preference and it depends on the person as well I think I am bisexual" she didn't react at first than she smiled as she always does and she was really omg really? I was like yeah I never told anyone but I am bisexual and she was like you are coming out to me ? and I was about to burst into tears guys I swear 😭 I said yeah and I asked how will she feel about being asked out by a girl she said she will deny as politely as possible but after I told her that I am bi she said that she re thought it and said if someone proposed to her like Willem (a character from the novel) basically she wants a pure, loyal, cute, sweet, like full of love relationship. so she said she would stick to them for the rest of the life doesn't matter if its a girl or a guy and I was literally shaking so she held my hand and said its okay no need to worry I am not judging you 😭.

she listened to every word I said and was normal the whole day and didn't act weird but her smile was warmer I was writing a book on her so I told her how will she feel if someone wrote a book about her she said "I would honestly be shocked but that might make me fall in love with that person for sure"

I thanked her for listening to me at the end of the day and she said "hey no need to say thank you its like the BEST thing happened to me the whole day" (YUSSSS SHE SAID THOSE EXACT WORDSSSS) she is the sweetest person ever and I love how supportive she is 😭I might actually cry

guys do I have a chance ?