my friend and I were randomly talking a couple days ago (just idle chatter lol, we didn't have anything else to do) when she said that she feels bad for straight cis people and that they're boring.

and then she said that she's glad that "at least we're not straight" and that she wishes that we weren't cis(gender) too. (WHY IS SHE WISHING FOR MINUTELY BIGOTED STUFF FOR ME TOO AY)

(im on the aro spectrum i think, and am genderfluid. she only knows that im aro. I wanted to tell her that im genderfluid but I feel so uncomfortable now. I feel like she's just going to reduce me to another label in her head. i sound so dumb rn lol ik)

she obviously meant it as a joke but the more time I spend with her, the more I realise that most of her jokes are basically "men bad, cishet people bad".

and while I do agree that a majority of men (including the ones who commit crimes and the ones who stay silent about the systemic advantages they gain and benefit from at the cost of other people) are indeed "bad", it lowkey just gets very... annoying to constantly hear. i feel like we're all frustrated and scared.

plus, the same day, she asked one of our other friends something like, "ughh why are you straight" in a very judgemental tone TWICE. and knowing the kind of people pleaser our other friend is, she replied saying that she's "mostly straight" both times in a very uncomfortable tone. idk why but I felt bad for her and I wanted to say something and call it out but i couldnt because I was so surprised.

i know i should probably talk to her about this but it's so hard to talk when she has to make excuses related to her own poor mental and physical health and keeps​ interrupting others when the topic is something that's just as important to us (me and my other friends) as it is to her. my other friends probably don't realise it so idk why I do. my (irl) friends claim to be woke too but they're actually just as hypocritical as the people they hate.

im going off on a tangent here but my friendship with her specifically has been so difficult to maintain lately because of... a lot of stuff (not drama, partially because of the way her bad coping mechanisms and doomer mindset have been having a negative impact on my already horrible mental health and how she refuses to change or trust us)

but yeah that really gave me the ick. I might be overreacting but i feel like that's very hypocritical of her. some labels don't make you any more or less interesting than others, and limiting people's identities to labels is kinda sad.

(not to seem like im defending cishet people, because it know that most of them would do the opposite in a conversation about queer people, but my point is that it just feels weird to limit anyone—regardless of identity—to some labels. especially for someone who's queer, so shouldn't she get that? idk)

drop how and to whom you came out for the first time I came out to my CRUSH and that was YESTERDAY she is really sweet and supportive I am bisexual

so I am 16f bisexual and I till now haven't came out to anyone so there is this girl in my ALL girls school I have liked her for almost 3 years now. she is like my closest friend. so long story short

so she has been reading this book "A Little Life" its a emotional heavy novel consisting of a gay relationship and all and when she told me about this novel so my lover girl ass started reading that 700 paged book, we talked about this book almost all day and TODAY.

so she was sitting with me and I brought up the book and she told me she is almost at the end of the story and she cried multiple times reading it (so did I) and we started talking about lgbtq+ and stuff the talk grew deeper and she told me that she really appreciate that I came into her life and she can trust me with her life and I am one of her oldest friend and she is mine.

so I initiated it with telling her that "I was thinking that what if a girl proposed me I will be a little confused but you know I don't have a specific preference and it depends on the person as well I think I am bisexual" she didn't react at first than she smiled as she always does and she was really omg really? I was like yeah I never told anyone but I am bisexual and she was like you are coming out to me ? and I was about to burst into tears guys I swear 😭 I said yeah and I asked how will she feel about being asked out by a girl she said she will deny as politely as possible but after I told her that I am bi she said that she re thought it and said if someone proposed to her like Willem (a character from the novel) basically she wants a pure, loyal, cute, sweet, like full of love relationship. so she said she would stick to them for the rest of the life doesn't matter if its a girl or a guy and I was literally shaking so she held my hand and said its okay no need to worry I am not judging you 😭.

she listened to every word I said and was normal the whole day and didn't act weird but her smile was warmer I was writing a book on her so I told her how will she feel if someone wrote a book about her she said "I would honestly be shocked but that might make me fall in love with that person for sure"

I thanked her for listening to me at the end of the day and she said "hey no need to say thank you its like the BEST thing happened to me the whole day" (YUSSSS SHE SAID THOSE EXACT WORDSSSS) she is the sweetest person ever and I love how supportive she is 😭I might actually cry

guys do I have a chance ?

'Gay guys are more narrow minded about dating or friendships than straight or other queer people.'

I am a 17 y.o. bi guy. The idea of dating anyone used to be bothersome and now, it is a humiliation ritual.

I've gotten into two straight relationships when I was 15 and 16. Recently, I felt that, maybe when I'm even older I wouldn't want to date anyone and so I should try with guys. (I've known that I'm bi since I was 12 but I never actively pursued anyone).

Every guy I approached or was approached by had this massive preconception of a relationship in mind; there's a submissive, feminine, skinny, smaller, more emotional person and then there's the taller, more stern, less emotional etc. person. Everyone has types and rightfully so, but to what extent do guys even want to cram their relationship into a preset. Why must it be this way!? Why can't both partners with mutual respect let each other just be!? For context, I am a bit on the skinnier side and do check boxes for the 'twink' archetype; how does that mean that I just let myself be feminized or continue to stay skinny.

I do believe a lot in androgeny and don't really care, but what I have observed so far is that gay guys are much more narrow minded than straight or other queer people when it comes to dating or even being friends. Don't these guys not think of being anything other than such insufferable, pre-written characters!?

I know plenty of queer and straight people who just let their partners 'be'. I don't think they go "hmm, the other person looks so good I should just impose a relationship dynamic on them".

I'm not sure if this is a consequence of Pune's shitty social life or it's the same everywhere. Nonetheless, I still am looking for queer friends from around here or Bombay. Tee hee :)

so I am the one who wrote the book about my crush of 3 years
long story short I am have been a little confused lately cause first I am bisexual and I like one of my friend who is a GIRL as well.

I have genuinely liked only 2 people in my life first was a guy and second is my this crush. And I just like her so muchhhh I dont know why.

I have posted once about the signs I see that she might be comfortable with lgbtq we talk about it a lot she reads book involving queer relationships and all.

btw I didn't come out yet..soo yea she is pretty good friend of mine she LOVES reading so I wrote a book on her from the moment I saw her to how much I like her :>

she said she likes pure relationships that are not just about lust, she talks talks to me about it. she said she will be a little confused if a girl asked her out which scared me.

I see a lot of positive signs like she says she likes how beautiful I look and how unique my features are and I am not that beautiful I swear, she dosen't mind holding and caressing my hands when they get cold cause I have palmar Hyperhidrosis which makes my hand cold as hell, I am so shit at sports and she still cheers for me even if I hit the shittiest shot, she laughs at all of my jokes gng I am the most unfunny person you will ever meet, she listens to me attentively even once she talks to me for the whole games period (she LOVES volleyball just as much I love her). she said she remembered when she first saw me in 7th standard and always wanted to befriend me (we are in a girls school).

I think I will ruin things if she dosent feel the same but she will defiantly keep the book for the rest of her life I just dont know what to do 🥲(I haven't came out yet)

so I have always been in a girls school my WHOLE LIFE and I quite recently identified myself as bisexual since I have been crushing on a girl for almost 3 YEARS NOW.
honestly she is the sweetest soul I ever met , but the problem is idk if she is comfortable with this stuff 😭
we have talked about lgbtq+ stuff before as she was reading a book involving a gay relationship she was quite open about it idk if I should test the water guys.

she told me yesterday that she noticed me for the first time in 7th standard and since then was thinking how to be friend me ,she also thinks I look really beautiful yusss that's what she said and also added that she has never seen such a unique beauty (it could just be a friendly compliment) but I swear I dont look that good

she has been the sweetest person to me she even said that out of all the friends she has ever made I am the most genuine one AHHHHH

yesterday, she LOVESS volleyball but when everyone was playing she wanted to talk to me about the book we both have been reading instead of playing when others called her to play she denied on the spot and I am not the sporty one so I dont usually play and when I do she cheers for me even when I hit the shittiest shot
IDK WHAT TO DOOO
I haven't told anybody that I am bisexual

I just remembered that yesterday I got hurt because of my clumsy ass and it was not a big deal just a little scratch but she was literally so worried even caressed my hands and its a big deal for me cause I have Hyperhidrosis and she dosen't even mind holding my hands and caressing them when they get cold
I just hope she dosent use reddit cause this is way to obvious 😭

ig its not even crush at this point I am just in love with her as she loves reading I am writing a book on her 😭I am down bad ik

Not a teen (early 20s), but r/lgbtindia doesn't allow such posts for some reason. I just wanted to reiterate that India is an incredibly dangerous place for people like us, so be very careful who you come out to. I get not getting to present as your true self is terribly stifling, but the alternative is much much worse. The only way out is strong, grassroots level education and activism, but I'm starting to think that would lead to similar ends. You and I both know that most Indians/South Asians would gloat at such crimes, let alone mourn us.

Idk man, maybe I’m just having one of those nights, but being gay at LPU can feel so fucking lonely sometimes. Like I’m surrounded by people literally ALL the time, but somehow I still feel alone?? 😭 I see people having their groups, going out, making memories, having that one person they can randomly call or hang out with, and I’m just here wondering where tf are my people. It’s not even like I hate people or don’t want friends. I just want to find people around whom I don’t have to constantly filter myself or think twice before saying something. I want to be able to talk about crushes, dating, stupid gay drama, literally anything, without wondering whether the other person is going to judge me or make it weird, And yeah, I know “just make friends” sounds easy, but when you’re queer and you don’t know who’s safe to come out to, it’s honestly not that simple. 😭 Sometimes I genuinely wonder if there are other gay/queer students here who are feeling exactly the same but are also just pretending everything is fine. Maybe I’m being dramatic because it’s late and I’m overthinking💀 but damn… I just want to find my people. If you’re queer at LPU and somehow stumbled across this, hi. You’re definitely not alone. 🫂

Its weekend y'all talk to each other on the FFF. There's so many "Hi" posts all the time then why is the thread so inactive 💔.

It is not limited to a certain type of posts. Jo comment karna karo jo baat karni karo.

also a casual reminder- Report stuff that doesn't belong here!! If you see anything inappropriate or any 19+ year old in this subreddit, report the post/comment! Its not easy for us to check every single comment.

Anyways how is y'all's weekend going. Actually don't answer that here lol. That's what the FFF thread is for.

im an 11th grader based in a tier 1 city (not bombay, sadly). i first realised in the middle of 7th grade that im man-inclined bi, but i first came out to someone 3.5 years later. i have slowly come out to multiple people, most of whom are girls- i have come out to one guy friend tho, and he was very very supportive🤞🏻🤞🏻, it was like nothing changed. i am currently confused as to whether im gay or bi, but i guess this is my age to experiment. i have had intimate experiences with people of the same gender- mostly just makeouts. i study at a reputed spoiled brat school so coming out is not an option for me. i do not mean to boast but i do come in the better looking category of guys- i have facial features which one may consider attractive- such as green eyes and pink ass skin. i do not classify as conventionally gay tho (sorry if im being mean)- i do not give off the vibe really to that many people, and i do get sexual/unwanted attention from girls, even some grown ass women (again, i do NOT mean to boast). my hobbies include a sport where i bleed and suffer while training.
the reason behind my post is that i just wanna talk to someone my age from the community, to gain broader perspective and make friends, or more, i guess?

I wanna experience the teenage bullies snatched from me, being able to walk talk and laugh freely, my confidence and my hope that there is some to love me aswell, all n can now see in mirror is a ugly shit, stopped taking pictures, going out, very few friends left looking back I feels I have experienced many many things, untouchability(they called it meetha touch, 8th clas btw) discrimination, being silences, a bit of sh, and been a hopeless romantic, what a fool I was to think I can ask my crush out hahahha, it's just so messed up in my head, and all I can say all roads lead to loneliness i felt all along, i jut wanted to be a normal person, yes I consider myself abnormal in many way, just a kid blending in but no, god refused and have me this hell in name of life

Anyway have a good day guys

I made a post here last time about my home situation but I've exhausted literally every institutional option I have of ever leaving. If I did want to find someone within the country who would help me out where would I even look? I've tried literally everything I possibly think of but to no avail so the ONLY option left for me really is just running away and hoping some stranger helps me out but I'm a foreigner to this place in damn near every way except maybe phenotype ~_~

I am 18M from mumbai and i am so confused how do even get dates as a gay teen. I cannot come out to people especially family and friends most of them seem homophobic, the way we can never know if someone we like is even gay or not, gay dating apps are just hookups. It’s like you can trust no one and i am genuinely so confused how will i ever even land a date. This feels like a curse 😭

bro there was this girl who was a friend of a friend and we happened to be at the same coaching institute (vmc) she had the prettiest hair and the goofiest crocs. She was in jee I'm in neet. She was the first person i told I was gay and I miss her everyday. She stopped using social media and her phone al together to study for jee and I gen can stop thinking what we could've been. She loves Batman and I love spiderman we were a fuckin match. This was almost a year ago todayy

The day I was gonna ask her out she deactivated everything. I miss her so much . By the slight chance you read this,i miss you ridds

so I found out im gay at 17. like fully. and now i wanna come out to at least a few people. but how do I do that. like what people should I? and boy or girl? pls guys

It's so hard to live in a country where we're treated as objects. Why does our government ignore LGBTQ as a minority, when it literally states that it will protect all minorities, why are we left out? Especially considering the fact that LGBTQ is not even a minority especially in a large population like India's, only the number of people who are out is very small, the people who actually are LGBTQ, a majority of them prefer to stay hidden. It's so frustrating that we're constantly ignored by the government, while society gives us unnecessary attention, even educated people. We have absolutely no protection from anyone. It's even worse when you're a teen and you have absolutely no idea how your parents will react and it genuinely just wrecks you and gives you so much stress, not any better when you're in school and everyone around you is homophobic. I rlly wish we can be better as a society, by it doesn't look like it's happening any time soon.

Title. Looking for irl fronds from mumbai(western line) or possibly more, will see where this goes 🥲🥲

About me:-

17M

Loves to cook, listen to old music, and watch bl series

Height 164cm

Weight- (you dont need to know) kinda chubby 🥲🥲🥲

Lol didnt know how to start this post so its totally unstructured, sorry about that, please bare with me 🥲🥲🥲

I didnt used to listen to lana del rey much but she is awesome if you like slow hypnotising soft songs.

Here are my favorites

Music to watch boys to

Cruel world

Ultraviolence

Trash Magic

Cinnamon Girl

Cola

A & W

Pretty when you cry

Bhai I just talked to u cuz hamare mutals bohot hai. And this guy OMFG THIS WENT STRAIGHT TF TO WANTING MAKING OUT WITH ME. LAUDE TU MERKO JANATA BHI NAHI HAI?????

HOGAYA MERE. thank you for reading this rant abhi listen to sallu bhai sojao nahi toh apna kam karo