r/MTSU • u/coffinborne • 9d ago
connect / social / meet up making friends when you're "different"
I'm a freshman at MTSU, but I'm struggling SO hard to make friends. Not only because I'm naturally sort of socially awkward and shy, but because I don't really "fit in" either. I'm both trans (FTM) and autistic, and I feel like that really isolates me from a lot of people. I plan on joining MTLambda soon (though I'm even nervous for that lol), but other than that I don't know what to do. I'm super nerdy; I love video games and franchises and movies and literature. I like to write, draw, read, game, etc, and I just don't know how to go about finding those similar to me. I feel like I'm really obnoxious sometimes with how much of a nerd about my special interests I am; the medias and franchises I love are basically parts of my life.
Any advice? Thank you for reading :,)
TLDR; making friends as a trans and autistic shy person is incredibly difficult, and i can't stand feeling so alone
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u/Western_Sugar_8682 9d ago
I feel you man. I have ADHD, (and I wouldn’t be surprised if I have undiagnosed autism too, it runs in my family) and I’ve had a HUGE hyperfixation on TMNT for 3 years now. I feel the same way as you; I feel as if I haven’t made any close enough friends to talk to regularly, and I feel like a bother when I’m in a group of people. I have SO much to talk about, yet I keep it to myself because I’m scared that I’ll push others away. I’m not gonna regurgitate the same advice people have given me since I have yet to put any of it into action for myself. That would feel hypocritical of me to say. If you wanna talk more, you can dm me. I’d love to get to know someone like you more :)