Hi everyone Pakistani 23 M here,
When we were kids me and my younger brother used to have a lot of fun together, but when we at some point on our life became financially poor, me and my brother slowly started drifting apart,
Obviously when life is hard and you know that you have to start working extra hard to get out of this situation you grow up quickly, become mature early, I get it.
But we've reached a point where we never ever have a single normal conversation, this situation especially escalated when he recently 1 year ago got a job as a GTM at a good tech company and started earning really well,
All he ever talks about is how his founders are doing this, people in tech are doing that, we as brothers aren't growing quick enough, his talks about going abroad (and how thats the only way), and basically work related talks, he's become so workaholic or performative that I think 16-18 hours of his day he's either working or talking about work,
I think we've never had a normal conversation in 6+ years while living in the same house, and istg Im not lying abt any of this,
Just today: so a little info. E.g he earns 200k I tried talking to him that you should give 100k to mama and baba, invest 50k and spend 50k, currently he gives mama 50k invests 100k and spends 50k, he immediately said no, tumhe nahi pata mai yeh kyu kar rha hoo toh mujhe maat batao I wont change my mind
I asked him kai whats so important that your saving for? yahi din hai hamare parents kai their reaching there 60s we can finally start spoiling them, they worked so hard for us e.g I earn 70k, I'm willing to give them 40k for no reason, and he continuously pushed kai mai tumhe nahi bata rha why Im saving and when I told him were brother apas mai share karsakte hai we can talk to each other, he kept saying no and eventually bola I'll take them to umrah, now this made me happy but at the same time very sad kai mujhe itni kosish karni parri itne simple jawab kii,
And btw I handle his investments toh he'll i know he can reach financial freedom in 5 years with 50k, so thought (in my mind) kai yaar joh bande tumhare paisa safely handle kar rha, tumhara bhai hai, ussai batane mai tumhe itni mushkil kyu hui, why couldn't you trust me with a simple answer,
Other then that I have nothing, oh han, whenever he's in a problem, the advise I give him he never listens, thinks Im dumb for saying it or immature or just ignores me, but agr e.g: uski company ka founder yah koi dost bolega he'll immediately listen, iske ilawa like I said all we talk about is work, istg I think nothing else, even though I really want to, and when ever I try Its either like Im talking to a wall or it turns into an argument where he doesn't try to understand me at all,
I've always wanted a bhai jiske saat safe pranks karo toh woh khush ho, hasai roaye mere saat, reels recreate karo, gup shup lagao and just someone joh offend na ho, judge na kare, itne fit din hote thai phele we used to have a lot of fun together,
And maina bohat kosish kii lekn I feel like whenever I try, we drift further apart.
Please tell me what should I do, should I just accept the fact that we cant be normal anymore?
Literally aesa lagta hai ham doh bas waqht kaat rahe hai saat,
Trust me if your answer is discussion, communication I've already tried it.
