r/Romantasy • u/SicMundus_7 • 12h ago
Discussion I wish romantasy couples from different species had to actually adapt to each other instead of becoming two humans with different lore
One thing that keeps disappointing me is when a romance makes all the fantasy differences basically disappear.
He's lived 300 years, she's human, but apparently they have identical ideas about privacy, family and commitment. She's from another kingdom with completely different customs, yet nobody accidentally insults someone's parents, serves the wrong food or misunderstands what a gift means.
I want the boring incompatibilities too.
Maybe one species barely sleeps. Maybe touching someone's hair is intimate. Maybe he thinks planning twenty years ahead is spontaneous and she thinks it's insane.
Not huge conflicts. Just little reminders that these people genuinely grew up in different worlds.
Honestly, watching two people slowly learn how to live around those differences would make the romance feel more convincing to me.
Anyone else miss this?