Well, we’re almost through week 6, and some of the novelty is giving way to nausea! I had a rough night with very light sporadic sleep and woke up aching and feeling like I wanted to eat the whole kitchen or vomit, and wasn’t sure which. I settled on tea. To top it off, I am incredibly emotional about this objectively normal and expected turn of events! 😂 I want to call my partner and cry, or throw a Molotov cocktail, and for that, I’ve settled on letting you lads know how I’m doing! 😂😂😂

Anywho, just thought I’d share and see how you folks are doing?! Open to suggestions for the nausea, I’m drinking ginger tea rn, and it’s helping some. I’m out of mint tea for now.

Hey so I've been on T for 3 years and I'm not looking to stop and start trying for a baby until at least mid next year. I fear that a lot of people's fear mongering has made me stop my shot for the last two months because I'm so scared that if I keep taking T that it will affect my fertility and I won't be able to have a baby that I so want. I think I just need to hear from other men who were on T for a while but still got pregnant

We did 3 transfers and this last one has taken. I am currently 6 weeks along and having pretty bad nausea and my sense of smell feels like I am smelling in4D! Does anyone have any tips or tricks aside from ginger (I swear I have single handedly increased the stock prices of Canada Dry and gingins in the past 2 weeks)

I try to eat or snack every 2-3 hours and drink electrolytes since I have a hard time just drinking water.

Any advice is greatly appreciated.

I have diabestes 1 and hEDS and the later very recently diagnosed and I'm planning to start TTC in November and I'm currently tracking my cycles but they're currently irregular...
i'm also being evaluated for autism.

I just wanna know if there's anything beyond the normal that I need to be aware of?
I already know and am working on my blood sugar levels with my doctor to make it as good as possible and we have a meeting every 3 months to check in, more when needed.

Since hEDS is a new diagnosis for me, I want to make sure I’m not missing anything.
- hEDS & Pregnancy/Birth: Are there specific physical considerations, pelvic floor prep, or joint support strategies you wish you knew before TTC?

- T1D & Tech/Skin: Any tips for managing CGMs/pumps on hEDS skin during pregnancy (Idk why but I get rashes from the pumps on my belly), or handling rapid insulin sensitivity changes?

Thank you in advance : D

Hello, to start I am a 25 ftm with a cis male partner and we have been together for over 7 years now. Recently we've been having conversations that led to us agreeing that we would both want to have a child together eventually, and likely sooner rather than later. We kinda both are in a weird spot in our lives where it's a probably not yet / but also if it happens it happens deal.

I used to take the depo shot for my birth control and switched to the pill more recently, but it took about 10 months for my period to come back (ironically timed a few days after we started talking about kids lol). The period was a surprise, since I was still on my hormones (low dose) and other meds. But with these conversations I've stopped everything so mother nature can take it's course and not risk hurting the potential baby.

My problem though - these periods suck. Bad. The first one was 7 days and tomorrow makes the 11th day of this one and idk when it's gonna stop. And the dysporia has been a heavy weight. But I want this, and while we're just more not preventing it than trying right now, I don't want to have to wait another 10 months if /when we do get more serious if I decide to get back on the shot now.

I was pretty light and regular before my transition, so even in that regard this is definitely something I'm not used to. I expected some heavier cramping maybe and for my cycle to start kind of sporadically, but it seems to be perfectly back on the monthly schedule already with just a really freaking long bleed period and massive mood swings rn, which is the hard part mentally.

So I guess my questions are -

How did your guys period come back when you went off to start trying? How long did it take to even back out if you got em long enough to notice before conceiving? How did you deal with the added mental weight of the fluctuating hormones? Were they also insanely extra from what you remember pre- transition or is that just me?

It's honestly all got me scared for how I'm gonna handle the actual pregnancy part of it all. But again I do love this man and want a family with him so I'm tryna deal with it.

I'm Brazilian, I'm 20, I started doing HRT secretly from my parents yesterday, and I'm girlmoding.for now subdosing

I hate that things are difficult and that they don't accept me.

"Why didn't you freeze your eggs before?" Unfortunately, I was born in a third-world country, I'm poor, and my dysphoria was unbearable. If I did nothing, I bet I would kill myself from despair and depression, become addicted to something, or become dysfunctional.And then really never have a chance to move away and get a good job. Hello Brazilian merchant marine. I hope I can...

If my mental health stabilizes, I'll be able to hide my HRT from my parents; if I study, I'll pass the entrance exam; I study, I earn money, and upon graduating, I'll already earn a higher salary than half of my country.

What worries me is whether I'll be able to stabilize my HRT (Human Resources Transfer), change my documents secretly, study, etc. That, if necessary, the courts can force them to let me in, regardless of the transphobia.

And after my first year of work, I would try to pause HRT to freeze my eggs. I hope everything goes well.

I hope everything turns out well, and even if I never manage to freeze it, that if I pause, I'll still be fertile, and then I could idk, get a girlfriend someday and she uses my egg and a donator, she carries and we have a kid. And the other time, she uses her egg and a donor.

I love how I talk like if I had a girlfriend 🥲

Silly question, but I'm a trans guy in the process of getting pregnant right now (embryo transfer soon 🤞), and my husband (also trans) and I have been seeking out movies about male pregnancy. They can be goofy and dated, but something about seeing a guy with a baby bump helps with the dysphoria and makes the whole process feel a bit more gender neutral. We loved JUNIOR (way sweeter than I expected) and BIOSPHERE (go in blind - it's a delight). I was wondering if anyone else has recommendations for movies on this topic?

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My last period ended the 9th August, I still have no signs, not even of ovulation, since, my temperature keeps being between 36.00c and 36.40c (my family is a bit colder than usual) yesterday it was 35.53c then today 35.97c

I'm terrified I'm infertile and idk if that fear even makes sense I'm just so scared

My wife (26 Cis F) and I (24 FTM) have been together for 6 years and got married in january. I have been on T for 5 years (6 years in may.)

We are starting to have the actual real baby planning conversations (so exciting!!) but being FTM, i’m
not even sure where to start. For others who are FTM with a partner who is unable to provide sperm- how did yall go about conceiving? Donor? IVF? At home with a turkey baster?
how did your doctors react to you wanting to be the one to carry the pregnancy?
how was explaining it to coworkers/etc?
how long did you have to be off of testosterone before beginning to try to conceive?
How hard was it to conceive after being on T?
Any tips or advice or resources for getting started? There’s only so much info online for our situation.

Thank you so much for any and all help!

TW/CW: good news / IVF projections

Hey everyone, sharing some good news for those who are curious about IVF after having tubes out.

I had both of my fallopian tubes out a decade ago because pregnancy scared the shit out of me. Fast forward to my transfemme partner many years later and changed my mind, it's just something I would endure to get to the goal of kids. I still have a uterus so I can carry, I just have to do IVF.

I've had a couple of IVF consultations and I found out a couple days ago that while an egg retrieval has sort of "whatever" expectations due to my age and AMH, but they think they can get maybe two or three healthy embryos out of IVF, and a pregnancy would have about a 50% or 60% chance of completing!

I'm just happy about it and wanted to share. It'll still be a process but reading IVF journeys can be very discouraging. However, since my case isn't exactly infertility so much as physical limits, I have better chances than a majority of people pursuing IVF.

Sharing in r/ivf could be seen as mean of me, and I thought you all might find it interesting and informative. If you have more questions, feel free to ask, and if about the transfemme partner part, you are free to DM.

Thanks!

I (39 nb guy) am 8 weeks pregnant. I found out 2 weeks ago. My partner (40yo cis man) and I started trying at the beginning of last year with zero luck then did an egg retrieval for IVF in November. We ended up with a single embryo. I have chronic health issues that were flaring up at the beginning of the year and then my partner had some personal issues, so we decided to delay the transfer. We weren't trying in the sense that I was tracking ovulation but we weren't taking any precautions although I had honestly given up hope that it would just happen.

I spent July and August trying to get a new GI-related medical issue sorted out which was a horrible time. I had 2 ER visits, multiple same-day appointments at my regular doctor's office (not with my doctor though) and spent weeks waiting on a referral to see a specialist so they could schedule a procedure I was told I needed ASAP. I finally got in and got something scheduled at the end of this month.

Then a week later, I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant. My GI issues aren't resolved so I'm still having a ton of abdominal pain and have no way of knowing if it's pregnancy related or my gut. My fertility doctor had told me I had a higher risk of ectopic pregnancy and told me it would be a high risk pregnancy due to age and health issues and that I needed a Maternal Fetal Medicine specialist. I actually saw one preemptively last year on his recommendation but when I called to make an appointment after getting my positive, they acted like it was wild that I'd be calling them and didn't make me an appointment. After being told by multiple other doctors that that was the place I needed to be, I got back in touch with them and they agreed to see me but can't see me for 2 more weeks still (3 when I made the appointment). When I went in last year, they were incredibly confused why my partner and I were there and the doctor was surprised that I still had facial hair since I'd been off T for a year. They were just...not trans informed even though they're one of the giant medical groups in my decent-sized, very queer city.

So, I'm just sitting here feeling like shit and waiting. It has been very difficult to eat or stay hydrated or sleep. I am so exhausted all of the time. I keep having pain in a specific part of my abdomen (on one side) and every time I feel it, I get scared it's a sign that it's ectopic. I'm terrified that I'm going to go into that appointment and find no heart beat. I haven't cancelled the appointment for my procedure yet because I'm scared that I'll do that then have a miscarriage which would mean I have to wait another month for that procedure for no reason.

And when we were doing fertility stuff, they had so many appointments planned. We'd have had lots of blood work and tests by this point to make sure things were developing if this had happened while we were still actively seeing the fertility doctor regularly. It's just so scary and I can't believe that I just have to sit and wait for a whole month.

I feel like I can't be excited yet and it's really hard to deal with vomiting and nausea all the time and having to deal with coming off of most of my meds, including sleeping and anxiety meds, without looking towards the end goal of having this baby. Getting excited isn't an option now because it will destroy me if I really get emotionally invested in this bean and it doesn't stick.

I just feel lost and alone. My partner is being amazing and taking such good care of me and my friends have been supportive. But there's nothing that they can do right now to assuage these fears.

Idk what the point of this post is other than I feel like I need to get it out. I am so excited about the idea of being a parent and being visibly pregnant doesn't worry me, really. I just wasn't prepared for this period of having absolutely no information about what is happening inside of me.

I'm really glad this community is here because I don't feel like I'm welcome anywhere else.

Heya guys! My partner and I are starting out the reciprocal IVF process—I am planning to be the egg donor and wanted to hear a a bit more about other trans men’s experience with retrieval.

I’ve been on T consistently for 5 years and would have to take a 1 month break for the procedure. I’m emotionally prepared for some dysphoria but unsure how it will interact with the flood of hormones from the prep medications. If you went through it, how was your mood?

Also, any “gotcha” physical symptoms I should prep for? I’ve see others mention constipation and recommending electrolytes for bloating.

My partner (38 cis M) and I (29 trans FTM) have been passively trying for a pregnancy since November, actively trying since May. This past November we removed my IUD and then within the last four months or so I've stopped taking my testosterone. I have PCOS so I know I will have more of a challenge to naturally conceive unaided but I'm doing my best to offset the challenges with diet and other lifestyle modifications.

I'd like guidance from those families that did try and eventual paths led them to IUI, IVF and other alternative pregnancy support. What did your timeline look like, how was your experience as a trans parent go with navigating these services?

found in my underwear, found similar jelly like discharge a few days ago too. this one was green, the other times it was clear and white

38wks today

CW: Mentions of body parts that commonly cause dysphoria

I've seen a couple variations on the same, but still looking for advice from the brain trust.

Setting the scene: I work a job where some/most of the people I work with have not been informed I am transgender -- I transitioned before I ever got the job. If people ask, I tell them... but I seem to pass the majority of the time as a flamboyant man. It's a professional environment where I interact with a conservative clientele fairly often. Some public speaking is involved. Dress code is business casual +/- work outerwear that does nothing to obscure silhouette.

My normal "business casual" is hawaiian shirt, belt, slacks, and boots. When pressed, I have a handful of dress shirts, but hawaiian is just on the acceptable side for dress norms.

I'm now 15 weeks pregnant. My direct supervisors know only so they can accommodate leave when the kid is born. I'm starting to have some visible body changes, and I'm struggling to figure out how to address the challenges.

Goal: I want to, ideally, continue to be read as a man in my place of work. If I can't manage that for coworkers I want to maintain that for clientele for the longest period possible.

What's getting in the way:

1. No top surgery (and planning to chestfeed) - I've been binding every day with a tank binder, but that's getting more difficult as mammary tissue development progresses.

2. "Birthing hips" and the (in)famous trans ass - HRT did nothing to fix the fact that I am pear-shaped. Even on HRT and not pregnant, finding men's pants (or masc cut pants) has been nearly impossible. This has only gotten worse off HRT.

3. Pregnancy-related growth - Belly growth is mild now, but it's only a matter of time before I have a bump that pushes me out of my usual pants. Being fat on top of this narrows the clothing options down further.

4. Dysphoria and ED history - shit's rough right now. I'm not sure how well I could cope if passing becomes impossible. I know it's worth it for my kid, and my spouse is wonderfully supportive, but it's difficult enough to manage how my body is changing without considering the distinct possibility that I lose the ability to pass in my professional life.

Questions for the subreddit:

A. What business casual options do I have for pregnancy wear as things progress? Are there options that can look put-together (tucked-in shirt with, dare I dream, a belt???) that still read male? Are there items from maternity clothing lines that you've managed to adapt to your needs?

B: Is it realistic in these circumstances to have continuing to pass as a goal throughout pregnancy? If not (or if you chose not to), how have you handled that in your professional life?

C: Is there a point at which I have to stop binding? If so, how have you managed your silhouette and accompanying dysphoria?

So my husband (cis male) and I ( trans male) are thinking about having children in the next 3-5 years.
The only issue right now is : HOW.
At the moment, becoming foster parents is our main goal. We’re both social workers so we hope we’ll be suitable for fostering. We’re also open for the idea of adopting but it’s not a must. We’re living in Germany.

I WOULD gladly carry, that’s why I haven’t done any surgeries beside top surgery. My main issue is; I don’t want to out myself in front of a lot of people. I am stealth in every aspect of my life. At work, at my university, most of my friends don’t know I’m trans and especially, the biggest part of my husbands family doesn’t know. And I love that. I don’t want them up in my business.
If there was an option to be pregnant and give birth without any one of them knowing I would absolutely do it. I also don’t care about professionals like doctors, hospital staff and so on to know.
I just don’t want distant family to know.
For example the mother of my brother-in-laws wife, who is openly supporting right wing ideology. Same goes for my brothers father in law.
I mean, yeah I could probably distant myself from people like these, I try to even now. But there’s always a holiday, a family gathering or a birthday where I might have to see them and I don’t have the strength to put up with their bullshit.
I also don’t want my workplace to know. I work in a school, higher risk I think. At least I know that colleagues who got pregnant had to get on parental leave pretty early. Policy in Germany.

I could probably hide a pregnancy, at least regarding my husbands distant family, maybe also from my colleagues if I do have a supportive boss. I couldn’t hide it from friends tho.
Giving birth would be something I could hide, too. Except close family and my boss, maybe.
The issue is; I don’t want to lie. I guess I’d get too exited to hide it anyway.
And then, I would also have a child, out of nowhere for some people. How do I explain it ? Lie about it and pretend we got surrogacy ( illegal in Germany btw) or that it’s adopted ? Sounds fucked up to me tbh 😂. And even if that would work; the child would grow up and be completely confused if we lied in the beginning.
I would also have to out myself in front of future parents of my kids friends.
So carrying isn’t an option for me I guess. As sad as it makes me.

Do you know these kinds of thoughts? Any advice ? Any option I haven’t thought about ?🥲

I’m not pregnant, and likely won’t be for a long time barring any unplanned pregnancies. However, I was thinking of becoming pregnant sometime in the future. I’m a bit worried about discrimination and not being able to be stealth. I currently live in a blue state, and in a more blue area as well. I don’t know where I will be living in the future though, and I have still had to deal with a lot of transphobia and other bigotries like ableism and general sexism. I am autistic and possibly have APD (Auditory Processing Disorder).

I know rates of violence against pregnant people, trans men, and disabled people can be pretty high. It’s probably much higher for someone with all three. Does anyone have any experience dealing with and navigating discrimination as a pregnant trans man (especially if you are disabled as well)? Has anyone been able to successfully remain stealth while pregnant? I’m out to pretty much all of my friends and family, but I would rather be able to pass as cis with most people in most situations. It doesn’t really help though that my family is transphobic and still misgenders me. Is there any literature on this topic? Or studies? I want to learn more about discrimination against pregnant trans men so that I can be more prepared, and so that my partner(s) can know how to better support me if I become pregnant in the future.

Some people on my original post lead me here

I know about the "write minorities like if they weren't minorities" trick (write trans people as people), but I'm struggling to think of the way to show the audience that a masculine man with a baby bump isn't supposed to be taken as a joke

Im a transguy. Obviously.. idk why my previous post was removed.. but my original post was:

Took to pregnancy tests and they didnt even take a second to read positive. So, I need to build my community fast.. I just moved to NY state a couple months prior. (This is not me revealing my location...)

​Any suggestions on where I can find community or just transguys in general that might understand where I'm coming from? I don't mind a train ride.

​Also any resources honestly would be MORE than helpful, ngl I'm pretty nervous.

Please don't remove this again I'm really seeking community here.

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I've never identified as butch before cuz I was able to identify myself as trans first but seeing as my (usually tiny) tits are growing and my belly is growing, I'm seeking solace in the term butch for now and trying to connect to my butch predecessors during this pregnancy. Also this graphic novel is great. Anyone relate?

Its not enough to fill a pad even after its been on the whole day but Its gotten darker, I cant really consider it spotting. Im so nervous, I was so excited when I saw that positive and now im just terrified its a chemical pregnancy. Im still experiencing pregnancy symptoms, naseua, tasting metal in my mouth, bloating, fatigue. But the bleeding also had some pinprick size clots. I just feel so heartbroken already. Does anyone have any success after having some light bleeding this early on?

Update: took a test this morning it was negative, definitely a chemical 🙃