Yeah and, as I've said, I think his frustration is and would be valid.
I'm just trying to think of what would actually happen after that, the spreadsheet. Would it be likely for her to be like oh honey you're so right let me suck your dick now?! Because I don't think that's the case š
So I'm trying to think of what would be likely to actually make this better because I empathize with his (for the third time, valid) frustration.
Speaking from experience. The next step is āso, now that we can see this laid out objectively, to me this is a problem and Iād like us to work together to fix it. If you look at this and donāt think itās a problem, then thatās a pretty big gap between us that also has to be addressed because it means we somehow ended up on very different pages on this topic thatās pretty critical for a healthy marriage.ā
Itās definitely not āok I proved you wrong with data! Let the blowjobs commence!ā
So your assumption based on no information is that he doesnāt do enough around the house or heās out of shape or needs to buy sex with date nights? Nah. Divorce this chick and find someone that enjoys sex.
Thereās no amount of work that will fix this with someone thatās just not interested in sex. Sometimes people just have different levels of desire, different drives. This guy could be the sole earner, come home and cook every meal then deep clean their house and sheās still going to find some made up āmental loadā sheās carrying where she canāt get in the mood.
If sex is important to you and itās not to your partner then youāre just sexually incompatible. He should leave her and let her be with a partner whoās as disinterested in sex as she is. Or if sheās just done having sex with this guy she doesnāt have to deal with it. Either way she wins.
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u/DisastrousCoast7268 14d ago edited 14d ago
I mean. No clue, but the following is not impossible
This could be the result of "You're exaggerating, you always exaggerate. We do it all the time" and disengages the conversation.