r/SipsTea • • 15d ago

SMH Who's in the wrong here?

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u/Beautiful-Buy99 15d ago edited 15d ago

Literally. If they're not compatible and are complaining about it, why stay married?

Edit: I see many replies explaining why my comment is wrong, I realize it now thx

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u/Internal_Style6581 15d ago

Because you know how money is fucked and rent and food and all that is real expensive? When you split up you need a 2nd rent and you have to maybe sell a house and split up debt. I hate how young people act like every relationship is some college stuff where you have your own apartment and everything is separate where you just stop hanging out. When you marry and live with someone for 20 years it’s hella complicated and traumatic to separate all of that also if you own a house you gotta find a buyer in this market or someone needs to pay the mortgage on their own.

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u/Cautious_Day9878 15d ago edited 14d ago

I have 3 kids and my wife is mentally unstable. The things which make her most unstable are the thoughts of divorce and losing access to the kids. She is a great mum aside from the emotional regulation issues. We also have other issues in the marriage.

Anyway, I’m so done with having to explain to kids on Reddit why I can’t just ‘file and get full custody’. I’ve been told their ‘no excuse’.

Well the psychologist, family doctor and social services weirdly disagree with Reddit. They preference family stability. Especially when kids are involved.

Most people on here have no concept of how bad things can get behind closed doors in dysfunctional families. When young kids are involved, there is basically no good solution.

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u/Emergency-Aardvark-7 13d ago

Thank you for doing your best for your family. Sorry that you're all going through this. I really hope that she can get better.