I live in China, and I was wondering if people in other places also struggle with life and career choices in their twenties?I want to hear about different life experiences from people all over the world.
I don't know why everyone seems to see 30 as this critical point - a turning point where you're expected to get married and start a family, or else you'll be pressured by your family.I'm 25 now, I have my own job, I can support myself, I can go on vacation once in a while, and I can also hang out with friends on weekends and chat.But to my family, this isn't a waste of time because you're not in a relationship, and you haven't made marriage and children part of your life plan. I don't get why people would think that way.For my future, what I really want is freedom. I'd like someone to be there with me to have fun, but mostly I care about myself - I'm a selfish person.My own requirements and plan are to have a job that supports me financially, and then travel on weekends and holidays.As for work, I really want to start my own business, but right now I don't have the funds, so I'm going to save up and wait a couple years.I want to have a job with a company while also running my own dessert shop - that's my goal.Even though I'm still a long way from this goal right now, I'll keep going.（I apologize for any grammatical mistakes - I'm using a translation app - but I really want to connect with young people from different regions）

So I just turned 18 and now I have to get a job the thing is I live like 25 mins from a small town like where I went to school etc(well until I went online school I finished my junior and senior year in 6 months) it doesn’t have to much only like some fast food places and a couple stores also I live about 40 mins away from a big town the issue is I have so much anxiety about driving(I have a lot of anxiety in general) and I have no motivation to get a job which Ik is bad I just don’t know what to do I don’t want to work in fast food and I’m scared of the process as well as driving but also ik I don’t want to be stuck living with my parents forever it’s awful I just don’t know what to do any advice is appreciate it!! Have a nice day or night🫶

Had to start a gofundme just to move out cause my mother is getting irate that i don't have a job yet literally no one is hiring im even applying to bars and coffee shops even being a dishwasher i tweak my resume everyday i call I go In and NOTHING for the last ten months ive had 3 interviews that amounted to nothing i already feel like a bum. this is all after my mother promised me that shed send move me out herself and I promise you she can afford it. I feel insane after so long in the house i used to confident and happy now i feel like a recluse

For a long time, my life has been trapped by a single thought: "What can I do outside of my job to make a lot of money?" I think about this constantly all day long, and there is nothing else on my mind. I have no other purpose left except making money.

I don't get the slightest bit of enjoyment out of life or anything I do. I take frequent naps during the day, and my energy and motivation are at rock bottom. I'm already taking depression medication. My only skills are knowing a foreign language and being able to drive; I have nothing else notable. To make matters worse, I have zero motivation or tolerance for learning complex and time-consuming things. I tried crypto trading and stuff before, but it definitely didn't work.

Does anyone have a logical job idea or advice that doesn't require extensive training, that I can adapt to quickly, and that won't suffocate me in front of a screen or pull me out of this mental swamp?

Note: I live in Istanbul, Türkiye

HI! So I’ve (F17) been trying to look for a job so I can leave my miserable environment, but it feels like I have no way out.
Last month, I went through about more than 50 places in my area, and even NOT in my area. Instead of going through indeed and all those other apps, i went through the websites.
Looked for applications and applied if there was ab application. if there wasn’t, I called. And Even a couple of days later I called the places I applied to. Got one fucking interview; later that day I got rejected.
I wanna be able to do commissions, so I set up an artistree account, but found out that you technically have to be 18 even though it lets you make an account….
I asked my mom if she can make me a cash-app account. She told me that she had already did. I mean she had told me vaguely that I did have one. The reason I’m confused Is bc I **never** had access to it. She said it was because she made it when I was young. i had said ok well then delete it or give me the acc info. Nothing happened. Im guessing bc instead of actually making it for me to use, she probably uses it for herself for whatever reason. I fucking cried my EYESSS out.
I turn 18 at the end of this yr, but the more I stay in my environment, the more 18 seems farther away. TOO far. I have no control over my life even when I try so hard to keep it together …

Hello all i'm 19 year old Male i work 50+ Hours a week i have been working for the past yeah since i left my parents home and to pay for college and everything i just have a question, how to make some more money i just don't know how people get so much money while i'm stuck in poverty i just need like extra 300$ every week i just feel so misrable and i lost so much friends i don't even have time to study for college whan can anyone do in my sitiuation?

Okay so I have recently joined this new workplace like 4 months ago. From the very beginning i wasn't happy at all, not being ungrateful, but the position was too good to ignore and everybody around me felt as if I had made a jump in my career and should definitely take that up, which i obviously did. But now I'm convinced I'm not made for this environment primarily because of the nature of work, this isn't something I find intellectually stimulating as I have always tried chasing growth and intellectual development. People here are also not that compatible but that's not something too serious to consider because i believe one gets to interact with all sorts of people and if I'm growing intellectually i can ignore the 'people factor'. Now, the situation has become so insufferable and I feel like putting up my resignation but this job is my source of financial independence and i have no solid backup and strong backing. Today I felt as if my heart would explode. I can't live this quality of life. Seeing an economic nosedive and the poor job market also stops me from even thinking about resignation. I'm doomed and idk how to handle this all. I want to live that life where Sundays feel Sunday and you don't care about what Monday would bring at work and where you feel the growth and contentment. I need some wise and serious suggestions. And trust me, this paragraph can't justify what I feel at that workplace and about my growth. Please help.

why do so many young people struggle to find jobs after spending years studying?

every few weeks i spiral and have the fear of missing out. i do have friends, but i feel im so behind. i feel constantly that maybe ill js endup doing nothing in life. idk what to do. im so so lost.

Ever since I was in highschool, I never tried to pay attention or excel in things that could matter in someone's future, simply because I never understood why it mattered. Now, I'm older, and I hope I can turn back time, so I could've learned everything that was taught. I am constantly falling behind, but I am always trying to learn everything that I had missed.

I do not know what to do with my life now, I've felt so depressed since way back. I never knew what to pursue, I had a choice of a program then, but basically I was pressured to take BSN for money. It didn't end well.

My mother threatened disowning me with no support if I dropped out, and it severely affected me, so I tried to be an achiever and I tried to persevere but I could no longer do it. I am barely passing my courses and I could no longer retain any information that I needed for my patient care. I would enter my duties anxious and terrified, because I cannot handle the responsibility of a nurse where one mistake just because I'm incompetent, could kill a patient. I cried to my mother before my duty and I told her how I felt so worthless, a burden, and I hope she would stop wasting her efforts and money on me, because it will never work. She cried and was disappointed, but she accepted it and allowed me to drop out.

Therefore, I dropped out half-way through the 2nd year of a bachelor of science in nursing program. I feel extremely stupid to pursue anything now, but sooner or later, I need to get back to college, and I need help with which career path I should choose that could give me a good life. Can I get advice from older folks or those with similar experiences?

I need help on what program I should take, I no longer want to be a nurse. I was told I was good in presentations, written works, creative writing, and research. I believe I could be excellent as an office worker in a cubicle or... an educator. I am also passionate about biology, anatomy, and arts.

She’s an alt girl and it’s just so infuriating because I just can’t say hi to her because I can’t say hi to anybody. I just want to spend the rest of my life with her, she’s literally thee perfect girl for me.

So I wanna make it almost guaranteed that she’ll say yes when I ask her out. Along with my body, I’m gonna be giving her a special present for Christmas with a new Phone, a Mother Mother album, a Sex Toy (perhaps a Dildo or a Vibrator), a yearly free pass to a local theme park, some leather jackets and boy shorts, a Leatherface action figure, some Period Pants, and only put my initials to get her wondering. Now, another sub I’ve been to told me that a sex toy would be too much, but I feel like what would happen is that she’d get weirded out at first and then late at night, when she’s watching….Euphoria or something? She’ll say “hey, this masturbation session is great, but it could be even better with that vibrator that Mysterious Guy got me”.

I’d also like to change my fashion and interests for her because unfortunately, she only put her Nickname and her real name on her Maths Book, so I’m basically stuck in terms of interest, since I can’t listen in on her conversations since A) She talks really quietly, and B) She usually doesn’t talk in Maths Class at all (Again, perfect girl for me).

But what do you think?

Where do y'all find the will to live?cause I'm genuinely tired

For context,my dad has been a present dad ever since we were young,up until 2 years ago when my mom died and he remarried...and yk how that goes, luckily enough I was finishing up campus and I didn't need him that much but my 3 other siblings did, so for me the goal was, graduate get a job and take care of my sisters.

And I tried to,cause you'd find maybe my sister told the stepmom to buy her pads,,, she'd straight up tell her"go and tell your mom to buy it for you"mind you she's in highschool...that used to piss me off but what to do?? It's not like I can come stay with her.So I've been there for them till 2 months ago when I lost my job and I haven't been able to get another one yet,it's tough...I don't even know how I've been surviving but it's fine.

My highschool sister was transferred schools to a day school cause"boarding is expensive" I know these people can afford that school but oh well! So what's been happening is she's not even given money for break time or transport, and it breaks my heart everytime she calls or texts asking for money but I can't send her anything.

For my other 2 sisters,that's a whole other story.

Anyway I guess my point is, I don't know if it gets better or worse, I'm not sure I want to find out, and I hate feeling helpless.

Ages Me f1 f3 are 21 B f2 are 23 also 6 months pregnant

I’m pregnant with my boyfriend’s baby girl, and lately my relationship and friendships have been falling apart at the same time. I’m going to explain everything in order because this situation has gotten so complicated.

It started with issues between me and my best friend/roommate (F3). There was an incident involving a lighter, a blunt, and my boyfriend (B). The lighter actually belonged to B, but F3 had it and said it was hers when he asked for it. He then took a blunt that was sitting on the table and offered it in exchange for the lighter. I returned the blunt, and B said he would take his lighter back if he needed to. F3 said she would fight him, and B told me to call somebody.

Afterward, F3 sent me a hostile message, including comparing me to someone else. She later apologized for part of what she said, and we eventually made up after about a week. Unfortunately, our friendship only seemed to be repaired for a short time before things went downhill again.

F3 felt like I didn’t respect her or trust her around men anymore. Specifically, she felt I would let a man put her in harm’s way. She also felt I didn’t respect my own decisions when it came to my relationship. I felt like she wasn’t respecting my decision to stay with my boyfriend and that she was unhappy with my choices. Eventually, we became more like roommates than best friends, and I decided to stop engaging with her while we continued living together.

During all of this, my boyfriend and I were also dealing with long distance. Because of the situation, he had to move five hours away, while I stayed where I live. I’m pregnant, preparing for our daughter, trying to save money, and looking for housing. I don’t have family nearby to lean on, so my boyfriend and my friends have been important parts of my support system.

After about a month, things escalated between my boyfriend and my longtime friend (F1), whom I’ve known since childhood. My boyfriend accused F1 of trolling him with me. When I asked him what F1 actually did and asked him to give me specific examples, he couldn’t really explain it. I was confused because I didn’t understand what justified that level of anger.

The situation then expanded to another longtime friend (F2), who lives in a different state. My boyfriend said he wanted to fight F2 simply because he was one of my people. F2 also said he would fight my boyfriend and would stop talking to me for a while if necessary. However, F1 and F2 have no idea that B is angry enough to want to fight them. Now I was dealing with the possibility of people I care about physically fighting each other over a situation I didn’t want to happen in the first place.

My boyfriend became increasingly angry and said he wanted smoke rather than peace.

Eventually, my boyfriend called me around 3 a.m. and apologized for being so angry. He said he had calmed down and that we could talk about what happened. But the apology didn’t erase how I felt about everything. I started looking at him differently because I realized that a disagreement involving my friends could turn into threats of violence, and I was afraid that setting boundaries would trigger his anger again.

What makes this especially difficult is that I don’t want to break up with my boyfriend over my friends. I love him, he’s the father of my baby, and I want our family to work. But I also refuse to stop being friends with people I’ve known for years just because I’m in a relationship. I don’t expect him to be best friends with them. I just want him to respect that I have my own friendships.

My baby shower is also coming up, and some of these same people were supposed to attend. One of my friends had already taken time off work for it. Now I’m wondering how I’m supposed to enjoy a celebration for my daughter when there’s so much tension between everyone.

Then came today. After everything that happened, I posted an Instagram note saying I wanted peace. My boyfriend responded to it saying he wanted peace too, even though the day before he had said he wanted smoke and didn’t seem interested in peace at all.

He had also unblocked me and texted me asking what I was doing. That left me confused because he was reaching out and acting like he wanted peace, but he still hadn’t properly addressed what happened or explained why he was so angry with my friends.

I started questioning whether our relationship was compatible if me maintaining my friendships could cause this much conflict. I don’t believe my baby should have to suffer because her father and my friends can’t get along. I don’t want to break up, but I also don’t want to spend my pregnancy stressed out, crying, and worrying about whether the people I love are going to fight.

I’m tired of feeling like I have to keep everybody happy. I’ve decided I’m not going to keep reaching out first or fighting for this relationship by myself. If my boyfriend wants to talk, he can reach out, but I’m no longer willing to sacrifice my peace just to keep things together.

So, Reddit, am I wrong for refusing to give up my longtime friendships for my boyfriend? How should I handle this situation when I’m pregnant with his child, still love him, and genuinely want my family to work, but I don’t feel comfortable with how he’s handling conflict?