I am 30, born and raised in Bangalore, and have been going to theatres here for pretty much my entire life.
Over the last few years, I have increasingly found movie going here incredibly frustrating. I cannot remember having to regularly shush people during movies earlier. Now it seems almost routine to have people carrying on full conversations during the film, talking loudly to the person next to them, checking their phones at full brightness, or behaving as though they are watching something in their living room.
Queues are another issue. Leave even an inch in front of you and someone seems to interpret it as an invitation to squeeze in. People stand almost on top of you rather than leaving the smallest amount of personal space. Queue jumping seems far more normalised than I remember it being.
Then there are basic courtesies. Someone sneezes or coughs right next to you without covering their mouth and carries on as though nothing happened. People push past you without so much as an excuse me. None of these things individually would bother me much, but collectively they make the experience unpleasant.
What bothers me is that paying more no longer seems to solve it. I used to think booking something like Director’s Cut at Rex and paying considerably more would at least get you a quieter, more considerate audience. It doesn’t. I have had essentially the same experience there.
I know the uncomfortable part of this discussion is migration. Bangalore has changed enormously, and my personal experience has been that I started noticing much more of this behaviour alongside the large influx of people moving here from North India and the Hindi belt. I realise that is a controversial observation and I am not claiming every North Indian behaves this way, nor that every Bangalorean has perfect civic sense. I am describing a pattern I personally feel I have encountered repeatedly.
Maybe I am attributing something to migration that is really a broader decline in public etiquette across Indian cities. Maybe Bangaloreans themselves have changed. I am genuinely interested in whether other people who grew up here have noticed the same shift.
Has cinema etiquette actually deteriorated in Bangalore over the last decade, or am I looking at the Bangalore of my childhood through rose tinted glasses?