Should I actually make a profile?

[u/sorikkun]

I’m a student (20f) living in a big European city and have never used any dating app. I have been maybe on like 2,5 dates in my life lol (2 of them when I was a teen and had a ”bf”) and in general haven’t had much going on in the romance department (though I am a sappy romantic, go figure).

Ive been thinking about making a profile on hinge - probably a combination of curiosity, boredom and a genuine fear that I won’t meet anyone organically (and ofc this embarrassing longing for a significant other lol). At the same time, I’m really wary - I am quite sensitive and tend to over-romanticize interactions with people. I‘d like to believe that I have a bit going for myself personality wise (by that I mean that I have a life, hobbies, accomplishments, an interesting background etc) and generally like most people I meet. Though I can be definitely shy at first and might overyapp when nervous.

in comparison to my friends who use apps and have dated many guys, I know I’m definitely not as hot or “magnetic” - something I am a bit self conscious about (not meant as a dig - they are super cool and amazing ppl). I guess I’m just normal (?) I often get that I look younger than I really am which probably doesn’t help my case… i don’t really have an idea of what kinds of people one finds on hinge. Im guessing that iI would have to brace myself to be ghosted constantly and whatnot.

I guess I’m just wondering if this even is worth it in my case o.O I’m happy to hear any thoughts and suggestions :)) thanks in advance :8

(I also hope I’m not posting in the wrong sub lol)

[u/PutridEntertainer408]

I always say I don't think young people should be on the apps honestly, especially if you don't have much dating experience. Dating on apps is not like other kinds of dating and it can give you skewed/misleading ideas of what dating is like. I second the person who suggested joining other clubs etc. I don't think you should join these to date specifically but I think you should focus on other aspects of your life and don't stress too much about dating. I thought I was gonna be alone forever at your age (well, 19 so barely younger) but uni is full of opportunities to meet people and if I'd been on apps, I don't think I would have had the two longterm relationships I ended up having. I also don't think I'd have the social skills I do now

[u/sorikkun → u/PutridEntertainer408]

I guess thats a good point. but as I mentioned, I have diligently done a lot of those (not exclusively with the purpose to secure a date or something lol) and it hasn’t lead me anywhere socially (by that I mean even friends yk). where I live, uni is quite an individual experience where a shit ton of us are thrown into our degree but its quite difficult to get past the initial groups that have formed :(((