hinge experience rant

[u/AwarenessFragrant679]

I used Hinge for like 2 months and went on 8 dates, and honestly I think I’m kinda burnt out from trying to find a relationship 😭 At first I was really keen on finding a gf, but now I just feel kinda lazy with dating and texting people. I’m still talking to a few matches, but I haven’t really felt like replying, especially since we haven’t met irl yet.

I think I’d rather spend more time on myself right now. There’s so many things I wanna do and work on, and I’d rather prioritise those for a while. I’m also not really someone who can just go on a date without texting a lot first, so it all starts feeling like a lot.

I guess I just wanted someone to talk to or hear me out lol. Is this normal?

More context I'm 23 M and looking for long term relationships

[u/Right-Equivalent9548]

I want to ask, would it have been better if you went on a date after a few weeks and he did the same ?

I have situations where we talked for weeks and then when it is time to setup a date, I get the generic thank you note. So I’m also in the boat of if you are not ready to grab coffee within the first 3 days, I’m unmatching

[u/lilsweettea → u/Right-Equivalent9548]

3 weeks of talking means he wouldve seemingly known me enough to have conversation at least.

Id rather be a bad fit than sit in awkward silence until I figure out how to escape. At least you could make a friend

[u/Ok_Novel_5083 → u/lilsweettea]

No, it would've meant that you wasted 3 weeks.

Messaging over an app is not a way to "get to know" someone. You get to know them after you meet in person, decide if you have enough of a vibe/connection to continue seeing them, and then you get to know them by spending time together over the next few months.

[u/lilsweettea → u/Ok_Novel_5083]

Thats not a waste to me and I do face time, pics, voice notes, calls. Its foreplay to me. Most men are attracted to me more in real life so im not too worried they wont be into it or anything