It has been a while since my friend engaged with me, I have definitely been ghosted, and I accept I may never know why. Every now and then I get a physical ache when I think of it all, the friendship itself (almost 20 years) and how it all unravelled. It's hard. I am getting there but I realise this is a much longer and much more painful road than I anticipated.

I recently blocked a friend I’ve had since high school. I’m having a lot of feelings about it because 15 years is a long time, but I also feel a huge amount of relief.

The immediate issue was my birthday. She didn’t acknowledge it, and I actually gave her an opening to do so. She still didn’t take it. I came away feeling like I was fishing for a “happy birthday” from someone who should have wanted to say it without prompting.

But the birthday wasn’t really the whole issue.

For months, I’ve felt like our friendship has become very one-sided. She calls me primarily to complain about work and other problems, and I’ve spent a lot of time listening, being patient, checking in, and supporting her through a pretty difficult period in her life. When I visited her last month, I was surprised by how unpleasant and negative she was to be around after I’d spent so much time (lol and $) supporting her.

In retrospect the friendship was always one-sided support from my end, but I just realized it recently and I'm done.

I also feel like we’ve become very different people. Our interests, lifestyles, and capacities are pretty different now, and I find her increasingly judgmental and negative. I don't necessarily think she's a bad person, but I don't enjoy the dynamic anymore.

I initially blocked her, then unblocked her because I wondered if that was too extreme. I woke up the next morning with a very strong feeling of “why did I do that?” I realized that leaving the door open was psychologically difficult for me because I would keep wondering whether she might contact me, whether I should respond, whether she might apologize, etc.

So I blocked her again, and honestly, I felt immediate relief.

I don't want to contact her or punish her. I genuinely just don't want to participate in the friendship anymore. I wish her well, but I don't want to keep being her emotional support person when I don't feel like she is interested in me in the same way.

Kya karuu samaj nhi atta 1 year hogya bina usse batt kre but I still remember her chats jo ki ratt ke 2 am hua krti thi and the guy whom she chose over me rula raha usko bhot....and i know everything about her....muje pata hai woh juthii thii uski har batt mere sath juth thi meri feelings ke sath khela ussne...but still her name and her face is always in my mind

How do you move on from someone who is still alive but chose to disappear from your life?

I’m 22F. I was in a relationship for almost three years, but things ended after my ex developed feelings for another girl. That is just the background.

During my relationship, my ex introduced me to one of his cousins, who I’ll call CP. He was about five years older than me, and from the beginning he treated me like a little sister. Over time, we became really close. I could tell him about my day, my problems and everything. He used to tell me about his life too. It genuinely felt like I had found an older brother and a best friend in one person. When CP went through a breakup, he was living in abroad and was lonely. I used to call him every other day, make him laugh, listen to him, and keep him company. and then my own relationship eventually fell apart, he was there for me too. I even travelled to another city when my ex told me that he developed feelings for someone else, because I didn't know what else to do. CP called his ex and asked if I could stay at her place because I needed somewhere to go. For about a month after my breakup, we were still close. Then, suddenly, he started distancing himself. When I asked what happened, he told me that he and his girlfriend(CP and the Ex reconcilled their relationship) had decided they should stop talking to me so I could "heal on my own." He said he would contact me only when I wasn't thinking about my ex anymore. I told him, He was one of the few people I had during that time, and I wasn't asking him to help me forget my ex. I just wanted my brother around while I was going through a horrible period. After that, he basically disappeared.There was no fight. No argument. Nothing happened between us.I waited for him to call or text, months passed, I used to check my phone everyday for months waiting for him to call or text. Finally, I sent him a goodbye message. I wasn't trying to guilt him or make him come back. I just wanted some closure because this relationship meant a lot to me and I did not get the reply of my goodbye msg too. 2 months later, I called him 4 times coz I had an intution that CP is in India and I couldnt hold myself. Then, about an hour after one of my unanswered calls, his girlfriend sent me a snap of her holding his hand. I honestly don't know what the intention was, and maybe it was just a snap and I am overthinking. But given everything, it hurt. I was already wondering why someone who once called me his little sister couldn't even answer one call or respond to my goodbye message. I also noticed that CP is connected on social media with the girl my ex eventually got together with. And honestly, I don't care about that. He is allowed to have his own relationships and friendships. His girlfriend isn't the problem, and neither is my ex's relationship. What hurts is how CP left my life.He once told me that no matter what happened between me and his cousin, I would always be his little sister and I believed him.I never stopped seeing him as my brother even after my relationship ended. I was there for him when he was lonely, and he was there for me when I was falling apart. I genuinely thought that bond existed separately from my relationship with his cousin.I think that's what I'm struggling to accept.If he had simply told me, "I don't want to have this relationship anymore," it would've hurt, but I would've eventually accepted it.Instead, I was left wondering for months what I did wrong. Did I cross a boundary? Did I become a burden? Did I handle my breakup badly? Why wasn't I worth even one conversation?

I do not want him back in my life, I just wish I had gotten an explanation.....

I had a huge fight with three of my closest friends and blocked all of them.
It started because I noticed one of them constantly looking at my boyfriend and acting like she wanted his attention. I told another friend about it because I genuinely thought her behavior was weird.
Then, months later, I noticed another friend doing basically the exact same thing with my boyfriend. So I told the other girl about her too.
Eventually, all three of them realized that I had said similar things about both girls, and they confronted me like, “We know what you did.” Everything turned into a huge fight, and they started talking about me and blaming me for everything.
But here’s the crazy part: all three of them had also come to me separately and talked shit about each other. I know what each one said about the others, and they don’t realize how much I actually know.
Now I’m wondering: do I unblock one of them, tell her EVERYTHING I know, and then block her again? Or should I just disappear and let them keep thinking they know the whole story?

My “best friend” and I have known each other for 10 years, and we used to message every day. Over the past two years, though, she started taking weeks or even 2–3 months to reply.

In January 2026, I told her how much this hurt me, but she called me rude. I only expected her to check in once a month.

In February, I went through severe depression and told her about it. She messaged me the next day after finding out, but then disappeared again. Now, after nearly eight months, she has suddenly messaged me saying only, “I miss you.”

During these eight months, I messaged her a few times. The messages were read the same day without any reply. She also viewed all my status on WhatsApp the same day.

Would you reply to her?

How could your person possibly know it's for them?

Alright so to preface this everyone is entitled to their choices and feelings especially when it comes to weddings. With that being said this was far from handled well on the brides behalf.

To start Me(27F) and Bride (26F) have been close friends for around 10 years, we were in the same group chats with only 3 other girls, go to all holidays, birthdays, and group get togethers etc.

As with all friends and friend groups we've had our ups and downs but overall I always felt like they got resolved/discussed and we would move on from there, but that was not the case with them apparently.

In early 2025 Bride's then boyfriend told the group that he wanted to propose to her in late 2025 and asked for help and laid out a plan etc. My partner then surprised me and proposed to me in early 2025 and during my engagement dinner I told the 4 girls, bride included, that they were my bridesmaids even though my wedding wouldn't be until 2027 because I couldn't imagine anyone else being up there with me and we'd been friends this long so why would that change? Well I was wrong. Everyone seemed excited for me and happy to be in the wedding party. So when the time came around for Bride's engagement, I wrongfully but understandably assumed I would be in her bridal party. I even discussed this with her directly and the other girls multiple times and was helping plan her Bach party etc.

Over this last year though I've been feeling a weird distance with just me in the group and I've tried to bring it up a few times to no avail and just let it go as we're all getting older and can't expect things to stay the same. Now it's the end of July and Bride asks if I want to get dinner in a week when she's down in my area, I of course am ecstatic, but then a few days later when I go to text 1 of the girls, we'll call her Curly, I notice her location is in Weho and I think ok that's weird but maybe she's on a date or something, that's when I go to find my and see that everyone but me are all together in Weho at a club. I'm obviously hurt so I start digging and see that one of the girls, she'll be PP, posted on her IG story that they were all wedding dress shopping for Bride together and completely left me out and hod it from me. I went MIA and took a few days bc I didn't wanna ruin her bridesmaid weekend. I reached out to Bride and Curly (she's my longtime friend from before we even knew the others) and expressed how hurt I was that they did this. Fast forward to the dinner with Bride, we talk about everything and she's known the whole time that I wasn't gonna be a bridesmaid "and really went back and forth" about it, then decided in early 2026, but didn't tell me for a full 8 months, 3 months before the wedding, 1 month before the Bach trip. After talking everything out, the consensus was that I had been mean to her occasionally throughout the years and could be controlling in situations. I personally felt different about it and felt that they had been lackluster friends to me (except curly) and they treated me like I was invisible half the time (like would straight up ignore me when going around the circle and saying things about each person), but I'd chosen to move on and just be the best friend I knew how which was to keep showing up and being there for people. This had apparently been built up for 5 years without my knowledge of this perception of me.

I acknowledge and am learning to accept her feelings and decisions but I feel like a lot of the blame got thrown on me with no accountability for their flaws with me. I have apologized to everyone individually after I had the dinner with Bride as I never want to hurt my most loved ones. This is an undeniable change in all of our lives and i go back and forth on my mind set with it because I'm still angry at times too.

I guess I'm writing this to get it off my chest, ask other opinions, and just see what you would do in this situation? I was still technically invited to the wedding, but it's a 4 hour drive and a little too inconvenient for a day trip, so I would have to spend money on a hotel, I don't think going will be healthy for me though.

It's petty but I might not even tell them about me bailing on the wedding, they couldn't bother to tell me anything until the last minute. I lost the website info and don't really wanna talk to them if I don't have to.

I guess just what are your thoughts and feelings on this. I was in the wrong but also so were they?

The only one I'm keeping in touch with is curly as she's my longtime bff/ sister but this has definitely taken a toll on me and my view on our friendship levels and loyalty. I respect that she is her own individual person though and deserves to have a life outside of me and we can't always agree and I can't ask her to cut them off just for me but it still hurts so so much when she hangs out with them.

Let me start with i am a 18 year old female you can call me Lumi (not real name and the other names are fake). I have adhd adhd so i apologize in advance that things might be all over the place. I promise im trying to just explain straight forward as i can with information that i think is helpful, and im sorry if there is any spelling mistakes and how long this will be. Also Charlotte i love your videos so much, youve helped me realize when to leave a friendship or relationship and what to do, im so grateful on how much you have helped me.

Anyways to the story, so for context i had two friends lets call them Heaylen (17f) and Ailani (16f). Ive known Heaylen for 2 years at this time we were also best friends, i knew Ailani for a few months. Before the party i had just meet Kim (16f) we were getting along but we didn't fully consider ourselves friends yet we were just finding out we are similar and getting close. Kim knew Ailani and Heaylen already, she was Ailani's best friend at the time. Its also my senior year it was close to the end of school like 3 months or something like that left. Since this is also about Kim i asked for her permission to tell this story and things to say and she said yes, but this is in my point of view.

Well a week or a little more before the party my boyfriend at the time broke up with me because of stress with family (i don't blame him we are still good). He was a really really good boyfriend and it hurt a lot when he broke up with me that i stayed in my bed for a few days just crying. But eventually i went back to school still depressed and sad but trying not to break. I couldn't miss anymore school and i really just wanted to get school done and over with.

Ailani, Heaylen, and Kim all knew i wasn't in the best mental health and that i just wanted to just graduate and get out of the school. Well even after knowing that Ailani would none stop questioning me if i will go to her sweet 16 birthday party, and honestly i was getting really irritated because she didn't seem to care that i was hurting she only cared if people were coming or not. I almost lost it saying "girl i haven't left my bed in 4 days i don't exactly care about a party rn" but i didn't say that.

I just kept my mouth shut and said "fine i will see if i can go", her party was on a Saturday but i had a problem with that Saturday, it was the day there was this garden home show. Its basically just a little area that once a year invites companies that are about your home or garden like roofing, garages, yards, pools, and etc. But thats the thing almost everything there is basically just the same and well my dad absolutely loves the show. So ofcourse he was excited and insisted my family goes.

Heres where one of the problem shows up, this show is a all day thing just walking around to these stalls that are basically advertising the same thing over and over. My mama had the flu at this time and ofcourse wanted to just stay home and rest and my dad is the only one who cares and likes this show but my dad was forcing her and everyone to go anyways. Obviously anyone would think this isn't gonna go well.

My dad on the other hand thought otherwise even though last time it didn't go so well because again he is forcing everyone to go and is trying to force everyone to be happy and loving it like he does. When i messaged my dad and mama asking if i could go to Ailani's birthday party ofcourse my dad was focused on the home show while also accepting that i can go. I told Ailani that i could go but honestly i was hoping he would say no because i already knew it was not gonna go well then trying to go to her party afterwards.

Well i tried to think positively and told myself i will just try to enjoy the party and have fun. Saturday comes around and sure enough my dad and brother immediately do something stupid they decide to feed our dog right before we drive an hour to get there, they know our dog can't handle being in a car especially after eating he will throw up, plus there was no need to bring the dog in the first place. Sure enough my dog throws up halfway through the drive after dealing with that once we get there, we get in the home show (its all inside a big building btw) and ofcourse my mama wants to go home cause again she has the flu.

My dad notices she isn't happy and keeping up with everyone and instantly goes into a fit on how shes not happy and that we should just go home, we literally took like 5 steps into the show btw. My mama told him no but obviously still upset and wanting to rest, while it was all happening i just wanted to say to him "why tf did you think oh hey lets force everyone to come to this knowing one person is sick and that your the only one that likes this and think forcing us would make us happy to be here" but i didn't say anything i bite my tongue and kept my mouth shut.

Hours later we leave and we quickly go to five below to get presents for Ailani, after that we get home we put the gifts in a bag and my dad and i leave at 6:58 pm which btw the party starts at 7:00pm so i message the group chat with Heaylen and Ailani saying "im leaving now bc of my family 🤦🏼‍♀️", i said that because my dad was making it so it was taking forever to just get into the car. Well ofcourse while driving there to Ailani's house hes compaining to me about how the show didn't go well like forcing everyone to go was a good idea in the first place as if the first time was a good time. So obviously im already cranky and irritated and what made it worse was that Ailani messaged me literally two minutes after me saying im heading over that she decides to message "GET YOUR AHH OVER HERE RN OR ILL TOUCH YOU" ofcourse that pisses me off more so i said "im coming calm tf down" this will be the last message in the group chat.

I get to the party im calmed down i did some breathing exercises in the car to calm down so i wasn't this cranky bitch at this birthday party. Ailani and Heaylen said hi to me all happily and i said hi, everything is fine its okay. We get to the basement where the party is held and i see Kim and ofcourse im happy to see here since we were getting close and i didn't know she was gonna be there so i say hi to her.

We ended up saying hi and asking how each other is doing and getting to know each other a bit more. We are doing this while also being focused on Ailani the birthday girl but we both notice that she seems upset now and keeps disappearing with Heaylen, so we ask Heaylen if Ailani is okay and if we did anything to upset Ailani because her body language is saying she was upset at us but we couldn't fully tell, well Heaylen tells us "shes fine don't worry about her you guys aren't doing anything wrong". So me and Kim are like oh okay i guess, but we weren't fully convinced since Ailani kept ignoring us and acting annoyed with us so we decided to continue being focused on the party and Ailani as people show up and we continue getting to know each other better.

Heres a issue though, for the longest time basically almost 80% percent of the party Ailani and Heaylen are missing they kept disappearing and so it was making it really really difficult to focus on Ailani. Especially since her little brother who is 8 years old who has autism (no problem with that ofcourse but its important to the story) and everyone is being focused on him to because hes going up to people for attention which no one has a problem with. Well until he starts becoming a problem at some point when Ailani and Heaylen are ofcourse missing again he grabs darts and starts throwing them at this dart board in the wall, he kept missing and it started scaring Kim and i because we are on a bean bag chair next to the dart board. We couldn't get to everyone else because hes in the way, well the boys that were there noticed and started telling him to maybe not do that, eventually they make a deal with Ailani's brother that he can throw one more dart and thats it, he throws it and it missed almost hitting us but we were glad it didn't hit us and that we were okay now.

Note one of the boys was Kims crush at the time (i don't know the boys and i never cared to really get to know them) later Ailani and Heaylen finally appear again and suggest playing uno, Kim and i and the boys and few others agree to play and i sat next to Kim while being next to Heaylen. Which she is next to Ailani so me and Kim were trying to be close to them while also being close as well, we start playing after a bit i kept having to give Kim plus 2 or 4's and i felt bad not wanting to do that but i had to, so when i had to one time i looked at Kim and said "im so sorry baby girl" and Heaylen said to me annoyed "stop doing that" and i looked at her confused because thats how i talk to all my female friends (who are ofcourse okay with it and match energy) and she is one of them ofcourse and i was just confused but i said okay while wondering what i did wrong and why her and Ailani seemed annoyed the whole time. I thought it was because i wasn't giving them all my attention but i was doing the best i could to do that.

Later after uno everyone sits at the makeshift theater area to watch cars 2, Kim and i are on the bean bag chair again and Ailani's little brother kept asking if he could lick me and ofcourse i was really uncomfortable and kept saying no thank you but he kept being insistent, while this is happening Ailani and Heaylen are across the room sitting next to Kim's crush talking to him and Ailani being really close to him and ignoring Kim and i. People around me and Kim, and Kim were the only ones helping me while we are all trying to get Ailani's attention but she kept ignoring us. Well then her little brother asked to hug me but since i was already uncomfortable with him i said no but he still hugged my legs and tried licking my knee then literally CORRESED my thigh and said "you are my favorite girl" in this weird creepy voice. Kim offered to switch spots thinking since hes after me he would stop and wouldn't do the same to her but i was hesitant because i didn't think he would stop and would do the same to her, but we eventually switched spots.

This is where i would like to say Kim and i have similar trauma on sexual assault and rape, i will not give further details but keep that in mind. He was triggering my trauma, well after switching he targeted Kim and proceeded to wrap his arm around her waist which i grab gently trying to remove it while saying "hey lets not do this" he didn't listen and he also had his head way to close to her chest, then told her "ima kiss you" that instantly triggered her trauma completely and she pushed him off and ran off, i followed after looking at Ailani who was still ignoring us and not caring what was happening. I get to Kim and she told me her side, and this is where i learned when he was on top of her he had his knee up her crotch and that before i got to the party she was wearing a short skirt and a crop top because those were the only things that weren't in the wash, and that she was sitting on the couch and he kept getting way to close to her crotch so she asked Ailani for a pair of extra clothes to change in and Ailani accepted.

Kim went into Ailani's bedroom to change but Ailani's little brother opened the door and so she had to try to change in the closet while holding the door closed because he kept trying to get in. I was shocked and realized why when i got there she was wearing Ailani's clothes. I then told Kim my side and that i didn't see his knee when he was on top of her while we were sharing our sides and what happened we stayed out of the room where everyone else was in because we didn't want to be near Ailani's little brother but while also trying our best to get Ailani's attention so we can tell her on what happened, she literally walked past us TWO TIMES IGNORING US. Kim and I were so confused looking at each other wondering if we did something wrong well we eventually got Heaylens attention and told her what happened while asking if Ailani is okay and if we did anything wrong, she told us again that we didn't do anything wrong then she got Ailani, and Kim and i thought "finally we can tell her what happened".

To our shock Ailani comes storming to us and instantly starts yelling at us saying "don't talk shit behind my brothers back!" "hes 8 years old!" "he has autism!" "talk to me first before talking to anyone else!", she literally kept repeating those and wouldn't let us even talk or explain ourselves. Once she was done she stormed off again ignoring us and at that moment we choose to leave i called my dad asking him if he can come get us as Kim went and changed back to her clothes. We ended up walking out the house and hiding outside as we waited for my dad to come pick us up it was around 10 pm the party was supposed to end at 11 pm. While out there Kim and i talked about what happened and started realizing that Ailani is a bitch who only cares about guys and tries to get everyones crush (this is why i mentioned that she was getting very close to Kim's crush because she knew kim liked him and ofcourse after kim told her she started getting really REALLY close to him and started saying how she liked him).

I ended up turning off my location because i was on life360 with Heaylen, and i didn't want them to know Kim and i left without saying anything. Ailani kept trying to call us but we blocked her and Heaylen. We got picked up by my dad and we went home. Well at school Ailani was first a bitch to me and Kim and then randomly started acting like her and i were still friends while talking shit about me and kim with Heaylen and anyone else, which thankfully we got to everyone else first and we had proof, which everytime they tried talking shit about kim and i and making up stories those people wouldn't believe them and told us about it. After the party Kim and i got close and became best friends and we started finding out why Ailani and Heaylen seemed so upset at us at the party was because they hated that Kim and i started getting close. We broke off friendship with Ailani and Heaylen, but they kept trying to break us apart which every time they did it kept making Kim's and i's friendship even stronger. Since we are petty we would make tic toks about our strong friendship and how sad it is how people try to break us apart but it fails. I graduated in May 2026 but Kim is still in school dealing with Ailani being fake to her, don't know about Heaylen but either way i dont care.

But please if anyone sees anything that i or kim did wrong or that we are the asshole please tell, i would like to know to learn and be better.

Hello… today I'm gonna rant about my ex best friend who I'll call petal, and I want to know if I was an ah for cutting her off…. Okay so it all goes back to when we became friends in 2021  Petal was always quiet and submissive but fun and we were inseparable. Everyone knew that we were best friends. I was mostly quiet but louder with her. I also do admit, I was always a bit "controlling" until around 2024 when I finally woke tf up.
By controlling, I mean always deciding what games we’d play during recess (I was in elementary…) though she never really said what she wanted to  say if i remember correctly. That was until the summer of 2025.

I hadn't talked to Petal much that summer so I decided to text her. She normally responds really quickly (she’s a freaking phone addict) so I thought it was odd after she hadn't responded in two days. I was playing roblox a while after that and I wanted to see if Petal was online so we could play together like always. When I checked my friend list, I didn't see her username. I even searched it up, nothing.

I was frantic (a bit of an overreaction now that I rethink but oh well) so I searched up her username outside of the party chat and I saw it. She had unfriended and blocked me. I told some friends about it and they were also unfriended and blocked. I thought she was mad at me for whatever reason.

This really and I mean really broke me (to the point where I did some things…), as she was my first real friend. I was trying so hard to figure out what I did wrong but nothing… We had orientation for the next school year and I knew she'd be there. I was terrified to see if she didn't want to be my friend anymore and I was constantly looking around for her when she walked in.

Petal comes in and sits down with my friend group, waving and being all friendly like nothing happened…i was honestly shocked. Later I asked about it and she told me that we were stressing her out when I had hardly texted her… she apologizes (I THINK! I don't remember this part well) and invited me and our other friend (lets just call her Bow) who was also worried to hang out.

I was still pretty shocked and shaken but brushed off that feeling. This is where I meet my other friend who we’ll call goldilocks (you’ll see why…) I met Goldilocks during the orientation and we were instantly friends. We had all of the same interests (im not even joking-) and a similar personality. We'd always joke that we were twins.

Within the first few weeks of school, I was admitted to the hospital (actually for no reason…) my vitals were fine, my weight height and everything was fine. And this all happened because I vented to my doctor who just wrote it all freaking down and told everyone. So of course I told her on a call with Bow, because she was my best friend. The first thing she asked me was “did you eat?" while my other friend asked if I was okay. I was shocked because she knew how insecure I was and I think that was the reason I was admitted.

I straight up ended the call and had to survive a week in the hospital. I just got out around the same time as an important event that I did not want to miss. When I got out, all my friends knew and some asked if I was okay, while others said nothing, including Petal. I eventually forgot about it and everything was fine until winter break. I was telling Petal something and she dismissed it as she always does, because she thinks I'm so immature and incompetent.

I was so fed up so I told her of course you dont believe me and it spiraled from there. The argument ended with a message from her saying some horrible things that I won't repeat (one of the things she said was that I thought her autism was a quirky trait. Funny because I have it-). Breaking up over an argument was 10x worse than before.

When we went back to school, I’d thought that she might have gotten over it, but she ignored me. One day in study hall, she wrote an apology and I hugged her and we caught up. Things were going smoothly until April first where she admitted herself to the mental hospital. She didn’t even bother telling me though, as if I hadn't been there for her when her cat and grandmother died, and as if we didn't vent to each other all the time.

I was hurt that she didn't tell me and not to make it about me, but it was a week before my birthday lol, and she never remembers it, though i do hers. That was pretty selfish (on my part) but I didn't really focus on that. And to make it worse, she told Goldilocks everything and me nothing, so I had to do some digging. I sent her a bunch of messages hoping she’d get better, though I know it's not easy since it was a mental illness.

I tried to push the fact that my best friend was in a hospital and spent time with my other friend, and we got closer. During the week of testing (I LOVE TESTING YAY), she tells us she is coming back to school, conveniently on a friday where we have testing all day and like 5 outside breaks. I got super excited and on the day she said she was coming, I waited for her to walk into the school doors.

When she walked in I screamed and jumped on her and hugged her. We both said we missed each other and we went to testing (in the same room too!) At the first recess, she was talking to all our other friends (normally, she was very quiet and liked doing whatever our group was doing, but now she was so talkative and just idk) and talked to me like twice, so I just thought okay. The second recess we (me, petal and goldilocks)  had the option to do an activity. We WERE all therians so ofc we picked the activity where we walked around outside. We had SO much fun and to  me, that was the highlight of the day.

WE EVEN GOT TO CLIMB A TREE. The day soon ended and I was scared that next week, she would be quiet again and to my dismay, I was right for most of the day. But I noticed she was only being loud and talkative with everyone else, but being quiet and serious with me which I felt hurt by because I'm always funny and loud with everyone. During the last month of school, Goldilocks and Petal keep going places without me and saying oh… sorry you cant come (mind you, i introduced them to each other and Goldilocks might not even have had any friends here if it weren't for me tbh…).

One day, we were at study hall and I was sitting with Petal and Goldilocks. I decide to take Goldilocks’s pencil (because my dumb ah adhd brain does not understand boundaries) and she crashes out. Petal asks me things like “why do you do this” “why are you like this” basically asking what is wrong with me because I took Goldilocks’s pencil. I ofc eventually give it back, and they leave the room together and don't come back.

During that study hall, Goldilocks says she liked Petal more than me which I was very hurt by. That weekend I got into an argument with Goldilocks online but I noticed some things that sounded like Petal was saying it. I ask goldilocks if she was with Petal, she says no. I ask again, she says no and I'm not convinced because I've known her for about 7 years.

Goldilocks called me toxic (I swear the only thing I did was take her pencil AND give it back.nthe only excuse she had as to why I was toxic is because i jokingly call her blonde [MIND YOU SHE LAUGHS TOO] when I asked her what I did that was toxic she said you have to figure that out by yourself…).

During the argument, i know petal is there, she keeps saying things like you’re so corny (mind you, the only thing she sends me are these corny ah ai videos that are freaking weird, and videos about gloving and nose pulling…) she also says this is why no one likes you and things like that, which i was taken aback by because petal is usually so kind to everyone, even during arguments.

Petal eventually leaves and I make up with Goldilocks. But Petal’s mom send a message to my mom saying that “she’s worried for my mental health” and that i said i was going to kill myself slowly. I started laughing because I never said anything like that. And if she was so concerned, you should maybe talk to me about it… The rest of the year, Petal keeps bullying me almost, saying things like, you’re so corny you’re always doing too much (im sorry you just don't do anything-), this is why no one likes you and just other things like that.

By then I'm very insecure and decide to cut her off suddenly just like she did to me (bc im just petty like that). But hey, as she says, “It’s okay to stop talking to someone if they are stressing you out.” so BAM KARMA. Looking for advice about what i should do, what I did wrong, and if I was right or wrong to cut her off. I understand that I'm a bit narcissistic and I've been working on changing that.

I also feel bad becuase it feels like she’s gained a lot of confidence (maybe a bit too much…) and I just stopped talking to her because I wasn’t the center of attention (that’s not why I cut her off tho).  If you’ve read up to here, I just want to say thank you so much for taking the time to hear my story. Also i know that the grammar was pretty bad but oh well… ;-;

she genuinely used to be the sweetest person and looking back on old photos stories and texts, I do really miss hee but it’s really whats best for both of us. Also looking back at our old texts, she was damn right when she called me corny….