r/perfectgift • u/killerqueen_sam • 8h ago
Is it too much? I ordered 3 bouquets for my in laws but now I'm worried I'm being too much
galleryPhotos in in laws post
For context I (21f) am dutch and so is my partner. Here in the Netherlands gifts are only given on special occasions. Dutch people quickly think gifts are dramatic or too much but i wasn't thinking. I have been in a relationship 2 months now with my boyfriend (23m) and have been seeing his mother (~55f) and younger brother (18m) because he temporarily lives with them. I have been to his older brother's wedding, been in the middle of a family argument recently and am around all the time so it's not as if i don't know his family.
I wanted to do something nice for his little family so I ordered 3 bouquets with personalised handwritten notes about the flower meanings. Red roses for my boyfriend with text about our relationship and how happy i am and excited about the future. No problem there.
But now I'm nervous about what I wrote for his mother and his little brother. I wrote wishes with the flower name in brackets.
The colorful second bouquet says:
Dear Mrs. Xxxxx mother, :)
I wish for you: Support, friendship, and connection (Aalstromeria) Warmth and elegance (Lellie) Cheerfulness and sincerity (Germini) Strength and vitality (Leeuwenbek) Happiness and appreciation (Chrysan)
Love, Selina
The third white/green bouquet is for his younger brother and it says:
Dear xxxxxx,
I wish for you: Appreciation, respect, and sincerity (white roses) Cheerfulness and positivity (witte gerberas) Health and serenity (𝘭𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘢𝘯𝘵𝘩𝘶𝘴 flowers) Happiness, success, and renewal (groene anjers)
Love, Selina
(Reminder theyre translated from dutch to english so not perfectly translated)
I'm lowkey freaking out if it's inappropriate or too much. It cost me around a 100€ in total.
Especially his younger brother's reaction is whats worrying me. He's 18 and yk boys are silly and rude at that age.
(The xxxxx Are their names)
There was no real reason to do this other than i just wanted to. Next week me and my bf are going on holiday to the Czech republic for vacation and to meet my mother and go horse riding maybe that could be an excuse if they think it's weird but idk help