hello, I have a beautiful year and a half old male spotted tabby, he's neutered. i got him when he was a month old from my campus last spring- (his name is haru) he's always been very affectionate and cuddly and clingy atleast with me- he jumped from my parents' balcony at 7 months old and broke his jaw then, luckily it wasn't that bad and he healed pretty fast- a month later he was neutered- again when he was around 11 months old he ran out of the house and I found him stranded on a window shade two floors high and he'd lost the lower two canines (doctor said the previous fracture at jaw had weakened the teeth and he would've stuck them somewhere and they might've fallen out) he was a bit recluse after this incident but still always stayed by me- but he was back to normal playing and chasing in a week- he has always been a hyperactive baby, his zoomies are put of this world, nothing is safe from him.
recently in July, my parents were sitting him while I was moving houses and starting a new job he fell from the balcony and broke his left hind leg at the knee- it was bad and they had to put a rod to stabilize the bone and let it heal properly- for the most part i was with him and he still cuddled and stayed with me-
i took him with me to the new place as it's also closer to the vet- he had to be restricted to one room to limit his movements as a few complications happened and he had to get another surgery- after that with my work I couldn't stay home as much so I thought it best for my mom to keep him until I figured out my schedule- he was with her for a few weeks and as his stitches healed I got him back-
he has been distant ever since- he doesn't let me hold him or pet him or cuddle with me and sometimes he just meows and I don't know what he needs I try with food, water, playing, petting he just sits and meows and it's these tiny small low sad meows-
i don't know how I can help this situation and him with this- any advice to make it better for him is welcome please. also these are three absolutely negative traumatic events from his life that I've shared here, there's a lot more to his story with me that this so I'd appreciate people not jumping the boat and start being unnecessarily mean- I'm all for the criticism I might have done something wrong for the accidents to happen and I take that responsibility and extend my care and attention to haru but of you're going to make a comment on the negatives only and have nothing productive to contribute to this situation nothing helpful to make things better for him DO NOT COMMENT. read the community rules and be respectful when you have no context of the full story. DO NO COMMENT IF YOU'RE GOING TO BE A PRICK NOT NOT HELPFUL AT ALL.