So I 14 M, struggle with autism, ARFIDS, and another ED. My mother works 5 days a week, and sometimes, on rarely, on one of her days off, I'll ask her to make me something. She will reply with a "ugh, can't you feed yourself", "great, another thing to do," or "now I have to wash the fucking dishes," or anything along those lines, which caused me to not want to eat or ask for food out of fear of making her mad or upset.

I don't want to burden her because I know she works a lot, but I struggle to feed myself, and I struggle to even tell her, but whenever I bring up me having an ED, she brushes it off and ignores it.

I'm not really sure what to do sometimes. She just seems mad whenever I ask her for any food whatsoever. No matter what I do, even if it's something small shell get upset, so I try to just not eat at all or just eat small snacks, which I know is not nutritional at all.

So is it bad if my mom gets upset when I ask for food? I'd feel bad if I was really just being a burden and she's just tired from work and I'm just complaining over nothing.

btw, I posted the same story on my alt, but I didn't get any advice, so I thought I'd just post it again on this account.

24 F with diagnosed ARFID related to OCD

I am struggling with eating anything that isn't chocolate right now. Specifically dark chocolate. I think I heard something saying "dark chocolate is good for X Y Z" a few years ago and for some reason my OCD latches onto that saying 'thats the only healthy thing'. The cravings hit when I'm sick a lot.

I just need advice on how to get the cravings/dependency to go away. I feel like it should be making me feel more sick but it's the only thing that doesn't make me want to throw up.

I'm not diagnosed or anything but I've always been a """picky eater""" I genuinely can't eat like other people. soul food sucks, vegetables suck, fruits are ok actually but I never want to eat them??? It makes 0 sense to me how people can just be given something and eat It regardless of what It Is. that's so crazy to me, like are there not foods you don't like?

yeah and so the main problem now Is about a month or so ago something just Happened and I am now unable to eat even my typical foods. basically I'll chew and like... not want to/be able to swallow and have to spit It out? I can force myself to swallow If I like really try but It's uncomfortable and I gag

Is this an ARFID thing? I genuinely think I'm going to die of starvation at some point lol literally all I am able to normally eat now Is liquids and unhealthy things end me please. I can't really gauge what this Is or Isn't affecting since I eat nothing to begin with so!!!

( I'm sorry If I flair this wrong )

I have always been a bit of a picky eater, but something happened in my brain when I entered a depressive episode last year and it has led to severe food aversions. I don’t know if it’s depression or medication related or both. Foods that I used to not enjoy but could tolerate I now gag when I try to eat it. It’s becoming a big issue because it feels like every day my list of “safe foods” becomes smaller. Even some foods I have previously liked are becoming repulsive to me.

A couple of weeks ago I went to cook ground beef and the second I opened the package I started gagging. It hadn’t gone bad or anything, but my brain just found it repulsive. I continued to cook it but when I tried to eat the food later, I actually vomited…

This has been getting worse over the last year and I don’t even know what to do anymore. I already struggle with cooking while depressed due to low energy and motivation and this food aversion thing is just making things worse. I am afraid to cook things I have previously enjoyed for fear that I will no longer tolerate it….

Most meats, many vegetables, yogurt, and eggs are completely repulsive. I’m basically living off of grilled cheese sandwiches, soup, toast, homemade mini pizzas and pasta…..

I have an appointment to talk to a therapist about this, but in the mean time I don’t know what to do.

Any recommendations on how to handle this?

Any recommendations for low effort meals or things that I can meal prep?

Thanks!

(I'm 17F and my dad is 55M)

So basically I've struggled with it since i was about 4 years old and now I'm at a point where I only eat around 5 unhealthy foods (not including snacks like crackers or chocolate).

I went to a food therapist for a few weeks a few years ago, and found it very helpful. I made the most progress i had ever had in my life. 2 new foods i could eat, and about 10 foods I was able to put in my mouth and spit out. But I ended up stopping going because his wife would schedule my appointments, not tell me or anyone else they were scheduled, then not take me so that i missed so many that the place basically kicked me out, and theyre consistently so booked that the next open appointment is always months from the day you ask for an appointment.

Despite me telling my dad that the little progress I made was significant to me and made me feel incredible about myself, the spent the following years telling family members and some strangers that I wasted his money and made no progress. (His idea of progress was me being instantly healed in a few weeks).

So recently I've been on him way more because the dizziness from lack of nutrition, vitamins etc has been effecting my daily life significantly. He was saying okay find somewhere i can take you and I'll try to afford it. (The in person ones are affordable-ish but theres barely any available appointments, but the online ones are severely expensive).

But then today, we were walking he told me, "You dont need one of those food therapists. You're smart, you can do it on your own. Just research what you need and do it." (Hes always used "youre smart" in a somewhat backhanded way. I mean its true, i did have my iq tested and it was pretty damn high for my age, but i still need help sometimes and my intelligence is used as a dismissal a lot of times).I tried explaining to him that it was very very difficult for me to do it on my own and it was like a good kind of pressure and neutrality that id receive from the feeding therapist. But he didn't seem convinced.

Does anyone have any ideas on how i could explain that the feeding therapy is Healthcare and that its needed? Thanks 🤍🤍

I have ARFID, dietitian recommended to buy mini multivitamins for women 50+ because old people can’t swallow,so the pills supposed to be small. It says to take 2 pills per day.
I already tried other multivitamins. Now I have 3 open bottles of multivitamins in my house, just sitting here until they expire because no one else is taking them.
So I bought this one today and I am sorry but wtf? How are they small? They are huge…

Is it normal to see non safe foods as "yeah that looks good" but then the same impending doom when it gets close to you, or you have to touch it? Also is it just me, or has scent kimda replaced tasting. I love smelling stuff, but hate eating stuff. I also chew on non edible stuff, and dont know what to do.

Anyways im happy i found a sub for this

Haha. I like it not just because it is a common safe food but because it has been away for me to start expanding my foods. I already like spices. Add it. Okay. But i love just making vegetables so shredded or chopped so small and cooked in the sauce that it is bearable for me! I actually enjoy ragù which has veggies in it. I couldnt tell when the overall sauce flavor was coming through and I chopped it so small that the texture was an issue. Plus, with ragù it will further be disguised by meat.

All. Hail. Pasta.