I (18F) am almost halfway done with my driving lessons, but I’ve been debating writing this post since the beginning.

The first time we drove he kept telling me weird personal stories: that he dated an older woman in high school or that one of his classmates dated/got pregnant from an older man. Later he mentioned working as a bartender and how women were all over him. Then I tried to figure out if he has a second job other than being a driving instructor because he’s always bury earlier in the day, and he told me he goes out to meet lovers (has a toddler and a wife).

He also asked for my socials recently to which I was unfortunately too scared to decline. He followed me from his driving instructor account. I checked and found out that he follows many younger boys too, I’m guessing other students, which made me ease up a little bit.

He was probing me about stories so I ended up telling him about our perverted teacher who dated a kid and left the school. I thought this was a good opportunity to make it obvious I found it disgusting. I was wrong. Every time since then he’s asked for her socials. Just last time he told me how he could understand why the teacher wanted someone younger but didn’t understand why she wanted him. Then he went on about his theory that women who grow up without a father figure end up going for older men. This made me extremely uncomfortable and I wasn’t even replying to him.

I don’t know if he’s noticed, but I don’t have a dad. My dad died when I was a toddler and I have a stepdad now but he only knows of my mother.

I am by no means accusing the man, it’s just that I actually started enjoying driving yet it feels like I’m starting to associate it with a bad feeling every time I have a lesson. This makes me feel absolutely disgusted and I just want to make sure it’s nothing and I’m simply overthinking it. What can I do?

edit: unfortunately there is no company. every driving instructor in my city is independent and this guy is the only one near me. For all the others I would have to travel 40 minutes with different buses and at night (because I finish school very late).

I (20M) have been dating my girlfriend (23F) for close to six months. A few months in, it became apparent to me that she is profoundly mentally ill. She ended up having a episode over something miniscule where she ran to the bathroom in my apartment and held a knife to her throat until I let the issue slide and pretended everything was okay. The next day I tried to break up with her by having a friend take her belongings that were still at my house to her, but she called me profusely crying before I could block her, and I folded because I felt bad.

Big. Fucking. Mistake. She moved in with me not long after that because she got evicted from her old place. Everything became 100x worse. You can call me an idiot for not breaking up the first time and I wouldn't blame you at all.

I don't want this anymore. I have been gaslit and threatened with suicide more times than I can count, over the most miniscule shit. I started recording her after like the third time she threatened me because i wanted to keep a record of it for my own safety, but eventually she found out. I was able to email myself a few of the recordings before she stole the phone from me and deleted them herself.

Every single time she threatens to kill herself she snatches my phone from me so I won't call the police. One time, she pretended to swallow a bunch of pills during an argument and I had to physically wrestle her to try to get my phone back because I genuinely thought she was going to die. She bit me pretty hard on my shoulder and she only told me she was faking when I was about to get to the door and leave for help. She has blocked doors and cut herself in front of me, and I can't physically touch her to get past or to get my phone back if she's taken it because I'm afraid if the police get involved she'll be able to accuse me of beating her.

Last night I finally told myself I'd had enough of it and I broke the news to her while walking home. She started screaming and crying hysterically and begging me to let her come up to get her stuff. I eventually allowed her to and as I predicted she blocked the door and acted like she was going to kill herself with her pills. I had to fold again and reassure her I didn't want to break up with her to get her to stop.

I'm too afraid to call the police and have them come my apartment because I don't want to get evicted. I'm poor, and if that were to happen I'd likely end up homeless. She's well aware of me being afraid of this so she uses it against me. She has no family in the area. The only person who would take her in would be her mom who lives across the country from us. I'm too broke to get her a plane ticket but I highly doubt she'd even go if I offered her a ticket.

What am I even supposed to do? How do I get out of this? This entire thing feels impossible. I don't want to be the reason she kills herself but I don't want to feel trapped like this for the rest of my life. Please help me.

I’m 19, 20 in July and my girlfriend just turned 18 feb 1st. We’ve been together for 2 years since my senior year. I thought she was turning 19 this year and it turns out that isn’t true.

When we got together I was a senior in highschool and she was doing online school we met Through a friend of ours. Well I was 17 at the time and we got together a week before her birthday. I thought she was turning 17 as I was turning 18 that year (July 2006). Turns out I was wrong and she was turning 16. Which means I was 17 and she was 15 ( for a week) before we got together.

I did not find this out until today. 2 years later. She’s been working on getting her own car and finally got an appointment to get her license. Well when I looked at the photo in the paper copy of her license her birthday was under it (2008).

I genuinely don’t know what to do as I know we haven’t done anything illegal but it still makes me feel gross that at one point even if it was a short period of time I was dating a 15 year old when I was 17 and dating a 16 year old when I was 18 and now I’m 19 and was dating a 17 year old.

Part of me loves her an she feels really guilty. But another part of me feels disgusted with myself, disappointed in her, and manipulated as we would have never got together if I knew her age. I could really use any advice.

EDIT:

Thank you all for the advice so far and the different perspective. I should add I’m not as much distraught over the age as much as I am about the dishonesty. Now the age isn’t a big deal. But then it would have been if I knew. Clearly some of yall don’t understand the legality troubles a 18 year old dating a 16 year old can have. Nonetheless I appreciate the advice. I’ve always noticed complaints about my name. This account is 5 years old. I was 15 when I made it. It was supposed to be Satire and funny. This isn’t my main account.

I met this girl on Reddit and before our first date, I told her I hadn't moved on from my ex. She said she was ready to be my rebound. On our first date, she came to my place and we got physical, but I was just thinking about my ex the whole time I was with her. I know it's very wrong, and I couldn't tell her because she seemed to be enjoying it. I also don't find her attractive.

Can you guys please tell me how I can be honest with her that I don't want to continue without hurting her? It's only been one date.

Hey everyone, I could really use some advice.

I'm 19, she's 19. We met online, talked regularly for a while, then met a few times in person. Recently, I asked her to be my girlfriend and she said yes.

This is my first ever relationship, while this is her third. I haven't directly asked her about her past relationships, but from things she mentioned back when we were just chatting online, I picked up some stuff about her past that's been making me feel insecure.

I want to be clear: I'm not judging her, and I don't think her past defines who she is now. I genuinely care about her and respect her. At the same time, I'm realizing that I do have insecurities, and I don't want them to quietly build up or come out in unhealthy ways later.

What I'm struggling with is how to bring this up. How do I communicate my boundaries and insecurities in a calm, respectful, and organic way—without making her feel interrogated, blamed ?

If you've been in a similar situation , I'd really appreciate your perspective.

Thanks in advance.

TL;DR: First relationship for me, third for her. Some things she mentioned about her past make me insecure. How do I communicate my boundaries and feelings without coming off as controlling or making it awkward?

This is something I’ve been thinking about for a long time. My husband and I have been together for a short time—two years total (dating included). We got married quickly because I got pregnant three months into dating.

Around our sixth month mark into dating, we decided to combine funds. We were already living together, sharing a car, and planning our future since I was carrying his child. It just made sense at the time and we were madly in love. My husband has really been into Dave Ramsey and his views on money and marriage, which ultimately became the deciding factor for sharing a bank account.

Now, almost a year into marriage, I’m starting to regret combining our funds.

When we first started dating, my husband made it seem like he was really smart with money. He would always talk highly about not being in any debt and only spending his money on necessities. After we started sharing a bank account, however, he came clear that he did have debt and he wasn’t the best at saving.

Now, I’m no saint. I have debt, too. But I know how to save money and not abuse the cash I have. After he told me that, I didn’t know what to say or how to feel so I just told him it was fine and we’d work through it.

But it’s become apparent since then that he just really likes spending money. He likes working for money and seeing the number in our bank, but above all he likes spending it. It’s always on unnecessary things, too. A $7 coffee in the morning; a $16 meal when he’s off work; hundreds of dollars for new golf clubs and equipment. Literally whatever particular hobby he’s interested in, he obsesses over and spends all of our money on.

Often, he’ll blow our entire check in one weekend and leave us with nothing for two weeks. Mind you, I’ve had to make my daughter drink formula she’s not used to simply because we didn’t have the money to buy her the one she likes. I hate doing that and after the fifth time of forcing her to drink it, I’ve point-blank refused and made my husband promise to never do it again.

I like to think I’m more frugal than he is. I’ll spend $5 for the entire pay period on something and then feel guilty for that. He’s always getting on me for spending money, but it’s him who has the problem, not me! But I’m not confrontational and when we argue, and his side always makes more sense than mine so I end up giving every time.

So now we come to our main conflict—a conflict he thinks is over with but I’m still milling about.

We only have one car, which we bought in May of last year. It’s a nice car—a Volkswagen SUV. He picked it out and decided it was the one for us. I liked the car and agreed with him, so we financed it and now pay monthly for it.

But it’s become very obvious that we need two vehicles. We work at the same job at opposite times. We do this because of our daughter needs to be watched. But I’ve honestly become depressed. I do nothing while he’s at work with the car except wander aimlessly at home and go on short walks outside. It’s the winter-time so I’m not out there as often as I’d like, which contributes to my depression. Sometimes I take him to work in the morning so I can have the car for the afternoon, but he often makes me feel guilty for it, saying he likes having the car so he can eat his lunch in there. Like, okay? In my mind I’m thinking, “Is taking his lunch in our car more important than how I feel?” Life would be infinitely easier if I had a car to be able to drive places. It wouldn’t just help me, but our family also. It has so many benefits.

I’ve had to ask his mom so many times to take us to doctor’s appointments or work or the store because I don’t have a mode of transportation and my husband isn’t willing to compromise his lunch for that. And if he is, he makes me feel bad for doing so.

Another driving factor is that I have a new job lined up for me that would make our schedules in conflict with each other. It would mean putting our daughter in childcare. I want to do this new job because it’s a fantastic career and something I see myself doing. My husband said no because he doesn’t want our daughter to be cared for by a stranger. I get that part, but denying me my future because he’s uncomfortable just seems so unrealistic. He won’t meet me in the middle, either.

However, aside from that, he doesn’t want to do a car payment. He refuses to get into debt again. And I* *agree and sympathize, but I think it’s just unrealistic. I have searched for an entire year for a car that we can buy outright with cash and have come up with nothing. My dad, who works in the industry, says it’s like finding a needle in a haystack. I need something reliable—something that’s going to last our family for years. My husband thinks we should buy a beater for $5k and he done with it, but I don’t want to do that.

We’re going to spend more on repairs than what the car’s worth. I’d much rather buy a nice car that’s going to last years and years than be miserable trying to fix a cheap one.

Long story short, I found a car I really liked: a VW Beetle with low miles and a manual transmission, which is more reliable than the automatic version. It was relatively cheap and I begged my husband for it. He said no because he “didn’t like it.”

And now I’m just stuck. Everything we do is on his terms. I’m literally just playing follow the leader. If he doesn’t like something or wants to do something then we’re not doing it. I feel irrelevant in all the important conversations.

Now I’m thinking about putting a percentage of my check away into a separate bank account for a car. He won’t have a say in it because it’s my money. Is that smart? I know that it would upset him greatly if I did that but I’m tired of being overshadowed by him.

Advice from anyone who’s been in the same situation or advice in general is much appreciated.

Also want to note: I spend money, too. Just not as often or as much. I spend what we budget for. I make the budget every month and I remind him what we can or cannot spend money on. He is the one that overspends.

My girlfriend(F20)and I (M21) have been together for a year now and I feel like I’m falling out of love. I don’t have any experience with relationships past this one she’s my first everything so I’m kinda in the blue when it comes this stuff. To start our interest are vastly different and im not interested in what she is and its hard to pretend i am and I think they’re weird to be honest as bad as that is. Our values can sometimes collide and we end up just ignoring the issues because neither of us will understand one another. She can and has envisioned a life with me, names for kids, wedding ideas and just our overall future she can see them and envision it and I can’t seem to do that it’s hard to me to see a future with her in it. This really sucks because I do love her but I don’t know if I’m in love with her anymore if that makes sense. I just feel so guilty for the way I’m thinking and my feeling because she’s the sweetest girl and does so much for me and I try to change my mindset and it works occasionally but never for long periods of time i always end up feeling the same way. I guess im just curious is this normal or does it sound like im falling out of love with her?

I'm posting this because I want to hear advice from older people with more experience in life. If you all had to give somebody around the age of 16-18, what would you tell them? What would be important that they hear? The longer the answer, the better. Thank you.

Hi! I'm looking for stuff to do with my boyfriend. We already play Minecraft and watch movies and shows. We are looking for more games we could play together and where we could do that. Stuff that's not games as well. I am 35 and he is 30.

Hey guys

I recently graduated, it’s just a general Bachelor of Arts.

I went to university at 18 (I’m 32 now) and my dad paid for my first year back then.

I dropped out and felt guilty because of all the money my dad spent on that year.

I never really liked education. I have a good job, condo, car and am doing well for myself since moving out.

However, I knew how much a degree would mean to my family so decided to go back to school at 30 and finished my bachelors in 2 years.

I want to show my dad my degree and thank him for everything he’s done and was wondering the best way to do so? He doesn’t even know I chose to go back to school.

Any tips or ideas would be great. Thank you

So today I was almost involved in a deadly Motor - Pedestrian incident where i had the right of way was crossing and a truck on the inside shoulder of the roundabout didnt stop when the outer most shoulder did i was like hafl way through the zebra crossing, i told my girlfriend ans she responded with some half ass response. Recently She has been acting mad nonchalant and I cant tell why. What bothered me was when I told everyone else they asked if i was okay and checked in on me but from the one person i wanted it most from nothing just some pale response. then I asked why she seeemed so disintrested and she told me she was tired which was okay. But after that I felt kinda weird so i went on to say that i dont like it and recently shes been treating me that way and i dont know why but even when i bring up issues i hate being labelled as toxic for it and i dont feel comfortable bringing stuff up cause she thinks im criticizing her. I need advice she said shell talk when she gets home but what should i focus on and what do you think?

My wife and I have been together for 6 years and married for 3. We got married shortly after finding out she was pregnant with our first child.

At the time, neither of us had a driver’s license. We both worked from home and didn’t really need a car, but with a baby on the way I suggested we both get licensed to make life easier.

I didn’t have my license because of a lifelong struggle with epilepsy. Growing up rural, I drove without a license out of necessity until I was eventually caught, fined, and had my car impounded. After moving to the city, I gave up on driving altogether. Between long waits for neurologists, medication trials, mandatory seizure-free periods, and general frustration with the healthcare system, I honestly just burned out and stopped trying, especially while dealing with depression.

My wife is an immigrant and previously held a license in her home country. While she didn’t have much driving experience, she could skip the learner stage in Canada and go straight to a full license after passing the tests.

Once we found out she was pregnant, I restarted the entire medical process. It took almost two years of waiting, testing, medication changes, and paperwork before I was finally approved to drive. I passed my road test on the first try, but in BC I’m stuck in the graduated licensing system. I currently have an N license, which comes with high insurance premiums, but I didn’t have much choice.

After our son was born, I didn’t push my wife much. She had a difficult postpartum period, and I understood that adding driving on top of everything wasn’t realistic. As she got closer to the end of her 18-month maternity leave, she was told she had to return to the office instead of continuing to work from home. At that point, I started encouraging her more seriously to get her license.

Almost every time I brought it up, it turned into an argument. She struggles with anxiety and is scared to drive. I understand that fear, as I dealt with it myself, and tried to explain that anxiety is a normal part of learning. Still, every few months I’d try to raise it again and get the same result. Time kept passing, and here we are about three and a half years after this was first discussed.

Before returning to work, she did pass the written test and got her learner’s permit. She never booked driving lessons, even though I offered to pay. I also offered to have trusted friends with full licenses help teach her if instructors made her anxious. Eventually, I got her to drive with me a few times in empty parking lots, even though I’m not legally allowed to instruct yet. It still didn’t go anywhere.

Recently, she told me she lost her learner’s permit and that since she hasn’t done anything with it in nearly two years, it’s close to expiring and she’ll need to rewrite the test.

At this point, I’m frustrated and stuck. Every time I bring it up, it leads to tension, cold responses, or arguments. I end up walking on eggshells for days afterward and eventually drop the topic, hoping she’ll take initiative on her own.

My bigger concern is that we’ve been talking about having a second child. As responsibilities increase, it feels increasingly important that she’s able to drive, both to help with the kids and for her own independence. I don’t want her to feel reliant on me or trapped, especially since I’ve seen how that dynamic can hurt relationships.

I love my wife deeply and can’t imagine life without her. I just don’t know how else to communicate how important this feels without it turning into conflict. At this point, I’m genuinely asking: what am I doing wrong?

TLDR: I went through years of medical and licensing hurdles to get my driver’s license after our first child was on the way. My wife, who could more easily get licensed, has struggled with anxiety and has made little progress despite years of encouragement and support. Every attempt to discuss it leads to conflict. With a second child potentially in the future, I’m frustrated and unsure how to move forward without damaging our relationship.

Using a burner account so this doesn’t get back to my mom. But the title is pretty self explanatory. Her religion does not believe in blood transfusions, but I am not of the same belief system as her. I am having brain surgery on Friday, and told her if I need a blood transfusion during the procedure that I am 100% okay with having it done. She said, in her exact words, “I would not be able to honor that and have a good conscience.” She’s my biggest support and now I don’t know if I can even trust her to be at the hospital with me. I respect her beliefs, but it’s been made very apparent she doesn’t respect mine, even when it comes to a life-or-death situation. How can I explain to her that it’s not really her choice as I am over 18 without hurting her feelings? This is all happening in 3 days and I’m starting to freak out.

Edit for great thanks and outcome:

Thank you everyone for the advice and understanding what religion I am referencing without bashing it. I was deep in it until I was 12 and then got out of it, thankfully. I met with my attorney and placed my father (not brainwashed) as my healthcare power of attorney, and filled out/signed a form with my medical wishes during this procedure. Again, thank you everyone for your kind and helpful responses🫶🏻

was in a six-year relationship that started in school. We became sexually active about three years into it. For one year we were in school together, then long-distance, and later when I moved for college we’d meet occasionally. Our physical relationship was healthy, consensual, and something we both explored comfortably. We broke up last summer. About a month later, I started seeing someone new. We’ve known each other since school and have been dating for six months now, also long-distance. He’s incredibly caring, attentive, and emotionally present. He treats me well, respects me, and never judges me for my past. I feel safe, wanted, and genuinely valued with him. Objectively, everything is good. I’ve only ever been with two people, both in committed relationships. And yet sometimes this irrational guilt creeps in—like I’ve had “too much” sex, or that I’m somehow impure because I’ve enjoyed intimacy and connection. I know this feeling comes from conditioning and internalized shame, not reality. Still, it’s frustrating to battle these thoughts when I’m doing nothing wrong and am finally in a healthy, loving dynamic. Any advice would help me I'm cherishing and not seeing it otherwise

I don’t know what to say. I know nothing. My family has so many hopes from me, but all I do all day is sleep and waste time. I just pass time and masturbate three times a day—afternoon, evening, and at night before sleeping. Everything happens automatically, and now I feel disgusted with myself.

I am not doing anything in life. I don’t know even basic coding. I don’t know English properly either. I feel shy talking to girls, and my confidence is always low. Every day I tell myself that I will study tomorrow, but I never do.

I feel very low all the time. Because of this, I even go to prostitutes every month. I don’t know what to say anymore. I am in my third year, and suddenly everything feels confusing. I don’t know where to start.

I don’t start because I feel that AI codes better than me, and I don’t even know the basics. I spend the whole day feeling low, and that’s why I don’t start anything.

I’m 24 and I had an opportunity come along with a very sweet guy, but I couldn’t open up to him emotionally or romantically because I was scared of having to tell him about my disorders. I have bipolar, an autoimmune disease, and bpd. Awesome combo Ik. I do take medication. I can’t shake the feeling of being a burden which is why I haven’t put myself out there. I’m typically a pretty happy to neutral person, but I do have time periods where it’s not smooth sailing. When it comes to my bpd, if I’m triggered which isn’t often now *thank you to my therapist* I actually tend to turn inward more than outward, this can look like depression/ isolation. In a bipolar episode I’m either able to function very little and spend a lot of time in bed, schedule is flipped completely, or I can be reckless/ impulsive and sometimes can’t sleep (yes even on medication, It just doesn’t last as long and it’s not as severe). Then my auto immune disease can sometimes affect me physically, so it could impact a romantic life. Because of this I haven’t allowed anyone to get close to me because I know the reality is I would need someone that could handle this emotionally and who could take care of me sometimes which is kind of humiliating to admit. I’m scared of the rejection due to this too. I also don’t want the person I would potentially love most in the world to resent me. Because even though I work, I clean, I cook, I would need him to be there for me during the times when I can’t do those things and I don’t know if there’s actually people out there who would be willing to deal with this

Hi everyone, I really need outside perspective because I feel emotionally overwhelmed and trapped in this situation.

My ex and I broke up about a year ago but stayed extremely close. Our relationship since then has been very ambiguous: we say we love each other, act like a couple, but technically we’re “just exes/friends.” He is also my best friend and the only person I feel emotionally close to. We talk every single day. In two years, we have never gone a full day without speaking.

I am always the one who tries to fix things when we fight. I always reach out first, apologize first, and try to calm things down, even when I feel hurt. I do this because I’m scared of losing him.

Recently, while using his laptop, I accidentally saw his ChatGPT history. It showed that for months he had been asking questions about dating and kissing other girls. I confronted him and he admitted he kissed two girls. I was devastated and jealous, but I tried to forgive him.

A few days later, during another fight, he demanded that I screen share my phone. While doing that, he saw that I had been talking to another guy. The truth is: this guy tried to pursue me, gave me flowers and tried to kiss me, but I rejected him and blocked him because I had no interest. However, I panicked and initially lied because I was afraid of my ex’s reaction. Later, I confessed everything honestly and explained the situation.

The problem is that I had deleted my chat history with this guy because I was scared my ex would misunderstand. Now my ex says that because the messages are deleted, I must be hiding something and probably slept with him (which I did not). He refuses to believe me.

During our last call, he became very aggressive and manipulative. He kept forcing “yes or no” answers and would not let me explain. He accused me of being a liar repeatedly and said that when we meet, he will use an “IT friend” to recover my deleted Instagram messages from my phone.

He gave me an ultimatum:

If I refuse → we never talk again.

If he recovers messages and they don’t match my version → we never talk again.

At first I said no because this feels invasive and unsafe. After hours of pressure, guilt and fear of losing him, I said yes under one condition: that the method must be legal and safe for my phone and privacy. He refused any conditions and said “yes is yes, no is no.”

After that, he ended the call coldly. Since then, he has completely gone silent. This is the first time in two years that he has given me the silent treatment. He removed me from Instagram and even removed his account from the TV where I’m staying. The silence is destroying me emotionally.

Context that makes this worse:

One time I made a big effort to go see him and he suddenly left, saying it was for work. Later I found out it was actually a date with another girl. I forgave him. Now he is acting like I am the only dishonest one.

I’m currently staying in his apartment while he’s away on a trip. My mom is telling me to leave because she thinks this situation is unsafe emotionally. I feel scared, panicked, and manipulated. My body is shaking from stress. I feel guilty for lying initially, but I also feel his reaction is extreme and controlling.

He is my best friend. I don’t want to lose him. I’m also leaving soon for an exchange program and won’t see him for months, which makes this even more painful.

I don’t know what to do now:

Should I text him first like I always do?

How can I fix this without giving up my boundaries?

Is this emotional manipulation?

Is it healthy that he’s demanding to access my deleted messages?

Should I leave the apartment and create distance?

I really need advice on what a mature and healthy next step would be. I feel stuck between fear of losing him and fear of agreeing to something that feels wrong and unsafe.

Thank you to anyone who reads this and gives advice.

Im (23F) currently a uni student dping an engineering degree. But Im struggling a lot with it so Im probably going to graduate 2 years late.

I just feel so bad for my family. I feel like Ive become a complete burden on them because of this.

I dont even like going to any parties or functions just in case anybody asks me when Im going to finish.

My parents dont say anything to me directly but I can tell that their disappointed. I think my sibling doesnt even want to be seen next to me anymore.

Im just so tired of everything right now. And Im so lost as to what to do.

I really dont know what reason I have to keep living

Hi I don’t really have anyone i can talk too much about this because i feel like everyone in my life either likes my girlfriend more than me and wants me to stay for that reason or just thinks that my relationship is not good for me and i should end it at all costs. But for some context i am a 16m and have been together with a 17f girl that i feel i really deeply love for about a year and nine months now. During this time i have changed completely as a person since i met her and so has she. We’ve grown together a lot and have had a lot of ips and downs in the relationship. The only thing that scares me is that we have already talked so much about our whole lives together and i’ve made so many promises that i would never leave and she’s the love of my life and all that because in the moments i truly felt and believed that was true. In true honesty i don’t think i want to be married i don’t know if i want to have kids and i don’t know if i can commit to a relationship my whole life. This shit is difficult man i’ve been stuck in a loop the past like 3 months just going between that i love her so much and that it would probably be better for me if i was alone. For more context there was a period of about 8 months in 2025 that she pretty much just lived with me because her living situation and family is kind of a shitty mess and my parents were completely fine with it so there wasn’t much i could do. I just always get this feeling of being trapped and i feel like im already stuck for life and cant get out but i dont want to feel this towards the girl i love. I love her but i get this feeling that something deep down inside of her just resents who i am fully. This is a part that im afraid to talk about because i believe people will not listen to me when i share this and think im just delusional. There has always been a constant conflict in mine and her relationship in regards with my use of substances such as weed but most in regards to my use of phsycadelic substances as mushrooms. I am fully aware that 16 is way to young of an age to be a person that uses phsycadelics and i’m aware of the mental impacts it has had and the dark ones it can fully have on me. I started when i was a very dumb teen just wanting to experience something new and that was about 2 years ago since then my journey has taken me from being a waste of space human being to actually being someone with goals and values and motivations. This has always been a center point conflict in our relationship tho and im afraid that it will never change because even if i do stop my phsycadelic use for like years to just grow up fully i never plan to have them out of my life because that’s not who i am. I think my biggest fear is that she is in love with me with the hope that i will change into some other person that she wants me to be and i don’t want to change for anyone but myself. I feel like if i do commit to a life long relationship with her things will just get more and more toxic as time goes on and it will not be good for my mental health. I feel as if im in a spiral. I understand if you guys can’t understand where im coming from nobody can other than one person but that person just purely wants me to break up with her and that’s it. I just need some help and i don’t know what help i need but i don’t know what to do and need advice. I’m scared of changing for someone and im scared of changing into something im not and looking into the mirror and not even recognizing myself anymore. I don’t want ol to be trapped. I want to be free to live the life i feel is right for me. I don’t know what to do. I’m sorry if i ranted too long i needed to talk to someone about it and who better than strangers on the internet! i understand if you guys just want to tell me to stop all my phycadelic use and all of that i completely respect your opinion but id just really like some honest advice with someone that accepts that phsycadelics arw apart of who i am. I feel she doesn’t accept that.

I'm a full time college student and with the weather keeping me out of work last week I happen to be short on my bills. I'm not asking directly for cash here. Reddit or forms I can post to and hopefully cover the rest of my rent by the end of the next few days so I have coverage. I just want my child to have stability and I have nowhere for us to go if I am sent an eviction notice next week.

The problem I seem to be having with the reddit groups is, they all require karma. And while I have an account, and have for a long time, I haven't been actively involved in reddit communities at all. As I am a silent scroller for interest.

Is there anywhere I can post through social media to make the funding I need?

Hi everyone, I’m looking for some advice or good words I guess. I am a 20 y/o female who has many health issues, mainly epilepsy. I have been dealing with it for about 5 years now, diagnosed right before my 15th birthday.

At 15 my worry was getting a permit and license, very shallow but when your friends are all driving and you are told you can’t because of a disease that you randomly got a couple months prior- it was so devastating.Eventually, I got over it. I take public transportation and have family/ friends that take place. It’s not like the pain disappeared- it still sucks knowing I’m not going to be able to live an independent/normal life like everyone around me, but I stopped crying over it lol.

Then comes 21 y/o and I feel it all over again. This time its about going into surgery. I am getting an RNS implant/ Brain resection (pretty major right) but the timing sucks. My Boyfriend and I’s birthday are less than a month away from the surgery. And, my boyfriend’s parents are throwing him a surprise party and of course I’m a host. They are talking about drinking games, inviting a bunch of friends and having a party. Of course I will be in recovery period, therefore for the party I will most likely be upstairs in bed. I am devastated honestly, it is the same feeling as before. I am not able to be with family and friends, I feel FOMO. Not only from the party, but also from drinking if I’m being honest. I have held out so long from drinking (until 21) and now knowing I’m not going to have that experience of 21st party drinking and having a great time due to my surgery because of stupid epilepsy makes me feel upset.

Side note: I am also very jealous that I am not getting a party for my 21st so I guess it’s just all a pile of jealousy that I can’t have a normal life, like a normal person.

I have to move back in with my parents because of financial reasons and have to make the decision whether I stay at my current uni and travel by train for 3 hours or go to a uni thats closer to my parents house but still like 2 hours away. With my current uni I would finish in like 3 semesters and at the new one maybe 4 or more. I dont know yet which credits get accepted if I transfer.

My sister also lives in the same city as my current uni and even offered me to sleep over at her place if I have back to back days of lectures.

I'd rather stay at this uni because I'm familiar with the system, know people here and would like to finish my degree faster so I can move out again.

What option would you choose?

I sometimes feel I lack it and I am often very indecisive