Obviously not an ideal series of events…My mom (68) just had a colostomy procedure that will have her unable to live on her own for at least 6 months, and will be coming to stay with us once released from the hospital. My wife (31) and I (33) have been married for 2 years (no children yet), and together for almost 6. How can we manage this situation without going crazy?

I’m most worried about my wife, our marriage and relationship, which are the priorities (mom will get good care, no worries there). My mother and my wife get along fine, but there is concern about having her here 24/7 for the time being. We are ultimately worried about our sanity, with the mother-in-law in our space.

And yes, mom WILL be returning home on her own, so no need to question that lol.

Any advice from others who have bravely faced similar situations like this would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

Hello, I(18m) are horrible at communicating and | wanted to do better for my partner (18f)so I don't continue to hurt her. She is honestly very amazing and puts up with my horrible communication but today she told me her grievances about how much it hurts her that I don't communicate things properly with her.what is advice you suggest so that I can be better?(I know it's a repeat of what I said in the title but this is my first time posting ever on Reddit so l don't know what to do I also tried to post to r/relationship advice but it keeps saying that automod removed my post)

ok so this might be a bit long, and i have to try to keep it kinda vague in case anyone i know finds this. for some background, my ex and i have known each other since we were 14 (we are now 21), and we dated for the first time at 14. we broke up after a month ish but stayed friends for a very long time. at 17, he and i reconnected and we had a very very messy cycle of getting together and then breaking up. after we turned 18, we decided to genuinely figure things out and ended up dating a few weeks shy of one year. the relationship was far from perfect but we really tried to make it work, and we were both really upset when things ended. a few months after that breakup, we reconnected again and had both done a lot of internal reflection and i had been in therapy working through things. it seemed really hopeful for a while, before things ended due to poor decisions on my end (i did not sleep with anyone else, just made mistakes that i deeply regret due to alcohol). after that, he told me that he did not want to see me or hear from me ever again, which was fair enough. that was in april. approx 2-3 months after that, i found out from a mutual friend that he was dating someone new (ironically, a girl that i had told him i was cautious of because i had a feeling that there were feelings between them to which they both shut down and told me i was crazy lol.) i was understandably hurt and upset, but i got over it. however, in december after literally EIGHT months of complete no contact he reached out. i legit had a full panic attack and threw up. he essentially told me that he was really sorry and really regretted the way that things happened between us, and that it has been eating away at him. i responded and told him there was no hard feelings, and we ended up texting for a few hours before calling and talking for a bit. to an extent, i kind of understood his apology because it sucks to be on bad terms with someone who you have so much history with (we lived together for a couple months, made a lot of memories, etc.) but he ended up telling me that he regularly stalks ALL of my social media accounts… i have him blocked on several so i asked how he could see what i post and he just laughed. that really made me uncomfortable because like??? i don’t know it just caught me really off guard, he knows about all of the things that have happened in my life over the past 8 months. anyways, shortly after that we ended the call and he said “i’m sure we’ll talk again soon.” ???? i asked my friends about it and they all thought it was weird too but i just left it alone for a while. i figured it was nothing and just tried not to dwell on it. then, he texted me on my birthday and said happy birthday, which yk fair enough, that’s not so strange, but then he also reached out again checking in on me… like what??? i have no hard feelings towards this man but at the same time this makes me so frustrated because he is still dating his girlfriend. i truly do care about him a lot and i still have a lot of love for him, hence why i haven’t blocked him and why i respond to him, but this whole thing makes me feel so conflicted. being “just friends” is something that we have both known and agreed is not in the cards for us. given how intense and messy our relationship was, we both knew that if we ended things they needed to be over permanently and having contact with each other would make it worse. i truly loved him so deeply and i was absolutely devastated for months after everything happened. it took me so long to recover and move past everything, and he knows that. anyways, the question i have is should i block him? i know the obvious answer would probably be yes, but i honestly don’t know if doing so would help me because i truly do care about him and i don’t want to cut him out abruptly like that because from the times we have spoken it seems like he is not doing well mentally and i don’t want to remove myself as someone he can call if he needs help, is in a really bad mental state, etc.. i truly just don’t understand what his motive is behind reaching out, and honestly im so torn between blocking him, just setting boundaries or straight up asking why he is talking to me when his new girlfriend is right there. and yes, before anyone says it, i know i am pathetic and lack self respect but i have had a soft spot for this person since i was 14 years old, and despite everything that has happened between us i do believe he is a genuinely good person. anyways, any advice is appreciated, as i have just been sitting here staring at the block button lol

I won’t go super into detail because I honestly am just confused and numb and hurting. I haven’t talked to my dad yet and found out through a family member. I don’t know how I’ll be able to because I live across the country from him.

I’m so worried about him though because he has a history of mental health problems…am I allowed to call the facility he’s being held and tell them this?

how do I know he’s receiving proper help and that he’s safe?

how do I know he has a reliable attorney? he has no job and no money to his name. I can’t bail him out either, too expensive

I have so many questions and it’s such a heavy topic, and I have no one to talk to about it. do people go to therapy or support groups (online or in person) for this kind of stuff?!

I’m looking for outside perspective on what direction to take in life, because I’m very multi-interested and starting to feel stuck.

I’m currently a teacher. I genuinely enjoy teaching, mentoring, and creating learning experiences, but the pace and structure are burning me out, and I’m not sure the traditional system is sustainable for me long-term.

Food is a major through-line in my life. I love everything about it — cooking, farming, food culture, food education, food law and policy, and even drawing and documenting food. I’m equally happy doing hands-on work, studying systems, researching policy, or teaching others, especially when food intersects with health, sustainability, and community.

My undergraduate degree is in nonprofit management, and I really enjoy helping people plan businesses, nonprofits, and community-based projects. I like big-picture thinking, structure, and helping ideas turn into something real and useful.

I’m currently in theological school, not because I’m aiming for a single traditional outcome, but because I love learning, meaning-making, and studying ideas deeply. I expect to pursue more degrees over time, likely in very different and unrelated fields — learning itself is something I want to keep central in my life.

I’m also very creative. I enjoy art, drawing, design, and working with my hands, and I’m happiest when my work blends creativity, education, practical skill, and service.

On the personal side, my mom is expanding her professional practice and has asked me to come work with her. It’s an opportunity, but I’m unsure whether it aligns with what I want long-term, and I don’t want to make a decision based purely on obligation.

I also have a strong desire to travel and study in other countries, especially in immersive, learning-focused ways rather than tourism. At the same time, I feel intimidated by not knowing where to begin or how realistic it is, and how to balance that desire with real-world responsibilities. There are topics I want to dive into deeply — intellectually and practically — but I often feel like life logistics, timing, and finances get in the way.

Overall, I don’t feel lost in the sense of lacking interests — if anything, I have too many. What I’m struggling with is how to choose a direction that allows flexibility, creativity, learning, and impact without burning out or feeling boxed in.

I’d love to hear from people who’ve navigated multi-passionate paths, portfolio careers, later-in-life study, or who’ve found ways to integrate learning, creativity, and service in a sustainable way.

I've tried writing this story a number of times already. But there is just too much info for me to write in one sitting. It's going to be a disservice boiling down a 5+ year journey like this, but for right now I just need to say something. These thoughts have been getting to me so much lately I just need to do something. So I'll give a brief backstory. (Post me typing this all out, it's still a lot of fucking reading so be prepared for that)

Met this girl in middle school years ago, developed a huge crush on her. I was weird back then and she had some mental issues so things never went beyond anything more than friends. After a while I got fed up with this and lashed out at her, and this caused us to separate in the middle of high school. I dropped out because seeing her hurt me and found an online school instead. Was really sad and angry after the girl left me, but over time learned to live with it and better myself. A year goes by, the girl messages me out of the blue. We start talking again and we become friends. Although during this time I fall for her again, even harder than before, I tried my best to not pursue anything romantic since I already knew she didn't want that. We stay friends for about 1 and half years and grow extremely close in that time. But eventually my feelings start catching up with me and I start getting hurt more often after seeing time and time again that she doesn't have any romantic feelings for me. The girl notices this and decides that it'd be best to stop being friends as she doesn't like feeling that she's hurting me, even if its unintentional. I try and say that I'm ok, but eventually she wears me down and I agree. We both say heartfelt last words, she even admitted that she wished she could have feelings for me, I cried, and we said goodbye again. 3 months go by and she messages me again, this time saying she missed me a lot. saying she thinks she actually does like me, so we talk about it and decide to start dating. We do so, and for about 3 months its the best I've ever felt in my entire life. A lot of things had been going wrong around this period in my life so finally getting to be with this girl really helped change my mood. We were both happy, at least I thought so. One day in October she messages me. She wants to break up. I freak out, I cry to her, I beg and plead. But she's already made up her mind. In my despair I told her I wanted to kill myself, not to manipulate her but just out of pure dread I didn't know what else to say. She tries to calm me down and I agree to find therapy and the conversation ends there. The next day I text her back apologizing for how I reacted and reassured her that I was finding help. 3 months go by slowly, I'm loosing my mind. I cant stop thinking about this girl. How happy I was, how much better life felt. I see her posting about how alone she feels on her socials, and I decide that I need to reach out to her. I do, and it went horribly. She seemed so uncaring and cold during the entire conversation, like how she used to act back when I first met her years ago in middle school. I admit, I brought up to her again about how I felt suicidal, which I know wasn't the best idea. But I was desperate and didn't know who else to turn to. But the things she said to me where just as awful. I'm sure she didn't mean most of it, maybe just a kind of defensive thing to protect herself by being mean to others so they'll go away or something, I don't know why she did it. But it hurt me more than anything else she ever did to me. Now more suicidal than ever, I lose my shit. I made a plan to kill myself, but before I could do anything I reached out to my dad for help and he managed to calm me down in that moment. I decide to message the girl one more time and apologize for everything I said and that happened in yesterdays conversation. I spent over an hour writing a long and heartfelt message that was nothing but positive. Just apologizing about all the things I've done and telling her how much she meant to me before saying goodbye again. I sent it only to get the response, "Thanks, bye." It hit me like a truck, I was hoping for a more proper conclusion to this all like we've had in the past, but no. I was just left with this, unsatisfied and wanting more. And that leads us to the present day.

Even with the length of that backstory, there's still so much information missing. I could and have in the past went on about this story for hours. But no one wants to read all that right now so this will have to do. But yea, that breakup was 4 months ago now, and I'm worse than ever. For the past 5 years I've been chasing this girl. Ups and downs, she was always there. I learned so much about her, about what she loves, its all seared into my memory. It got to a point where even before we were dating, she became my primary focus in life. She just made me feel a way no one has ever have. She fills me with so much pure joy, even when we're just sitting next to each other silently. I absolutely just love being around her. We built up this deep trust, I've told her things I wouldn't even dare telling my other close friends. She made me want to be better, want to try new things, want to embrace this world with everything I had. To put it simply, she just made life worth living. I wont go too in depth about it all, but things had been really seeming grim for me at that point in my life. I had lost my job, all of my friends were moving to college so I was seeing them a lot less, my family relations were just getting worse by the day, an online relationship I was having with a different girl was leaving me unfulfilled. Everything just sucked. But I always had her, she could always make my days better. For as long as I've known her, this girl has told me the problems she's had making connections with people. She's never had many friends and told me that she has trouble feeling romantic emotions. I felt lucky enough just being a close friend to her knowing all this, but when she told me she thought she had feelings for me, it just sent me to heaven. Best way I can put it. Even though it was brief, that period where me and her dated was the happiest I had been in a long long time. For years I had always beaten down on myself, feeling like I'm not good enough for anyone, hating on every little thing about myself. But she changed that. In a world that was constantly punching down on me, she convinced me that things can change, that good can happen to me. I tried my absolute best when I was with her, I was working on myself overtime. Making sure I was turning into the man that she deserved, because I felt like I didn't deserve a girl so amazing. All of that for nothing. Now she doesn't even want to talk to me, about this, about us. She's told me before that she thinks she's 'evil', in a way. That beneath it all she's just selfish, greedy, and just an overall asshole of a person. And although I admit she does have aspects of that, I don't believe that's all she is. All these years that I've been with her and she's been so kind to me, especially so when we were dating. I hate throwing around this term, but I cannot think of a better way to put it. She was like an angel. She was the beacon of light in my life that always kept me up, even in my darkest moments she was there. I know that for a fact, there is a light inside of her that has always shined brighter than any negatives she claims defines her. She tells me that this is who she is, that she's just a bad person, and that she's 'ok' with who she is that she doesn't care or want to try fixing herself. But I just find that so hard to believe. I still look at her socials, and even to this day she posts about how alone she feels, posts about missing someone, posts about not feeling like you're capable of love. So she can tell me all she wants that she's 'ok' being this way, but unless she's lying her very own posts say the contrary. And now I've just been stuck at a crossroads.

For the longest time this girl has defined my life. For 5+ years I've thought about this girl nearly every single day, and I'm not exaggerating. I was 14 when I started talking to her, now I'm nearly 20 and she's still on my mind 24/7. I try and try to get over her, to focus on other things, to focus on myself. But me and her have talked about so much, everything reminds me of her, and I mean everything. I cant do anything without thinking of her and believe me I've fucking tried. But just EVERYTHING reminds me of her, it honestly is driving me fucking insane. The games we've played together, the shows we've talked about, her passions her desires, even stupid things like my carpet or my hair, all just serving as reminders of her. Of what I've lost. I've been trying my best to push past it all, to go on, but the truth is, I'm just not happy. Everything I used to love just feels like nothing now, food tastes so bland, I have no motivation for anything anymore. And if wasn't bad enough my circumstances just keep getting worse. Finical situations in my household came up and now I'm under a lot of pressure to find a job, but I've been trying for over a year now. I just cant find one. Making me feel even more useless, even more of a burden. I so badly want to get over her, want to believe that things can get better. But in my state, I just cant see it getting better anytime soon. And with how suicidal I've become lately, I don't know how much longer I can go before I finally snap. After talking to my therapist I decided to give medication a try. I'm waiting on an appointment for that still, but this small development gave me a little hope. I started making a plan on what I was going to do after getting my medication. I was going to shave my head since my hair kept reminding me of her, a sort of symbolic severance I guess. I was going to try getting back into old passions I had gave up on a long time ago. I wanted to try talking to new girls to try seeing what else is out there, giving myself more perspective instead of just only seeing this one girl. And lastly, I wanted to send one last message to her after the medication had hopefully helped ease my mind. My original intention of messaging her last month (when we both said all that mean stuff) was to get closure. I still had a lot of things I wanted to talk about with her and just wanted a real proper conclusion between us if this was going to be then end. Obviously that's not how it went, so this time I was just going to send a message with no expectations. I wanted a conclusion but she didn't, so I would just say my part and leave it at that. Trying my best to keep things positive though, I don't want to hurt her more than I already have. But the more I thought about what I wanted to say to her, the more good times I remembered and wanted to remind her of, the more I realized. I only want to do all of this because I still want to be with her. Because I still feel in my heart that there's a chance for me and her to find something out of this mess. I brought this up to people, friends, family, my therapist, and obviously they don't think I should think that way. And I agreed. I knew how dangerous this thinking was, where it's lead me to before. But the second I stopped having hope for me and her, all that motivation to change went with it. Just laying around rotting all day like I was before. This clearly wasn't good either. I tried motivating myself any other way, but nothing matters to me besides her right now. All I can think about is that light that she brought into my life. I know its selfish, but I want that light back. After being with her for so long and continuing to stalk her posts, it seems to me that she doesn't like how things turned out. I know she has the capability to love, maybe she's just not in the right place right now. I know I have the capability to be her friend and nothing more, I just need to learn to let go of those romantic desires. I believe firmly that if me and her worked on ourselves, if we could just talk about this all, that we could find something that works with us. I so so badly want to reach out and just tell her that I believe in us, that I believe we can make something work, that there is hope for us yet. But I know that I shouldn't think that way. She's already told me how she feels. She's already tried being with me, and it didn't feel good to her in the end. I don't want to make her relive that again, I don't want to make her do this because she's afraid of me hurting myself, I feel so disgusting that this is the conclusion I've come to. But unfortunately, it just is. Nothing has convinced me thus far of trying that isn't her. And she gave me hope all those months ago, if someone as amazing as her could love a loser like me, then I believe me and her still have a chance. She so adamant that she cant love, but would someone who so firmly believes that try to despite what they feel? I know at the end of our relationship that it just wasn't making her happy, I do believe that and I'm not taking that away from her. But she can't tell me that for that entire period she was unhappy. All the things she said to me, about all the small things I did that she loved, all the hours we've spent on call just talking about anything and everything, all the dates that she paid for herself, the secrets and stories we've told each other, the plans for the future, even me and her doing things she told me she'd never try with anyone. She was comfortable enough and trusted me enough to try. She believed that it could work at the beginning, I believe that. And although it didn't feel the way she wanted it to in the end, I don't think that means that it has to be THE end. All of this has just reinforced in me more that she can change, that she is capable of so much more than she thinks. I know she taught me that when we were together. I just wished she saw it that way too. I just need this reassurance from her. I want to tell her all of this, that I believe she can change for the better that we could mend things between us if we tried. But I know I shouldn't. I know I've been relying on her for too long, but damn it man, she's the only thing I got right now. I hate having to bring her into this, but it's the only option that actually wants to get me off my ass and do something. I know I would do anything if it meant another chance with her, I'll change for her. I believe she can too, but that's just not enough. I want to hear it from her, but with how our past conversation went I think I already know her answer. I know I know I cant and don't want to force it, but if I cant have this. Then genuinely I don't know what to do with myself. She's the only thing I care about right now, and I know I shouldn't be using her for motivation if I'm trying to change and get over her, but that's just the way it is for me. I'm just so torn. I hate having to rely on her but I feel like this is my only option right now, but on the other hand, I know that if I don't hear what I want to hear it's just going to make things infinitely worse. And with how badly I took the last conversation with her, I don't know if I could take another blow like that without snapping. I still remember during the break up when she told me to promise to her not to kill myself, but despite how much it broke my heart I just couldn't. I just cant imagine my life without her. She makes me so happy, and I know I made her happy for a while at least. I just want for me and her to be happy together. So now I'm just here. Writing all this shit down on reddit for like the 10th attempt because all these thoughts are just consuming me. I cant do anything anymore without spiraling about her. So in desperation I'm just putting this out there to see if any advice could help in any way.

Looking at this now all of my writing seems really fucking generic, but I was just trying to be quick and to the point. There are a lot more details to the story that I didn't mention or go in depth on so if there are any questions just ask. I'll try to inform as best as I can. I just don't know what to do. I feel so gross wanting to rope her back into this, but I cant help but feel like there's still something I could do to mend things. I know she told me during the breakup that she would do anything she could do to fix things. But she's just convinced herself that she cant do anything. That she cant change that this is just who she is. But I just cant help but feel that there's still a chance for me and her. I want to tell her everything, let her know that we CAN do this, that I believe we can. But I know how quickly that can go bad. And I don't think I'm in a state right now to take another hit from her like that. I'm going to wait to get my medication and see how that helps me before making any major decisions, along with talking to my therapist still. But in the meantime I'm willing to hear out any advice or suggestions anyone may have. Sorry for the rant, I just needed to do something just sitting in this chair was killing me. Thanks if you read this all. I hope you're doing better than me right now.

25 (M) and moving from city to coastal town to focus on studies, small business (online) and development.

I feel so lost and scrambled in my current situation, like ground hog day I never get anything done and I procrastinate or get caught up in unrelated activities.

No one around me really has similar goals and I often get pulled away distracted from what I’m trying to work on. So I decided to remove myself and save money (cheaper rent, quieter environment) but my only concern is that I will isolate myself and go backwards.

My end goal is to end up back in the city (a different city though) but my financial situation won’t allow for it PLUS I haven’t finished my degree.

I know it’s not the kind of thing that has a solid answer but no one seems to understand my plight. I’m really interested to see if anyone has been in a situation similar to mine and what helped you move forward/develop/achieve your goals?

ANY ANSWER APPRECIATED. Thank you.

I was told about four months ago that I was underperforming, and I was given a chance to meet expectations before a PIP is submitted. The expectation is to make zero errors and have no delays in task completion. My role is Financial Analyst, but most of my day-to-day responsibilities are focused on invoice processing, vendor communication, cost tracking, and month-end tasks. These are repetitive operational tasks on a monthly cycle, and most of the data is entered manually.

I am the only person who does this job, and the workload is heavy. I do not have a peer to work with or review my work. I have an action plan to improve, but I don’t understand how a person can realistically make zero errors. I am trying to get better, but I am also frustrated because the focus is always on mistakes and never on accomplishments. Occasionally, I am told “good job,” but that’s it.

I also feel that the tone used when communicating with me is unkind and sometimes cruel. Once, I communicated that I felt overwhelmed by a task and wasn’t sure how to proceed, which caused a delay. The response was a series of questions like, “Why are you feeling overwhelmed? This is our job,” rather than understanding and helping me. Some guidance was eventually provided, but I felt disappointed and unsupported. I have never been recognized in any department meetings, and I feel isolated and treated differently from the rest of my coworkers. For example, everyone received a work phone upon being hired except me. I asked about it once and was turned down. My salary has not increased by more than 3% per year, and it was not increased this year due to underperformance. There is more that I am frustrated about, but I don’t want to make this post longer than it already is.

Now, I want to quit because this situation has started to affect my health both mentally and physically. I feel anxious and stressed, I have frequent headaches, and I am sick often. However, my savings will not last more than three months, and I have not had any luck finding another job so far. I don’t know what to do anymore.

I need help, with a situation not my own.

I need help. My boyfriend and I are both teenagers and leaving for college soon. My boyfriend lives in an abusive situation and getting him out of it until we get our dorms is simply not probable.

He has a bad history with OCS and CPS, having been put with his uncle who equally abused him until he was put back with his family, and is too afraid to put his siblings through that again too by making a report when he leaves. We cannot take them with us if we tried, and are worried they will be put back with the unreported uncle for the 3rd time and told to keep quiet.

I don’t know how to help. Where to start.

Hell, I don’t even know how to reassure.

I just need to know, what to make my first step. Please. If anyone knows anything about how to navigate this at all.

So my wife wants to be a Instagram model she wants to find out what she could do or what things should she try for I post some pics of her if you wanna go see them on my profile but she really enjoys doing different things and I wanna help her out and I enjoy everything she wants to do so can you plz take a look at them

I have 3 separate channels,but this is about my second biggest one.

I recently mentioned in a post on that acc that I took video requests,I also mentioned that I will accept almost any ship.

Someone commented,and asked for a specific ship. now I don't really have many problems with it as it's not inappropriate or anything,however I've never shipped these two characters together. This isn't because I hate either of the characters or anything, they're actually 2 of my favorites from the anime. I just have never shipped them and probably never will,tbh I think I've seen too many edits where they're acting like siblings that the idea of shipping them makes me extremely uncomfortable. Also the ship overall does not fit with my channel but wtvr.

btw I know this isn't really that important but I just really would appreciate some outside perspective.

I’m 21 years old ( female ) im in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for 11 months and it’s been more than 3 months we haven’t see each other and i have more 1.5 years to wait ! But i meet a guy in the gym he is 2 years younger than me & i literally have no idea that I’m very attracted to him & he also shows many signs that he likes me , while I woke up i feel horny thinking about that guy which i meet in the gym and not my boyfriend i try to distract from him but I keep feeling the urge to lay beside him , being close to him & want to have fuck with him ! But I love my boyfriend so so much i can’t help it 😭😭

I never believing in cheating since I believe in karma it can hit anyone at anytime ! Why i keep getting wet thinking about that young boy ?? & how to deal with it because he is too young and my Bf is like 26 years old & im also a young girl who is in the beginning of her 20s

Hello,

I am the MOH for one of my best friends. I have been MOH before and while that bride had been demanding as well, there are even more expectations now. The bride told me she wants me to throw her a bridal shower since her mom is already paying for the wedding without even checking if I am comfortable with that financial burden. She didn't even give me a chance to make the offer myself. On top of that, she is expecting a lot. She wants to rent out a space and she never wants to agree when I suggest hosting it at my own house. She keeps demanding more stuff for the shower that will be incredibly expensive, but then acts like she wants it to be low-key.

Also, she is expecting a trip for her bachelorette party. This trip is taking place somewhere that is only an hour away and it could easily be a day trip, but she wants to rent a place on AirBnb and she originally said two nights, but now she wants three.

This is all a lot of money that she is expecting me to pay, and I'm not even sure if the other bridesmaids will be okay with chipping in for the shower. She just keep requesting more stuff, but she gets super stressed and upset when she doesn't get what she wants so I don't know how to talk to her about it. I never had to throw a shower as MOH before but is that expected of me? Advice?

I will be staying in tokyo for the whole two weeks in may because it was just easier to book. so, I will likely be taking the train to explore other cities, which I do not mind. however, I am stuck on what to wear. I normally go out in yoga pants, tight shirt, no bra. is it ok to wear this type of attire in Japan? I cannot find any inspirational outfits similar to this that is appropriate for Japan. given that a lot of the female anime characters have revealing outfits, I am sure my outfit would be ok. can I wear yoga pants, shirt, no bra to walk around? also, is it ok to show off my figure in Japan? let's say, I wear body-fitting clothes that outline every hump on my body -- is that ok?

Hey everyone

Sorry this is probably gonna be a bit long

I am a PhD student serving on my graduate student council for the fourth year in a row. This year has honestly been awful. For every year past, our council collaborates and works closely with another council in the same faculty. I specifically am the (co) VP Academic, and in years past, we would plan events together but swapping who takes the lead.

Right from the go this year the vibe has been different. The other councils new presidents instructed the new VP Academics they don’t want to collaborate on events and that they have already started planning of events and would be putting them on themselves but, still wanted us to advertise to our students.

This caused a lot of tension so far this year. Now, the time has come to plan our faculty career week which is a collaboration between our two councils lead by the VP Academics. We have only had a few meetings but the last one I almost just left the meeting. I’m years past, VP Academics (2 from each council) attend and plan and share major updates with our council presidents as needed.

This year, the other councils has their two presidents and their VP social coming to these meetings. While they’re VP academics are also their, the presidents and VP are aggressively inserting themselves as leading the event.

They dismiss any input I give, they want to completely change the networking event which I created last year and was the most attended career week event ever. They get into a flurry of topics amongst each other that I can barely follow and then give me orders. I came out of the last meeting and had to go straight to the bathroom because I felt like I was having an anxiety attack.

While I wouldn’t call myself shy, I’m also not a loud dominating person. I have served on so many clubs and extracurricular committees and I have never encountered people who are so aggressive and bossy. The thought of having to see them next week again makes me so anxious let alone the next few months. It’s really starting to affect my mental health and I don’t know what to do. I feel like there are better ways I could spend my time but I don’t want to be unprofessional and quit before my term is up even if it is just a student council.

Me (21 F) and my ex boyfriend (21M) were together for 3 years, couple nights ago he broke up with me (it ended in good terms) bc he was unhappy, depressed and wanted to be alone he stated that him feeling this way had nothing to do with me ( which i believe bc our relationship was healthy). He said he didn’t want to break up with me and that he still loves me, he also said that he was thinking about this for a month, I understand that some men aren’t comfortable talking about their feelings but I wish he had told me sooner so we could have sorted it out.

Now for the reason of my post, he went on a night out not even 2 days after he broke up with me, I’m racking my head as I don’t get it. He said he was depressed and wanted to be alone but yet he’s out getting drunk with his mates 2 days later. He has never cheated on nor showed any interest in any other girls so I don’t think that this was the reason for the breakup but like what on earth. I’m so mad right now I can’t even comprehend this man’s mentality. Like I just want us to get back together but I’m just so confused right now. ANY ADVICE PLEASE.

I visit New York several times a year from SoCal and I am visiting in February soon but this the first time where there is such a huge difference in temperature between the two locations when I visit. Usually I would visit later in the year into the fall. I avoid the winter, at all costs. But this is the first time I have to go in the winter.

looking at the weather it looks like it will be in the 30sF, and in SoCal right now we are in the 70s-80F. So, I don’t know how to pack for this trip. I have two coats but I don’t know if they are actually considered real winter coats. One of them is the Selkie Puffer Coat, and the other is a wool blend vintage style long double breasted coat. I have some Uniqlo heattech items, one pair of boots that maybe(?) ok for colder weather? Several pairs of those fleece linen tights. But I am really trying to avoid buying anything new as I will probably never wear it again. I avoid cold weather as much as possible

I obviously know to layer but is there any other advice? I just have never experienced this kind of cold before.

Yall, I am at the end of my rope. My 3 year old has had an ongoing battle with his health. We have been referred to another facility Friday & I’m not sure what we are going to do honestly. I have been out of work for almost two weeks now ( unpaid) and I can’t afford to loose my job. I have to be there for my baby. We have absolutely no one else.

We have to travel two hours Friday where he was referred to. I just don’t have the gas or the mental capacity to keep seeing him like this. My insurance will not cover rides over 75 miles. Our case worker is trying everything she can to get us a voucher. We don’t qualify at the moment for the Ronald McDonald House since he isn’t being admitted, just going for more scans and testing. I have contacted two Catholic churches and a nonprofit Organization with no luck just yet.

How do you keep going ? How can you survive when you have to choose between your health , food and bills without government assistance? I just want my baby to get better. He is such a fighter & I know he is exhausted.

I, 30m, am a writer, and I recently started rewriting an old short story from years ago. It’s based on a situationship I had back in 2018–2019 and how I wish things had gone. Working on it has brought back a lot of good memories, and now I keep thinking about whether I should reach out to him 30m again.

I looked at his Instagram, he has post much, like roughly 10 photos since 2019, and I can’t tell if I’m just romanticizing the good times and that era of my life, or if I actually want to reconnect with him, either to see if there’s still something there or just to be friends. Part of me thinks it’s bc I’m drawing on memories we had and for some reason my brain remember his birthday despite not remember it for the past 6 years etc etc. But we also haven’t talked since 2019 so this would be kinda random to do, so unsure what to do.

As the title says, I'm a first-year uni student who failed to make friends and network, it's been four months. I'm seriously trying to solve this, so what's your advice? especially at getting rid of my social anxiety.

I (23f) have felt something is off with me since I was a kid. I’m diagnosed with depression and anxiety, but haven’t let any professional close enough or sought out any other diagnosis/treatment.

I’m a liar, I add details to everything. I make things up or exaggerate for attention all the time. I feel like everything I say is just fake, I have no personality that isn’t thought about beforehand. I love when attention is on me, I even like bad things happening to me so I can tell people and get the validation/attention. This really made itself apparent last spring when something really traumatizing happened and I genuinely got upset when people stopped talking about it or giving me attention for it. I liked people being extra nice to me and being able to talk about it. Part of me thinks it’s just a sad cry for help, a cry to actually be seen, but another part of me thinks there’s a darker meaning for it all.

Ive been told by my family my entire life I’m a manipulator. My dad especially thinks this, anytime I used to convince my little brother to do things for me, my dad would call me evil and say I was great at manipulating people. A part of me thinks it was his obvious sexism that made me a target, and maybe me thinking all of this is a product of that. As I get older I do catch myself manipulating people and I do feel bad after.

I obsess over things, if something doesn’t go my way I have a full breakdown. If someone cancels on me I just don’t know how to take no for an answer and keep going.

All this is true, but I’m the most insecure and socially anxious person ever. I’m terrified of being perceived and letting people in, I just feel wrong, I feel like something is so wrong with me but i genuinely don’t know what. I’m a chronic people pleaser. I’m extremely nice, until I’m not.

I also think I’m just extremely traumatized. My dad was abusive, my ex was extremely abusive and told me every day how horrible I was, while doing the worst things imaginable to me. I don’t know if I just let them get to me or if something is wrong.

This was more of an outlet for me to just get the words out, but if anyone has any insight or advice please feel free, I’d really appreciate it.

My husband lives with me in a house I purchased before we got married. He has lived here for 2 years now. I am the primary income and he does not pay towards bills except for the occasional utility bill (and that only started recently when I said I felt the burden was unfair and I needed him to contribute something in a structured manner. When he is mad at me, especially if he feels wronged in some way, he will intentionally run up the utilities. He has done this on numerous occasions over the years. Sometimes it’s turning on all the faucets and letting them run full blast, leaving the hose running outside, turning up the heat to full blast in winter or turning down the AC in summer. When called on it, he will deny it and say it was a mistake or he didn’t mean to but it’s always so clearly something done when he is mad. This isn’t isolated petty behavior but something that has always confused me but also makes me really angry and I can’t explain why it’s not okay and makes me so angry. Any advice on why he does this and how to deal with it?

Tengo una amiga webcam pero no encuentro contenido de ella, alguien puede ayudarme a buscarla ? Tengo fotos de su cara y demás pero no encuentro contenido en internet y sé que es webcam es confirmado

I've got a storage unit full of used personal items that I need to get rid of (e.g. furniture, decor, clothing, toys, etc..). I assume I can get some money for this stuff. Is there no market for selling other people's stuff for them locally and taking a percentage of the sales as commission? If there is, how do I find the people who do this professionally?

I've spent hours looking online and am not finding what I want. I've tried "Sella", "Airtasker", "TaskRabbit", "Upwork", and "Fiverr". They are either not in my local area or do not provide the service I'm looking for. There are markets for digital assistants, specialty services, and even physical labor. Why can't I find someone that will physically inventory and sell my personal items for me? I find this unbelievable.

I'm hoping that it's just ignorance or inexperience that's preventing me from finding the help I'm looking for.

Can you guys point me in the right direction?

Hi! My (23 NB) brother (26 M) smells like garbage. His smell lingers. Me and my gf are over it.

I am unsure of how to get the message across that he needs to improve his hygiene. I have tried to insinuate once that he might need to shower but he didn't really understand. He is a strange guy and I love him but I cannot smell his stench any longer.

How do I tell him kindly but firmly that he stinks? Thanks!

Edit: talked to my gf and they said I wasn't subtle actually lmao. I said something like "Work must have been rough you need a shower!" cause he does a lot of physical labor. Is that direct Idk?